Text | Miss Bai has an old saying that nine out of ten things in life will be unsatisfactory. Regrets and dissatisfaction are normal in life, and the same is true in relationships. It's not easy to meet someone you love. Although they are attracted to each other at first and are

Text | Ms. Bai

As the old saying goes, nine out of ten things in life will be unsatisfactory.

Regret and dissatisfaction are normal conditions in life, and the same is true in relationships.

It is not easy to meet someone you love. Although they are attracted to each other at first and are like glue, but as they gradually get to know each other, it is inevitable that there will be disputes and differences.

In fact, this is normal, but two people who are angry are likely to quarrel and stop contacting each other in anger.

The truly suitable person has a deep connection. If two people still have these three feelings after breaking off the relationship, it is probably true love, and they will get back together sooner or later!

will reflect on their own mistakes

It is almost impossible to calm down two people who are angry.

The difference is that when someone who doesn't love you quarrels with you, it's all to vent his emotions, shout out all his usual dissatisfaction with you, and use it to attack you.

He spent a few extra dollars to buy milk tea, which he kept in mind; after dinner, he watched more TV series, and he immediately said you were lazy. Their purpose was not to solve the problem, but to annoy you as soon as possible and find excuses. break up with you.

People who truly love you will also quarrel with you, but will not attack you with words. Maybe you want to lose weight and go on a diet too much, and he is worried about your health, or maybe you stay up late and work overtime, so he advises you to explain to your boss because he is worried about your hard work.

Although they are well-intentioned, when they are annoyed, they will lose their temper and blame them for not understanding themselves.

After calming down after disconnecting, I realized that the other person just felt sorry for me. My lover would also realize that there was something wrong with my way of expression. If I use another method next time, it might be easier to be accepted.

If two people have this idea, it is easy to get back together. Maybe all it takes is a seemingly casual greeting or a simple emoticon on WeChat to get back together.

I don’t want to throw away the other person’s things

Recently I saw such a question on the Internet.

After breaking up, would you throw away the things left by the other party?

Netizen @小成classmate said:

"What are you still doing after we broke up? I will make trouble for myself when I see it. When she walks in front, I throw all her clothes into the trash can."

@月walker said:

" I keep the decorative paintings and green plants he left behind, and the green plants are more lush than before. We broke up just because we felt it was not appropriate to be together, and we did not become enemies who never knew each other. "

There is an idiom called ". "Seeing things and missing people" means that when you see your lover's things, you can't let go of her.

If a person truly lets go of you in his heart, then he will definitely not cherish everything you left behind.

On the one hand, he doesn’t want to have anything to do with you anymore, and on the other hand, he doesn’t want his new love to see him and cry and quarrel.

If a person still misses you in his heart, he will carefully preserve everything you left behind.

Whether it is a green plant, a pair of slippers, or even the checkout receipt from a meal together, he will cherish it because of the beautiful memories he has with you. When

met the latter, the disconnection was just a small episode on the road between two people getting along. As long as you meet again and see that the other person still retains something you cherish, you will naturally let go of the previous quarrels and the relationship will be deeper than before.

Do not accept other people’s overtures yet

Under normal circumstances, after a couple breaks up, after a period of emotional buffering, they will let go of their ex and embrace a new life, without any psychological burden.

But there is another kind of person who will not give others a chance even if a long time has passed after disconnection.

Whether it is an introduction from a relative or a gathering of friends, you can refuse if you can, and shirk if you can. You may say that you are too busy with work and have no time to look for someone else, but in fact, you cannot let go of your ex at all in your heart.

I always feel that my fate with the other person is not yet fulfilled, so I will try my best to give myself and the other person a chance.

Both of them have this idea. When they meet again, they can immediately know what the other person is thinking as long as they see that the other person is still single.

Mark Twain said:

"Time flies and life is short. Don't waste your time arguing, apologizing, being sad and blaming. Use your time to love, even if it is only for a moment, don't let it down."

There are many things in the world. Things can be achieved through hard work, but fate is the most difficult thing to find.

In the vast sea of ​​​​people, how many people have missed a partner who can accompany them throughout their lives because of a temporary dispute, and how many people have stopped taking the initiative after missing it, leaving behind a lifetime of regrets.

Never think that if you lose the person you love now, you will meet a better one in the future. Once some fate is missed, it can never be recovered.

light up "looking at" , the people in front of you are the most worth cherishing, don't wait until you miss it to regret it, don't wait until you have been hurt to know how to cherish it. Thousands of sails have passed and growing old together is the greatest romance.

✎Author: Ms. Bai, a working woman, writes warm and powerful words, shares a meaningful life with you, accompanies you to grow, and accompanies you to be strong. The new book " Live the way you want " is now on exclusive pre-sale on Dangdang .