A fan asked me yesterday that I have been chasing a girl for a long, long time, but I didn’t succeed.
This little friend came to ask me at this time, can you agree to her? This statement sounds like a convention, but in fact it is not
Let’s talk about the subtext of this sentence? Why wait? If a girl really likes you, she will definitely want to be with you instead of letting you wait. If she really likes you, she should be more afraid of you being taken away by other women. How can she wait?
Letting you wait is to release a kind of hope for you, to make you think that you still have a chance. As long as you continue to be dedicated to her, you will have hope when you wait. Since there is hope, you will continue to give to her, even more reluctant Give up to her, this is a typical disclaimer
so that she can easily get your various contributions and investments on the grounds of the agreement, but if you agree to be your girlfriend, then we The summary is three words. She can keep a spare tire
without making any effort. She can call you for two years, because she has said it after two years, even if it waits two years, even you Both are single, and she may not fulfill her promise. She can refuse you in many ways.
For example, I’m sorry, I still don’t feel about you, I don’t want to deceive you, otherwise it’s unfair to you. Finding that I can't fall in love with you, what can you do with her then? Are you going to kneel down and beg her to be your girlfriend?
Impossible, the love that I prayed for is either the same level or a rogue choice, but it is definitely not that she loves you. What's more, in the past two years, who knows what will happen? ? Faced with this kind of disclaimer, the best way is that we boys don’t take this risk. You can say that I don’t want to have this kind of agreement with you.If you like it, you just like it. If you don’t like it, I won’t force you. If you don’t like it, you don’t need to say anything. Then you will get away from her life for a period of time, two or three months. You just need to make her feel that you don’t want to chase her anymore.
This time you reappear in her life. If she takes the initiative to find you, you are just like a normal friend. If she wants to continue the routine, ask you to do something to help her with little things, it doesn’t matter.
But some things that are very laborious and time-consuming, then we have to refuse. If you want to really remove the label of the spare tire, you must let her know that she can't control you, and you won't wait for her stupidly. Now, I won’t kneel and lick her unconditionally
You may be worried, what if we become cold in these two or three months? If your relationship fades, it’s just starting from scratch, but the starting point of the spare tire is negative, it’s better to start from scratch
In these two or three months, you can do a lot, For example, improve your clothes well, spend more time on yourself to improve your abilities in all aspects, cultivate some hobbies, and be a quality man with a self-life, instead of being a good man with a personal life. That is to say, the poor worm
In short, if you did not fall into her disclaimer trap, she will look at you differently and have a new understanding of you. You have never had an opinion and will only be used as a spare tire. The man suddenly becomes a man who respects himself and has a standpoint. This is the beginning of the counterattack
If you can’t let go, then you must respect yourself first, so as to win the respect of the other party. When she starts to respect you, she will be sincere to you, because she feels that you are not a soft persimmon and can’t pinch
You have a good experience, as long as you think about it, you will know how such a disclaimer is. It’s unreliable, implying that you don’t give any feelings to you. If you continue, don’t blame her in the future, and don’t tell her that I’m so good to you.Why do not you like me?
Because it is your own willingness to treat her well, no wonder others, and I will add a few examples of our common disclaimers
I am not as good as you think, I am not worthy of you being so good to me. I still don’t want to fall in love. I always think of you as a brother or a friend. Then these disclaimers will also be used by men, which is what we often call scumboy
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