As the saying goes: "Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies", this is true!
We often see this scene in some TV series:
The mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law live under the same roof and dry out all day, while the husband is caught in the middle and is in a dilemma, just like before The very popular " double-sided tape ", which was broadcast in the past few years, has reproduced such a scene alive.
This drama shows the complicated contradictory relationship and emotional entanglement between three people: mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, and husband. After watching it, I can't help but feel the same!
In fact, in real life, such a storyline is staged every day.
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My friend Lizhen is a very simple girl. She married in a small village in Zhejiang Province, and her husband is a farmer who lives on her job. With more than 30 acres of land, the family lives on farming all year round.
When she first married, Lizhen had too much unwillingness in her heart, because her family was from the city. Although the family conditions are not very rich, at least she has her own house in the county town, at least In this way, she has too much sense of superiority in front of rural people.
thought that if it weren't for falling in love with her husband at first sight and being dazzled by love, I thought: Lizhen, a young and beautiful girl in the city, would definitely not marry in a remote rural area.
02
When I first got married, Lizhen's family really loved Lizhen as a princess, especially her husband. She held it in her hand for fear of falling, and held it in her mouth for fear of melting.” As long as she has any needs, her husband will do his best to satisfy her.
Not long after, she became pregnant. She was planning to go to work after getting married, but she didn't expect to have a baby so soon. In order to have a good baby, she had to put work aside.
Unexpectedly, this break is two and a half years, one year of pregnancy, breastfeeding and nursing for one and a half years, and when the child is one and a half years old, Lizhen can't stay at home. , I asked my in-laws to go out to work.
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Unexpectedly, this decision was strongly opposed by her mother-in-law, she said: , how many children can you get out? A money? Don’t make money by the time, and the child hasn’t taken good care of it, and the headaches all day long, then you will be in trouble!”
At that time, Lizhen also said very confidently:
"Mom, don't you still have you here? I believe that you love Xiaobao so much, and you will definitely take care of Xiaobao. What can I worry about? Besides, I have been at home for almost three years now. Got depression,I went out not only to make money, but also to get in touch with the outside world! "
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But the mother-in-law was still unwilling. She was too embarrassed to tell her that she would persuade _span12 pspan to give her the child in person. That day, the eldest sister pretended to invite Lizhen to dinner, but it was actually a "Hongmen banquet". During the meal, she deliberately talked about it and said, "I heard my mother say that you want to go out to work? Lizhen nodded.
Then, the older sister gave Lizhen some brainwashing:
"Why are you going out to work?" Is it good to be at home every day? Husband pays the money on time every month. What time do I want to sleep at? How comfortable! How can I have your blessing in my life?
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Lizhen heard it and felt very uncomfortable. She immediately retorted: doesn’t want to go out of class, but no one has the money,
Now, we have a family of three, and our daily consumption is very high. We need money for everything. If we stay at home all day, will the money fall from the sky? "
The elder sister heard that Lizhen was emotional and her attitude eased a lot, and she said the truth every word:
"I can understand you. Indeed, it's not like staying at home all day long." The main thing is that my mother is not in good health and can't help you. When the time comes, the child will not be able to coax her, and she will be exhausted and sick. At that time, don't we have to spend money to see her doctor! Why bother?
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Lizhen heard it,Her parents-in-law and her family just don't want her to go to work because she is afraid that she will throw the child to the elderly.
thinking of this, she couldn't help feeling sad and sad: her mother died when she was five years old. If her mother can live to the present, she will definitely help her take care of the child and think again. I want to marry my husband, even if I was married, there are too many grievances in my heart. Unexpectedly, in this juncture, the family of the mother-in-law would not even help with this.
Helpless, Lizhen discussed with her husband, moved to the city, and then sent Xiaobao to the early education institution in the city. After such a toss, although a lot of money was spent, she was finally at ease. Because she can finally go to work.
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After moving to the city, my husband got a job driving, driving a long-distance truck, and returning home every few days. Although it was hard work, I got a monthly income. Yes, there are seven to eight thousand yuan.
As for Lizhen, she works in sales at Ping An Insurance Company , and she goes out for business every day. The reason why she finds the job of sales is that she finds it challenging, and she can get a few thousand commissions in a single order; I feel that time is free and it is convenient to take care of children.
In this way, the couple of them go out early and return late every day, like a spinning top, they are reluctant to take a day off throughout the year.
"The hard work pays off." After three years, they finally saved enough money for the down payment of the house and bought a 120 square meter three-bedroom house in the county town.
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During these three years,When my mother-in-law went to the city to buy things, she stopped by Lizhen's house several times.
But every time, I left after lunch and rarely stayed overnight at their house.
When chatting together during dinner, I never ask Lizhen how about her job or whether she can take care of her children at work. She just talks about how difficult her life is, the bad harvest of the crops in the field and so on.
At this time, Lizhen was completely disappointed with her mother-in-law, perhaps forced by life. She felt that her mother-in-law had already turned from a kind-hearted old man to a selfish person.
Every time I think about the fact that her mother-in-law did not bring children, Lizhen still has too much pain and entanglement in her heart, "Perhaps she has her own difficulties and reasons!" She can only use these words to comfort My own wounded heart.
09
Time flies, the sun and the moon are flying!
In a blink of an eye, ten years later, Lizhen has been working in an insurance company for more than ten years, from a small salesman to general manager of the company department. With the accumulation of customers, the income is also higher than before. Turned dozens of times.
Because of her excellent work performance, the headquarters sent her to work in Beijing and allocated a 200-square-meter garden house to the family. In this way, Lizhen took her husband and children to Beijing to settle down.
They finally reached the pinnacle of life through hard work day after day.
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just the second year after they settled in Beijing,Suddenly one day, she accidentally received a call from her mother-in-law.
At this time, it has been half a year since the father-in-law passed away, and the mother-in-law was in tears all day long. Maybe she felt alone and sad!
I saw my mother-in-law choked on the phone and apologized to her:
"Lizhen, it's mom I'm sorry to you. Mom used to be too selfish, afraid that taking care of Xiaobao would delay my farm work, since your dad After I passed away, I contracted out the land at home. Now my mother has time. Let’s go to Beijing to help you coax your children!" Xiaobao is already 12 years old, he is about to graduate from elementary school, don’t need to coax it! You can come to Beijing and we will support you!" ：
"Give your mother-in-law for the elderly", this sentence, Lizhen said is not angry, it is her sincere words.
Because of so many years of life experience, she has already let go of the grievances of the past. She can understand that her mother-in-law was not easy and involuntary at the time. Her heart is no longer full of resentment, but full of gratitude.
It is precisely because of her mother-in-law’s letting go, that she and her husband no longer rely on the power of others, and support her own piece of the sky alone, so that she understands the meaning of hard work. In the end, she has lived her own dreams. The life you want.
Thinking of this, the corners of Lizhen's mouth rose unconsciously, and she smiled happily.
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