In daily life, we often hear people say such a sentence: "A knife's mouth is like a tofu's heart." Under what circumstances does this sentence mostly appear? So, this makes people wonder why kind-hearted people like to go What about hurting others?

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In daily life, we often hear people say this sentence: "The mouth of a knife is like the heart of tofu."

Under what circumstances does this sentence mostly appear? This is what other people often say when they excuse the "violator" after we have been hurt by someone's verbal violence.

Advisers often say, don't take it seriously, he has no ill intentions, he is just a sharp mouth but a tofu heart. In other words, that person is still very kind in nature.

So, this makes people wonder, why do kind people like to hurt others? Is he really kind?

We have heard this a lot since we were young. Sometimes when we are embarrassed by others, we often comfort ourselves like this in our hearts. I thought to myself: Maybe he really has a sharp mouth and a soft heart.

However, as long as it is a knife, it will definitely hurt someone. If you stab it with a knife, your heart will definitely hurt.

Some arrogant people may realize it after hurting others, and then take the initiative to talk to others with nice words. Others will not care about them afterwards, as if "everything is over", but the scars on the soul But there is no way to make up for it.

I heard a story before: a child had a very bad temper. He always lost his temper when playing with his friends, always quarreled with others, and often said bad words to others.

As time went by, the children who had been hurt by him gradually did not like to play with him. He was very confused and asked his father what was going on. He said that I was not a bad boy, why didn't everyone like me. After every fight, I apologized to them.

His father picked up a wooden board and told him that when you play with others in the future, every time you lose your temper, you must drive a nail on this board. You will know why later.

After a while, the child found that there were more and more nails on the board. There were already dozens of nails, and there was almost no room to hammer new nails into the board.

His father told him that if you don't lose your temper for a whole day, you can pull out a nail.

As the days passed, he gradually pulled out all the nails on the board.

After he pulled out all the nails, his father asked him what he saw. The child said: "The board is full of holes."

His father said to him: "Yes, every time you hurt someone else, it is equivalent to stabbing someone in their heart." You made peace with him later and pulled out the nail, but the scars you left on others can never be removed.”

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Some time ago, my old classmate Chen Yang (pseudonym) came to see me. Drink and say you want to chat with me.

While drinking, I could tell he was in a very low mood. When I was in school, I felt that this classmate was a very sunny person, and he always walked in a hurry.

At that time, he felt that he was quite ambitious. He said that he would never be willing to live a mediocre life, otherwise he would feel that his life was meaningless.

After graduating from college, Chen Yang's first job was in a public institution. The income was not too high, but it was very stable. After working for a few years, he said that he really didn't like that kind of unchanging life. It was really boring to be a monk and clock the clock every day, and today he could see what he would look like in a few decades.

He said that although the unit was not big, he felt that he had to live cautiously every day, scheming for benefits of a few hundred dollars all day long. There are many bastards in Chi Qian. Maybe one day you may offend someone with a careless word or action, and you may not be able to get over it for several years.

Later, Chen Yang simply quit the "iron rice bowl" that many people considered good, and moved to a big city with his wife to find other jobs. His wife was a colleague in the previous unit, and neither of them liked that job. In the early years of

, his work was not going well. Working in a private enterprise, it was difficult to get ahead all of a sudden.

Her wife studied a better major, it is easy to find a job, and her income is not bad.

After leaving the public institution, Chen Yang found that many things were not as simple as he originally thought. The major he studied in college is almost useless in society. Not many companies want people with that major, so he can't find a good job at all. It can be said that after leaving that public institution, his university degree no longer meant much to him.

In the years since he came out, he has changed many jobs, often changing jobs not long after he started. I asked him why, and he said that his wife thought he made less money and asked him to change his job.

I know Chen Yang’s wife Wang Zi (pseudonym). I feel that she is a relatively strong woman who always does things vigorously and resolutely.

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Chen Yang said that in the first few years, he also felt that his wife was very courageous in doing things and liked to listen to her opinions. But slowly, Chen Yang discovered that his wife always liked to arrange everything for him.

Chen Yang said that Wang Zi always felt that her husband was inferior to her and she had to listen to her in everything. Wang Zi always dismissed Chen Yang and refused to listen to whatever thoughts he wanted to express. As soon as Chen Yang spoke, Wang Zi would frown and say impatiently: "Okay, okay, stop talking!"

Sometimes I go out to have a meal with friends or relatives, no matter how I sit, Wang Zi has requirements for her husband. . Either he couldn't sit straight, or he shook his legs while sitting on the chair, or he spread his legs, which would attract Wang Zi's reprimand.

Chen Yang said that Wang Zi rarely listens to her own opinions. When talking to her, no matter what point of view you want to express, her first sentence will definitely be the words "no" and "no", and then she will start to explain her opinions. View. "No, no" has almost become her mantra.

Chen Yang found that sometimes her opinions were basically consistent with her own, but she still had to deny other people's ideas in her first sentence, and then express her own opinions.

Chen Yang said that as time passed, he found that no matter what he said, it was always wrong. From the beginning to the end, he never did anything that satisfied Wang Zi.

Wang Zi often criticized Chen Yang in front of relatives or outsiders, which made Chen Yang feel very humiliated. Chen Yang said that when he was with her, he was always worried that there was something wrong with him.

Once Chen Yang got angry for some reason. Wang Zi accused Chen Yang in front of everyone outside: "I have no ability, but I have a bad temper!"

Many times when we come back from meeting friends outside, Wang Zi He started to scold Chen Yang, saying that there was something wrong with Chen Yang's words, that he shouldn't have said that, etc.

Every time Wang Zi accompanied his wife back to her parents' home, Wang Zi would always find something wrong with Chen Yang. Either there was a problem here or there was a problem there.

Chen Yang said that he is always nervous when he is with Wang Zi and is always worried about making mistakes. As time went by, he slowly became less fond of talking.

Wang Zi always told Chen Yang that she said that to him and asked him that all day long, for his own good and to make him grow up faster. Wang Zi said, I am the one closest to you who can speak to you. Who else in this world would say this about you all day long except me. But Chen Yang felt that every word she said was like a sharp knife stabbing into his heart, drawing blood.

Chen Yang said that now he always feels that he is useless, and he feels that his life in this world is unnecessary.

I can also feel it now. A young man who was so popular in the past has now become a taciturn middle-aged man.

Chen Yang said that Wang Zi always thought he was slow to make money. He said that after changing jobs for a few months and seeing no improvement, Wang Zi stopped letting him work. Wang Zi often makes plans for him and asks him to do whatever he wants.

If Chen Yang disagrees with Wang Zi's point of view, Wang Zi will scold him: "You have the ability, but where is the money? How much money have you made over the years?"

Chen Yang said that in fact, after they resigned from the public institution, Wang Zi made some money in the first few years. Later, Wang Zi felt that it was too slow to make money through part-time work. She always wanted to make quick money, so she started to take on some inexplicable projects, and once even lost hundreds of thousands.

Wang Zi often complained to Chen Yang, saying that her classmates have now bought two houses.He said that his cousin was much worse at studying than he was when she was a child, and she also married a rich man.

Chen Yang said that Wang Zi always wanted to "train" him into the man in her mind, and she had to teach him how to deal with others and how to speak. No matter what the occasion, as long as he is with Wang Zi, Wang Zi will definitely be able to find out his faults afterwards.

Chen Yang said that he feels that Wang Zi has never respected his own ideas for so many years, and feels that it is unnecessary for him to have a brain, because everything must be according to Wang Zi's arrangements. No matter what he says, Wang Zi will be skeptical, but similarly, Wang Zi will listen to what others say.

Chen Yang said that if there were any differences between the two parties, Wang Zi would get angry at every turn. Wang Zi often talks to herself as domineeringly as if she were interrogating a prisoner.

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Chen Yang said that he knew that he was not the kind of well-rounded person who could get rich overnight as Wang Zi expected. He was the kind of person who was suitable for being down-to-earth and doing things honestly. He had done so many jobs, and if he could do it If I keep doing this kind of work for a long time, it will never be what it is now.

Every time he changed jobs before, he was always worried, maybe one day Wang Zi would not let him do it again. He said that he had seen so many people over the years, but not many people made a fortune within a few months of work. Many of the big guys he knows from all walks of life are veterans who have been working in the same field for more than ten years.

Wang Zi often said to him, I only say it to you for your own good. But Chen Yang felt that he didn't even have the right to say a word for so many years, because whatever he said was wrong.

Wang Zi, is she the kind of person that many people think of as "a sharp mouth but a tofu heart"? She kept saying she was good for Chen Yang all day long, but Chen Yang felt that he was so suppressed that he could hardly breathe.

Chen Yang said, Wang Zi always feels like she is the savior, as if I can't live without her. According to Wang Zi's opinion, he really didn't know how he survived thirty years before marrying her.

Chen Yang said that he would never listen to Wang Zi again and that he had not spoken to her for a long time. From now on, he will live according to his own ideas and do what he likes. Regardless of whether he will succeed in the future, he will always give it a try. If he continues to follow Wang Zi's "plan", he can foresee that he will never have a chance to succeed in this life. As for Wang Zi, I will never listen to a word from her again, just love her as you please.

Alas, how can I comfort him when things have reached this point. No matter what, people must live according to their own ideas, regardless of success or failure, otherwise they will leave regrets until they die.