The fate between people is limited. We will meet many people along the way, but not many will accompany us to the end.
Life is like a train. When someone gets on the train, someone will get off. We must learn to say goodbye and embark on a new journey.
How can someone who has disappointed you once disappoint you only once? How can someone who has different views suddenly become a good match again?
I know that you attach great importance to feelings, but whether it is friendship or love, you will be constantly disturbed by it. The more you care about it, the more vulnerable you will be hurt.
Later you find someone who can make you make up your mind to delete them. Even if you get back together later, they will still be separated. For people who can put you on the blacklist, it is best to stay on the blacklist quietly.
Don't let irrelevant people disturb your life anymore. Your time is precious and should be reserved for those who deserve it. It should be used to pamper yourself.
People who have been disconnected for a long time suddenly contact you again for the following three reasons.
Use you as an emotional trash can
There are really people who don’t know how to cherish you when they have you. When they anger you and make you cruelly cut off contact, they still stick to you.
How can he not let you go? It’s just that he can’t bear the convenience you brought him.
Some people are exquisite self-interested people. They never listen to what you say, nor do they care about your mood. They always only care about what they want to express, which is typical selfishness.
Your politeness and propriety cannot win these people's reflection. They will intensify their efforts to find a sense of presence in you and use you as an emotional trash can.
Stop contacting people who make you feel uncomfortable, have no sense of boundaries, and make you cruelly cut off contact.
Even if he suddenly contacts you again, don't imagine that he will change and suddenly learn to respect you. It's just that others ignore him and he has no emotional trash can.
And he just uses you as an emotional trash can. Faced with such a person who has bad intentions and only knows how to bring you negative energy, just delete and block him without giving him a chance to hurt you.
is asking for help from you
Feng shui has changed. Maybe he thought that he couldn’t take advantage of you and thought that you were of no help to him, so he ignored you and stopped contacting you for a long time.
But now that you are in trouble, or you have become rich, I want to take advantage of you and want to hang out with you.
When a friend who has been dead for a long time suddenly contacts you again, it is often not a good thing. They are either asking you to borrow money, or they want you to do other things.
This kind of person who doesn’t usually interact with you, but sometimes thinks of you, or neglects you when you are poor, and fawns over you when you are prosperous, is a snobbish person, so don’t be deceived.
In fact, people quickly know what kind of people are beneficial to be with, so don't imagine that some people care about you emotionally, but they just come back to you because they want something from you.
Use you as a spare tire
A good ex in a relationship should disappear and forget about each other, without getting involved.
Because we have been together, we cannot be friends, so we might as well just cut off contact with each other.
When your ex contacts you back, it’s really not because of unresolved feelings. It’s often because your current relationship has been hurt that he thinks of you and seeks your comfort.
Either you go around in circles and find people who are not as good as you, so you want to turn around.
But someone who truly loves you will never give up on you. Someone who has already given up on you is not worth looking back on.
People who don’t cherish you at the beginning but think of you again after a long circle are often not a change of heart. They only think of you after weighing all aspects and maybe there is no better choice.
Are you really willing to be this kind of person’s backup? Don't waste your youth anymore. People who disappoint you once will only disappoint you again.
It is often not a good thing for your ex to look back. If you are soft-hearted, you will give him another chance to hurt you. You must learn to refuse, which is your responsibility.
Conclusion:
It is probably not a good thing for someone who has been disconnected for a long time to suddenly think of you again.
Don't be easily moved and think that he has not forgotten you and recalled your past, but think more about why you lost contact in the first place.
A true friend or lover will never be separated. There is no need to worry about someone who can leave you. Put away your heavy feelings, put away your nostalgia, he is just looking for you because he is not having a good life now, and he wants to talk to you, complain, or borrow money from you.
Or maybe after going round and round, I still think you are the best and the most selfless to him, and I want to turn around.
In short, you have never been his first choice. If you believe it easily, you will be hurt again. It’s time to wake up.
Be more rational in your relationship to avoid harm. People who have been disconnected should forget each other in the world.
