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Regardless of whether it is ancient or modern, marriage must pay attention to being well-matched. The so-called mismatch not only refers to family background, but also means that the ages of the two people should complement each other.
The age difference is too big. Not only will the thinking between the two people have a certain impact, will also be criticized in society. Although society is currently open and older people are gradually accepting love, it will still It will have a certain impact on itself.
"Why do old cows like to eat young grass?" Most of them come from people's "desire to conquer" and want to be the most capable person in the other person's heart. The desire to conquer mentioned here is not only material, but also a kind of desire. Appreciation of spirit.
Among the sensory enjoyment brought by "old cows eating young grass", perhaps the more joyful one is the physiological aspect, because this is the first stage of human emotion.
And regardless of gender, the "old cow"'s desire to conquer the "young grass" is based on wanting to sleep with the other person in the initial stage. This desire comes from the conquest of the other person's body. When they There will be a kind of spiritual comfort after achieving your purpose.
Because "sex" is not only a way to express oneself, for some people it may even be her spiritual pleasure, which is far higher than the physical pleasure itself. This sense of power will give her strong support.
The desire to conquer is not only experienced in men, but also in women, because sex on the other hand also represents power, taboos and excitement.
If a person wants to become strong and be convinced, admired and even respected by others, it is not easy. She needs to pay a lot.
So when a person desires to be spiritually admired by others or conquer others, "sex" may be the easiest way. This idea actually represents a person's inner lack and lack of self-confidence, which needs to be addressed from The outside world will make up for it. This is why "old cows eating young grass" will bring greater physiological pleasure!
As an example, Wu Yuting is actually a very strong woman in everyone's eyes. She has been very strong since she was a child, whether in study, work or life.
Born in a wealthy family, she had no worries about food and drink since she was a child, and received a very good education. She attended many tutoring classes when she was a child, and became "other people's children" in the eyes of others.
After graduating from college, she started a business with a few friends. Unexpectedly, the business was very successful, and the company went public not long after. Her hard work along the way made her very famous in the local area. As a strong woman, she is the dream lover of many men and is appreciated by many men.
But Wu Yuting's husband takes better care of the family than Wu Yuting. She sees her husband doing nothing at home every day, even acting like a nanny, so she becomes more and more displeased. It didn't take long for the two to start living together in different beds.
While partying with friends, Wu Yuting came to the bar to relax. This trip to the bar made her determined to divorce. A bartender at bar is very handsome and interesting. Wu Yuting feels the charm in him that her husband does not have. So Wu Yuting would come to this bar to have a heart-to-heart talk with him almost every day.
Soon Wu Yuting divorced her husband, and she and the boy quickly obtained the divorce certificate. When two people are together, life passes very quickly and life is very harmonious. If there is no spiritual conflict, the two people can still get along well with each other.
But over time, many problems have arisen. Because of the age difference between the two, Wu Yuting is no longer able to have children, but her new husband is still young. Can he not have children for the rest of his life? Gradually, a gap appeared between the two people. In addition to their relatively harmonious sex life, problems in life began to appear slowly.
Wu Yuting also began to wonder if she had made the wrong decision. Is it really the right decision to divorce easily and get married easily? She undergoes tremendous psychological torture every day! There was no understanding and support for each other, and she herself didn't know how long this marriage would last.
Therefore, there will still be a psychological and spiritual distance between ages. Even if "eating young grass" can bring physical and physiological pleasure, the spiritual gap is still real.
Therefore, you must be very careful when choosing to fall in love with someone younger than you. You must not fix your whole life here for your own desires. Any marriage must be carefully and carefully considered, taking into account In the future of two people, don't wait until they are really together to discover that the spiritual gap is the real problem between the two people, because life is a mirror that will reveal the shortcomings of all of us. Only by being cautious can we make a marriage more beautiful. smoothly.
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author | Tommy Da
editor | Wan'an
first psychological writing team | A group of young people who like to look up at the stars
Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).
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