My mother is opposed to me looking for a beautiful woman to marry. The reasons cited make me unable to refute it. Jiang is still hot.

I am 35 years old this year, single, and have always wanted to get married, but every girlfriend and my mother I have been with are opposed to it.

I once fantasized about ignoring my parents' opinions and getting married first, but when I thought that most of my current company's capital investment was given by my parents, I didn't have enough confidence.

Regarding finding a daughter-in-law, I talked to my mother several times. Her biggest dissatisfaction with the girlfriend I was looking for was that she was too beautiful, and she had the face of a vixen.

She gave me the reason: Finding a wife is not suitable for finding a woman who is too beautiful, too prodigal.

The management costs of these women who are too beautiful are too high, and the maintenance costs become more and more expensive as they age. The key use value is not higher than that of ordinary looking women, and the most important thing is that they are beautiful and have poor tolerance. Once you want to replace it is more expensive.

Mother firmly believes that mature, stable, thoughtful and visionary men will not marry beautiful women.

I cannot agree with my mother's concept, and may not be able to empathize with her experience. The only thing I can understand is that my mother will not harm my son.

From the time I remember, I thought my mother was a dignified and elegant woman, but she still lost to her father's outside lover.

It may be because of the father's betrayal that my mother has natural resistance to beautiful women. The girls she introduced to me did not conform to my aesthetics. We, mother and son, were consumed like this.

To tell the truth, the blind date my mother introduced to me is very good in education, family background, and conversation. The appearance is not amazing or average. Most of them are independent women. From the point of view of being a wife, they are all suitable candidates. , But I'm not tempted.

What I can't escape is that I am a straight guy from the Appearance Association. Even if I am now 35 years old, it is difficult to change the primary condition of my choice of a mate, which is to grow on my aesthetic point.

Mother also told me that as long as I don’t need a penny at home and go out to work to make money, if I can find such a beautiful woman at that time,She has no objection.

If a beautiful girlfriend is my original sin for not getting married, I think most men are visual animals, and no one likes ugliness.

Mother's reasons for maintenance and so on are all excuses. In fact, the most important thing is that she thinks that those beautiful women are prodigal.

I am actually self-aware. There are not many beautiful women. If I have strong ability, brains, financial independence, and superior family background, I will definitely not be able to catch up. In other words, I don’t deserve to be like that. Elite beauty.

So I retreat to the second place, good looks is the first choice, other things are almost ignored, the key is to like me, just listen to me, I make money and support my family.

I can't tell my mother these words, in her eyes her son is also excellent.

This is the key to the differences between our two generations.

Mother insists that if a woman is too beautiful, she will choose to take shortcuts, and the three views will change accordingly. Such a person will not be so happy as a daughter-in-law, and her character is more important than her appearance.

I cannot refute.

In my cognition, appearance is sometimes the same as academic qualifications. After having the temperament and character, it becomes more important. When not, it is important.

How much influence does appearance have on the long-term happiness of marriage?

I also talked to my buddies. Whether you are beautiful or not is a subjective feeling. There is no specific standard. On the contrary, factors such as income, personality, and family background can affect your life after marriage.

But the beauty of husband and wife should not be too different. This is how they feel when they come over.

Maybe I used to be in love and didn't really live. I couldn't experience these feelings. I felt that my girlfriend was pleasing to the eyes, obedient and gentle, and just a straight male aesthetic.

Having said so much, in fact, it is a man like me who deserves to be single and wants to choose a spouse freely, but cannot get rid of the support of his parents.

In fact, I know in my heart,Everyone takes what they need. I like them who are beautiful. They like that I have a certain financial strength. People are all utilitarian. There is nothing wrong with them.

Women's maintenance and beauty are all competitions of females, and men's careers are also competitions of males. This is a healthy competition.

I hope that one day I can be strong enough to get rid of my mother's financial constraints, and choose by myself. Maybe I am cowardly, and I will think of easing my heart on the Internet.