What do people live for? Some people pursue material prosperity, while others pursue spiritual satisfaction... In the traditional concept, after a person enters society as an adult, he must go out to work to support his parents, family and children, otherwise he will be People sa

What do people live for? Some people pursue material prosperity, while others pursue spiritual satisfaction...

In the traditional concept, after a person enters society as an adult, he must go out to work to support his parents, family and children, otherwise he will die. People will say that they are the legendary gnawing old people.

Some people don’t work because they are lazy, and some people don’t work because they have capital. Even if they don’t go out to work to make money, they can still have enough food and clothing, and they can also take care of their parents, wives, and children.

No matter how you support your family, as long as it makes your life rich, you should not be criticized. Even if the spiritual world is not on the same level, your family should understand them more.

"The woman complained that her husband had not gone out to work for seven years and was a househusband at home every day. But her husband said that I was not short of money, but I was sick when I went to work..."

The heroine's name is Xiaoyan, because her husband Xiaofeng has been around all year round. When she didn't work at home, she had to work in the supermarket to earn a meager income to support the family. For a long time, the couple often had conflicts.

Because of Xiaoyan's accusations and complaints, her husband Xiaofeng filed for divorce angrily. He felt that living together was meaningless, so it was better to let go and let everyone pursue the life they wanted.

Xiaoyan originally just wanted Xiaofeng to go out to work and not stay idle at home all year round. Unexpectedly, Xiaofeng took the opportunity to file for divorce, saying that she no longer wanted to live with Xiaoyan.

The original intention was to spur her husband, but in the end it was self-defeating. Xiaoyan didn’t want to divorce, so she went to the community mediator for help, hoping that they could do some ideological work for her husband so that he would not divorce her!

Xiaoyan told reporters that he and her husband were introduced through a blind date by an acquaintance. Her husband Xiaofeng is a graduate of a well-known medical university, and she is just a factory girl. We had a good impression of him when we first met!

When we first met, I felt very good about him. He was also very hard-working and had a stable job. The two of us quickly entered the marriage hall, and gave birth to our baby in the second year after marriage.

After the child was born, my husband Xiaofeng quit his job in the hospital and focused on raising the baby at home. Since then, he has not gone out to work. I have been working alone in a nearby supermarket to support the family.

The huge changes in her husband made Xiaoyan feel a little at a loss. Every time she mentioned this matter to her husband, he became impatient. After repeated reminders, the conflict between the two deepened, until now Xiaofeng directly filed for divorce.

The mediator went home with Xiaoyan and met her husband Xiaofeng. Xiaofeng was not very talkative and had an introverted personality. Faced with the mediator's inquiries, he still answered relevant questions.

Mediator: Why did you never go out to work after having a baby?

Xiaofeng: I’m not short of money, but I still go out to work and I’m sick...

The mediator heard Xiaofeng’s words and combined with Xiaoyan’s work in the supermarket to support her family, she was a little surprised. Since the two of them were not short of money, Why is Xiaoyan still so aggrieved?

The mediator was also confused by Xiaofeng's words. Xiaofeng continued, I have an eight-digit demolition payment, and the money is all with her. I also worked before and saved some money to meet our family's daily needs. There is no problem at all.

Xiaofeng's father also came to the scene. He said he was helpless about his son not going to work. He had told his son about it more than once, but he just refused to go out to work.

Xiaofeng’s father said that his mother and I are both over 60 years old and are still working outside. We have told him many times but did not listen. Later, we, the old couple, had no choice but to let him do whatever he wanted. .

Xiaofeng said that he had eight figures of demolition money, and all of it was in the hands of his wife. Xiaoyan did not refute what he said. It was obvious that what he said was true. Maybe what he said was very reasonable. What to do?

His parents and wife said that he was idle, and Xiaofeng was a little unconvinced. He said that he and his wife were cognitively and spiritually different, and he usually made some things on the computer and showed them to the mediator on the spot.

After seeing Xiaofeng's works, the mediator found that he is still very capable. Even if he is a househusband, he is really not idle. He is busy with his own things on the Internet every day.

It may be that he and his wife have been quarreling for many years and have not gained understanding. Coupled with the difference in education, the two people have different cognitions on the spiritual level. His wife and parents believe that they must go out to work in order to realize the basic value of life.

In addition, Xiaofeng also said that there is a reason why he does not go out to work, because his parents are uneducated and do not know how to educate their children. He thinks that children should be taught by words and deeds. In order to take care of and educate their children, they are unwilling to go out to work.

After the knot between the two couples was resolved, Xiaoyan suddenly threw herself into the arms of her husband Xiaofeng, praying that he would not divorce her, that he would understand him more in the future, and would no longer ask him to go out to work.

Seeing his wife's statement, Xiaofeng also revealed his future plans. He said that after Erbao goes to school and can spare some energy, he will find some jobs in the society that he is interested in, and will not just stay here all the time. Home. The mediator

felt extremely relieved when he saw the couple hugging each other. After several days of unremitting efforts, he had saved a marriage in jeopardy. All the hard work was worth it.

This case can illustrate a problem. People's cognition is very important. Although some people seem to be idle, they have their own ideas and their own ways of making money. They don't necessarily have to go out and do manual labor to make money...