The more clear and sober a woman sees, the easier it is to feel happy in love and marriage

Some people ask what is a good relationship and marriage? We must first understand that whether it is a good relationship or marriage, it will certainly not be pure and will have their own goals, otherwise the relationship will be difficult to last, because the interests are interchangeable, and the reason is to maintain a balance of "interests".

The interest here is not only about money and material.It also includes spiritual satisfaction, psychological satisfaction, emotional value, quality of life, security, and happiness.

Having said that, some people will wonder what kind of love and marriage are the happiest? The answer is simple, that is, you are very clear about what you want. When you find someone who meets your mate selection requirements, you will naturally feel happy.

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Spoiling you is especially good at flirting. In addition to work and socializing, it is to accompany you. He will do his best and financially to satisfy all your wishes and dreams. You really meet this person and get married and have children together smoothly. NS. At this moment, your sense of happiness must be particularly strong, to the extent that you will wake up from a smile when you dream.

2. Some people especially need a sense of security and emotional value. When you meet someone who can meet this need, you will feel particularly comfortable, at ease and satisfied with that person.

3. The boy's salary is not high, but his family conditions are good, he doesn't need to earn money to support his family at all. He goes to work purely to experience life, and he wants to find a girl who is smart, has a good cognitive dimension and has a high degree of education. Being a wife, I hope to improve the genes of the next generation in this way.

4. A handsome, rich and handsome man with particularly high-quality conditions in all aspects. He does not require too much of his partner. As long as he looks good, he can take it out to support the scene and take care of his family.After all, I am not short of money and have a strong ability to make money. I don’t care whether girls can make money or how much money they can make.

shows that many people's so-called mate selection conditions are actually based on meeting their own needs and solving their own problems.

After knowing this, will people who get married that night have a bad marriage? The answer is that it is not necessarily worse than those who get married early. It is possible that high-quality single older women will be more likely to meet these needs of their partners, because the more mature the mind, the more independent the economy, and the better the communication skills, the probability of a harmonious intimate relationship will be The bigger the older women are, the older women have an advantage over younger women.

This is to exclude people who have cognitive biases. Apart from age, people who have not grown in knowledge, thinking, and cognition, and who are overly idealistic about feelings.

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What do you see when you choose a spouse?

It is important to know that most of the time when choosing a spouse, it is not people but conditions. Women choose men’s wealth, power, social status, cars, houses, and connections are the resources for survival; men choose women’s age, appearance, body, personality, temperament, and taste, which are sexual resources. After reaching these standards, it depends on the spiritual level, hobbies, values, outlook on life, outlook on love, and outlook on marriage.

We only have people who are younger than ourselves earn more money, have good conditions, have their own core competitiveness or core competitive skills, and have a calm personality, look better than smart people, and smarter than good-looking people , In this case with higher EQ,It is possible to jump out of the original rules of mate selection, become the exception, and attract more high-quality opposite sex.

However, in addition to knowing what you want, you must also know what the other person wants and have the ability to satisfy each other. This process is a process of giving each other. Because people want to be needed by others, if you can't need each other in a relationship, it will be difficult for the relationship to last.

And giving is to be willing to do it from the heart. You can’t care about gains and losses, otherwise you will not be happy, because this situation is because you do not want to owe the other party, nor do you want the other party to owe you, once you do better If there are too many opponents, you will feel that you are at a loss, and you will want to get it back from the other party.

There is also a situation where TA has also paid for you, but not according to your needs and wants, or treat you in a perfunctory way.

For example, if you give you a gift, you can say that the gift is light and affectionate, and you must give him a big gift and ask for the price. If you can’t accept this method, you can temporarily accommodate for the sake of feelings. But as long as there are more such situations, the relationship will not get better, because you don't like the other party's way of treating you, and you will naturally feel aggrieved.

If someone else’s salary is 5,000, and you want the other person to give you a gift of 8,000, this behavior is also a drain on the TA, because it is a matter of time to separate if the material cannot support the relationship.

The best way is not to use your own standards to measure each other's standards, unless the conditions of both parties are equal. If the other party has done their best to meet your needs in terms of their own conditions, isn't it enough to show how serious they are with you?

So when it comes to choosing a partner,Try to find someone who can meet your needs as much as possible, otherwise your happiness will decrease in this relationship.

This shows that the happiness index of marriage is never based on the low marriage age. It is related to your ability to create happiness. Only when this ability is strong enough, the satisfaction of marriage Will be promoted.

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If you want to see the relationship between the sexes in a business perspective, just like a business, just like a business perspective. People and partners can make money happily together in a lasting and stable manner. They must know how to set up a win-win situation, a cooperative model that is satisfactory to both parties, and a profit sharing method and ratio acceptable to both parties.

Because it’s impossible for you to take all the benefits all by yourself. When everyone puts in the same amount of energy, but he earns less than you, or keeps saying that doing things together, you just want to be a prostitute, give a little favor, forget it, others If you agree to help you, it doesn’t matter if you don’t charge money, but after you prostitute someone for nothing, he asks you to do something, but you ask others to follow the rules and give him money at the market price. If the number of times is too high, he is naturally unwilling. Not only will he be psychologically unhappy. Balance, and even feel that you are being fooled by you, because you feel that you are cheating him, and you will not want to cooperate with you over time. After all, people are not stupid. No matter how good the relationship is, no one will respond to you.

So when you learn to manage love and marriage as a business, you will know whether two people can be together steadily and happily for a long time. It is not just a matter of whether there is a relationship foundation, but also many comprehensive factors. condition,And whether the two parties can reach a consensus.

Everyone should know that marriage is not an end, but a means. It is not a task you have to complete, but it allows you to continue to grow in a good love experience or marriage, become a better self, and become a way to reach a broader, free, and prosperous life. At the same time To understand that to reach this destination, there is more than just marriage.

You can also use your own hard work, learning, reading, and getting to know more people with different ideological dimensions to achieve the purpose you want. Don’t feel that you can’t stand the pressure and get married when you are old, or get married for profit. It’s because I found my soul mate and wanted to be with each other for a lifetime before we got married. As long as the relationship between both parties is true, they can live positively. Together.

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