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Balzac said: "The so-called love can satisfy everything, but only for couples. As for couples, apart from using the sky as the roof and the greenery In addition to the carpet, something more is needed."
If you want to walk a longer distance with each other, love is not enough between husband and wife, but there are other things, such as sense of responsibility and character. , The three views are consistent and so on. No amount of affectionate love can stand the test of time, so it takes great effort to grow old together.
Today's marriage is too fragile. Once they find that they have different personalities and different ideas, it will end.
Many women have high expectations of marriage at the beginning, impulsively choose to be with the wrong person, and don't know how to run a family. They think that as long as they are divorced, they can change their destiny by starting anew.
However, in real life, can a second-married woman really live happily? If your heart is not growing and you can't see the truth of marriage clearly, the same result will appear no matter how many times you choose.
In the fourth year after the divorce between Li Rong and her ex-husband, she met her husband Zhao Ming.
Zhao Ming is only 40 years old, ten years younger than Li Rong. The two met at a gathering of friends. From the day of acquaintance, Zhao Ming thought she was a good woman, but at that time Li Rong had just divorced, and her mood was still very depressed, and she had no intention of paying attention to others.
At that time,Zhao Ming and his ex-wife have been divorced for more than two years, and they have been looking for a suitable marriage partner. However, he is very busy at work and hardly has much time to fall in love. He just wants to get married right away.
In order to be able to be with Li Rong, Zhao Ming did put a lot of effort into the beginning. In the end, Li Rong was also moved. After all, she was happy to meet a man so much younger than herself.
However, life after marriage made Li Rong feel exhausted. I thought that my husband really loved her, but who knew that he just thought he had a good character and was hardworking.
During the days with Zhao Ming, Li Rong was like a free nanny, cooking, washing clothes and taking care of housework for her husband every day. Zhao Ming also has an 11-year-old son. He is very domineering and disrespectful. She has to take him to and from school every day.
At first, when Zhao Ming pursued Li Rong, he would spare time to eat with her whenever he was busy, but since he got married, he has been socializing every day, and he often spends time outside. Li Rong can't even say a word about him.
In addition, Li Rong has to serve her husband's parents. The mother-in-law is in very poor health. Li Rong is by her side to take care of her every time she gets sick and is hospitalized.
Others are happy for her, envious that she is so old, and she can find such a good and young husband. But only Li Rong knew the bitterness in his heart.
Later, Li Rong also found out that her husband had betrayed him emotionally, but he never felt that he had done something wrong. At that moment, she knew why her husband decided to marry her, it was not because of love at all.
Li Rong cannot sleep every night,She was very depressed. In the middle of the night, she posted a circle of friends like this: In middle age, a man marries you for only three purposes. It is really realistic.
1: Find a free nanny to take care of yourself
Men over 40 years old, their attitude towards feelings can no longer be so simple, approaching you is usually purposeful. Young boys in their twenties have a more immature outlook on mate selection. Generally, they only look at their appearance, and they will only marry good-looking girls.
However, after middle age, men will become very realistic, the other half is not beautiful, it is not the most important thing, but her existence, can she really help herself.
So, the purpose of a middle-aged man to marry you is just to find a free nanny to take care of himself.
Just like Li Rong, Zhao Ming did not dislike her being older than herself, but felt that she was very hardworking and especially good at housework. Marry her, life will be very comfortable in the future.
In Li Rong's view, she thought she had met a man who truly loved her, so she decided to marry Zhao Ming. But only after marriage did he realize that his motive for approaching himself was not simple at all.
A truly smart woman will not have unreasonable expectations for marriage, especially remarriage with a middle-aged man, will not overly trust each other's promises, but will spend time getting along and learn more about each other's behavior. After making sure to get married, the life will not be too wronged, and only then will I be involved in feelings.
It is very realistic for middle-aged men to marry you, but if I want to find a free nanny, I hope girls can understand this as soon as possible.Be sure to choose your partner carefully. Don't let him be a little better to you and lose his judgment.
Second marriage life is not necessarily better than single life. Instead of working hard to please others, it is better to treat yourself well.
2: Find a diligent caregiver and take care of his parents
Zhao Ming’s parents are old and need someone to take care of them. He would marry Li Rong at first, because he thought she was more considerate and understood. Take care of the elderly.
When middle-aged men remarry, instead of marrying young and beautiful girls, they prefer to be with divorced women because they are not too picky and hardworking.
Therefore, Zhao Mingcai does not dislike Li Rong's age and is willing to be with her.
The attitude of middle-aged men towards marriage is more realistic than you might think. After Li Rong got married, the life that Li Rong now leads is dark every day.
Outsiders seem to think she is very lucky. She is 50 years old and can meet such a good man and build a happy home together.
However, Li Rong's life is not better than when she was single, and she did not experience the joy of marriage.
We all look forward to having a happy marriage and getting a lot of love, but the purpose of a middle-aged man to marry you is probably to find a hardworking caregiver to help him take care of his elderly parents.
Therefore, before we plan to remarry, we must learn more about his family background. We need to be filial to the elders.But getting married is the responsibility of the husband and wife together, rather than you alone undertaking all the pressure.
Three: Have a home, look decent in front of outsiders
Middle-aged men have difficulty paying sincerely to the other half, and they are all striving for a career and are not in the mood to coax their partners. Therefore, if you find a woman with a good personality to remarry, they don't need to put in too much energy to maintain each other's feelings.
And they can also spend time and drink freely outside.
The reason why a middle-aged man marries you is probably not because of love, but because he has a family to protect his face, but his heart will never be on you.
Not long after Li Rong got married with her husband, she found out that he had betrayed his relationship, and Zhao Ming had already determined that even if she knew, she would not dare to divorce.
Li Rong is 50 years old, and it is almost impossible to meet another man with better conditions. Therefore, Zhao Ming didn't feel that he had done something wrong, and as always ignored Li Rong's feelings.
The purpose of a middle-aged man marrying you is more to have a stable family, which looks very decent.
But they don't have much affection for you. If you meet such a man, no matter how good his conditions are, I advise you to stay away as soon as possible and don't hurt yourself.
There is a saying in "Secularism and the Three Views": There is no standard for the Three Views. In the world of crows, the swan is also a sin.
when choosing a spouse,You must pay attention to the personality of the other person. Only when you marry a man with three views, can you take the road of marriage.
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