"You gave birth to me before you gave birth to me, and I gave birth to you. I am already old. I hate that I was not born at the same time. I am good to you every day."
This romantic love poem that has been sung through the ages has become the love poem between 38-year-old female teacher Huang Xiuqun and her 65-year-old lover Chen A true portrayal of Bi Bo.
In Huang Xiuqun’s heart, 65-year-old sanitation worker Chen Bibo is the lover of his dreams.
He understands her, knows her, is considerate of her, and is his true soul mate.
She even said such love words to Chen Bibo:
"Except for you, everyone else is make do."
The highest level of love is marriage.
In 2014, this age-old love, which was nearly 30 years apart and had extremely different status, finally entered into marriage.
all say that love must have a purpose.
A young, beautiful and well-educated female teacher in her prime of life chose Chen Bibo, a sanitation worker who was far different in age and status from her.
even did not hesitate to put down his body and pursue this man who was nearly 40 years old and impoverished. He was willing to stick with him every day.
After their story spread, public opinion was in an uproar.
Everyone is speculating, what does Huang Xiuqun want from Chen Bibo?
Huang Xiuqun was born in Yueyang, Hunan in 1974.
Huang Xiuqun has been called "other people's children" since she was a child. She dares to think and do, is proactive in learning, and her grades are always among the best in her grade.
After graduating from high school, she was admitted to a normal college as she wished and became a proud child.
The boys and girls entering college are in their prime of growth. They have just begun to fall in love and are trying their luck in love.
Many people find a soulmate of the opposite sex and fall in love.
Huang Xiuqun has also grown into a tall and graceful beauty. She is full of love and hopes to meet her Prince Charming in college and have a vigorous love affair.
But in this huge campus, no boy can enter Huang Xiuqun's heart.
After graduating from college, Huang Xiuqun was successfully assigned to work as an English teacher in a primary school in Miluo, Yueyang, Hunan. Within a few years of working at
, Huang Xiuqun had achieved good results and was deeply loved by students and parents.
is young and beautiful, has flexible and diverse teaching methods, and outstanding grades in the classes she leads. She is rated as an advanced worker every year, and the school leaders also look upon her with admiration.
Huang Xiuqun's excellence was noticed by everyone, and soon some people began to worry about her marriage.
Listening to her parents' nagging, Huang Xiuqun also had a headache. She was more concerned about spiritual compatibility, but it was difficult to meet such a person for a while.
So, under the introduction of a colleague, Huang Xiuqun met a man.
The other person works in the Education Bureau, and works in the same system as Huang Xiuqun. He has a good job, is good-looking, and seems to be a very good match.
Although the two of them were not very attracted to each other, they both reached the age of marriage, so they got engaged in a hurry and got married six months later.
Huang Xiuqun originally thought that as the understanding deepened, the relationship between the two parties would become stronger and stronger, but after getting married, she discovered that marriage was not as simple as imagined.
Huang Xiuqun found that with her husband, apart from how to manage students, there was no other topic to talk about.
The two of them would quarrel over simple matters such as eating.
After the quarrel, the other party would just sit next to him and smoke without saying a word. He would never coax Huang Xiuqun, and there was no emotion at all.
Huang Xiuqun was extremely depressed. How could he live like this?
Life is not easy. Being stuck in an unhappy marriage is tantamount to self-depletion.
In Huang Xiuqun's dictionary, there is never such a word as "self-torture", and she must stop her losses in time.
After 6 years of hard work, she decisively walked out of her marriage and became a single woman.
After his first failed marriage experience, Huang Xiuqun became more determined in his goal:
If he gets married again, he must find someone he likes. Even if he has no money or looks, as long as he understands and supports each other, it will be enough. .
Everything may have been destined. No one would have thought that the man she was looking for was striding on the road to meet her.
On May 15, 2012, Huang Xiuqun got on the train to Beijing for work.
She found her upper bunk, packed her luggage, climbed into bed and read a book.
Just as she was watching with gusto, she was suddenly interrupted by a voice: "Whose luggage is this? Can you move it somewhere? I'm going to rest."
Huang Xiuqun looked up and saw that the owner of the lower bunk was here. The old man in front of me is in his sixties. He is neatly dressed and looks very well-educated.
She quickly said apologetically: Uncle, I'm sorry, I just occupied your bunk temporarily, I will clean it up right away. When
was packing up, Huang Xiuqun learned that the old man's name was Chen Bibo, who was also from Yueyang. This time he went to Beijing to petition for debt collection.
As the topic continued to deepen, the two of them became more and more interested in each other, and they even felt like they were late to meet each other.
Huang Xiuqun also discovered that Chen Bibo also had a failed marriage.
Chen Bibo was handsome and capable when he was young, and he had a decent job.
met his wife through someone else's introduction, and soon got married and gave birth to twin sons.
Due to congenital reasons, a child died soon after birth.
The death of their child hit the two of them hard. Chen Bibo and his wife often quarreled over trivial matters.
How could a marriage withstand such torture? The two were exhausted from the quarrel, and the marriage came to an end within a few years.
After the divorce, Chen Bibo resigned from public office and started doing business with the tide of the sea, opening a trading company.
Being hard-working and capable, Chen Bibo's business is going smoothly. Not only has he built a five-story western-style building in his hometown, but he also drives a car.
In addition to doing business, Chen Bibo's small inventions have also become popular, and many of his inventions have applied for national patents.
With money, Chen Bibo's marriage also went smoothly. He got married again, married a young and beautiful daughter-in-law, and gave birth to a pair of twin sons.
Everything looks so good, but unexpected events occur and bad luck strikes unexpectedly.
Once, Chen Bibo wanted to buy some coal from a coal company in Henan. After signing the sales contract, he paid 110,000 yuan in advance.
What he didn't expect was that the other party had no sincerity at all. He only took the advance payment but refused to perform the contract.
In anger, Chen Bibo took the other party to court and won the case.
But the other party still refused to pay back the debt. Chen Bibo was helpless and had to run countless times to seek an explanation.
Petitioning again and again consumes Chen Bibo's money and his relationship with his young wife.
When she saw Chen Bibo's company collapse, she left behind her two sons who were waiting for food and left him.
Chen Bibo's life suddenly hit rock bottom again. He had to petition for salary and take care of his children, and his life was very stressful.
In order to support his two children, he had to find a job as a sanitation worker to barely make ends meet.
Now that the children have grown up, graduated from college, and found good jobs, Chen Bibo is still busy on the road of planning and teaching.
After hearing Chen Bibo’s story, Huang Xiuqun was in awe: The man in front of him was persistent, pursued justice and truth, had a sense of responsibility, and worked hard to raise his son.
The unexpected meeting arranged by God also paved the way for this seemingly unmatched love.
Before getting off the train, Huang Xiuqun left her phone number, hoping that Chen Bibo could inform her of the results of the petition.
A few months later, Huang Xiuqun received a call from Chen Bibo as he wished.
Since then, such calls have become more frequent, and most of them are made by Huang Xiuqun looking for excuses to call Chen Bibo. Sometimes it is because work is not going well, and sometimes it is because of friction with colleagues.
When Chen Bibo received the call, he always tried his best to make Huang Xiuqun happy.
As time went by, Huang Xiuqun suddenly realized that he could no longer live without Chen Bibo. Isn't this kind of dependence on Chen Bibo love?
She was surprised and happy. Although the other person was much older than her, the tolerance and consideration were exactly what she had always wanted to have.
Thinking of this, Huang Xiuqun decided to give it a try and confess his love to the other party.
Three months later, she found Chen Bibo and expressed her love.
The love in Chen Bibo's heart continued like a torrential river, but he politely refused.
Two failed marriages made him extremely unsure of himself. I have no money, no power, and nothing. How can I bear it from a worldly perspective? If the young woman in front of me, who is 28 years younger than me, abandons me again, how should she bear it?
Huang Xiuqun saw Chen Bibo's thoughts and wrote many times to express his feelings:
How I want to say to you before going to bed every day: Baby, I love you, good night!
In addition to writing letters, Huang Xiuqun also told many stories about love between young and old to encourage Chen Bibo.
Under Huang Xiuqun's continuous offensive, Chen Bibo finally bravely took the step of love. He also wrote:
"I need you very much and love you very much... let time witness our love."
二People finally confirmed their relationship and held hands with happiness.
But there were many discordant voices coming from around me.
"What vision do you have? Looking for an old man who can be a father?"
"I have never seen a man before. I miss him so much."
Huang Xiuqun has been very independent since she was a child. She doesn't care at all amid the criticism from the outside world. .
But Chen Bibo was different. Amid other people's doubts about "old cows eating young grass" and "love is not shallow", he felt uneasy and extremely embarrassed.
Huang Xiuqun always comforted him not to care about other people's opinions.
Slowly, Chen Bibo stopped caring so much.
But Huang Xiuqun forgot that the love between the two and the opinions of his family needed to be faced head-on.
When their parents heard that Huang Xiuqun had found a man who was one year older than his father, they were extremely dissatisfied.
Huang Xiuqun's cousin was also very puzzled. He specially called a reporter to reveal the secret between the two.
Uncle said that Chen Bibo is an out-and-out liar. In order to deceive Huang Xiuqun's feelings,
deliberately let Huang Xiuqun see his 2.6 million yuan IOU, causing Huang Xiuqun to mistakenly think that Chen Bibo was a rich man, so he fell hopelessly in love with him.
Otherwise, Huang Xiuqun has a decent job, is young and beautiful, why would he fall in love with a poor old man?
Faced with reporters, Huang Xiuqun firmly denied this statement.
She said that love has no age or wealth restrictions, and she chose Chen Bibo entirely out of emotional and spiritual needs. When
met Chen Bibo, she felt that she had found a true soul mate. She also said that she would give birth to a child for her lover.
Seeing that his girlfriend chose him so firmly, Chen Bibo completely dispelled all worries, opened up his heart, and began to truly invest in this relationship.
Huang Xiuqun's parents were much happier than before when they saw their daughter getting together with Chen Bibo, so they put aside their prejudices and accepted their eldest son-in-law.
During the Spring Festival of 2014, the two received their marriage certificate and lived happily together.
Now, 8 years have passed, and the two are still very much in love with each other.
During the day, they faced the rising sun and went to the vegetable market hand in hand to buy vegetables; in the evening, there were two more people walking under the sunset.
Their happy appearance always attracts countless envious eyes.
But in real life, many people think that the love of middle-aged people is nothing more than calculation, and there is nothing romantic at all. Some people even dare not to love because of this, and choose to love.
Now it seems that it is not that there is no romance in the love of middle-aged people, but that some people have more chips in their hearts, more caress, and less true love, which makes love lose its balance.
Huang Xiuqun and Chen Bibo broke the prejudice and showed the world a pure and selfless love.
They are not afraid of age, ignore material things, bravely fight against the world, live out their lives, and become lovers.
Isn’t this the most beautiful love myth that the world pursues?
What do you think about their love between young and old?
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Author: Jenny Qiao Creative Team Author Mi Li
Reference:
NetEase Video: A 38-year-old female teacher expresses her love for a 68-year-old man, and her uncle tells the truth behind it, which is surprising
