Do you still have contact with your best friend? How did you get separated?
Once upon a time, we thought that some people could walk hand in hand for a lifetime, but then we didn’t know when the distance began to grow, and then there was no contact anymore.
I feel regretful when I think of it occasionally, and I gradually become accustomed to it.
There are some things that cannot be forced. Since there is no fate, it is useless to force them; some people are destined to accompany us through one of the journeys. Even if they are unwilling, they must choose to accept them.
When I dream back at midnight, I think of many things before, and sometimes I go back to the past in my dream. When the memory becomes clearer and clearer, it will inevitably be sad.
will suddenly find that some things have not been forgotten, but they just choose to store them deep in their memory; it turns out that some people have not forgotten, but just walked too fast and left them behind.
How do people disperse? I have been close to each other, trusted, and walked together hand in hand. I thought I would be together for a lifetime, but later disappeared into the crowd, without exception.
My friend Xiao Min told me about his personal experience. Whenever I think of it, I feel that it resonates very much.
She said that on her birthday, she bought a durian worth more than 300 yuan. She bought it for many days if she frugalized and spent many days. If it were not for her birthday, she would not let herself be so extravagant.
unexpectedly, when she took a photo and sent it to the group,When sharing with some of their best friends, they not only didn't bless her, but started taunting her. They thought she was showing off.
Someone said: "Is it like buying a durian? It's like someone who hasn't eaten it before." Ah."
Others said: "We all know that you are rich, and know that you are doing well, can you stop showing off? This will only increase our anxiety. After all, we are not as good as you.
Seeing these chat records, Xiaomin found it very incredible. He was just sharing it, so why should someone interpret it so maliciously?
Besides, I didn't think about showing off, let alone being so extravagant every day. It was just that I had my birthday that day and I wanted to treat myself well, nothing more.
Xiao Min felt wronged, and the more I thought about it, the more I felt wronged, but the thing has come to this point, she can only swallow the grievances in her stomach. Since then, she has never spoken in the group again, and also with those so-called friends Haven't contacted either.
Even if they came to Xiao Min later, they said that they just happened to be in a bad mood, so they said such heavy words. It didn't matter if Xiao Min said it, but they knew in their hearts that they were dead.
In fact, people are separated like this. When you can no longer empathize with each other, when you say something that others cannot understand, but will misunderstand it; when you walk on a completely different path and live a completely different life, you can no longer share the same frequency when,You should know that you are not the same, and you are no longer in the same world.
Lu Xun said: "Human sorrows and joys are not interlinked, I just think they are noisy."
The older you are, the more people you have seen and experienced, and you understand this sentence. The more profound it is.
We once had great expectations for interpersonal relationships. We always felt that how we treat others, others will treat ourselves.
I learned later that this is not the case. Any relationship is not an equivalent exchange. It is too simple and innocent. In the end, it is only one who gets hurt.
Because some people, not only do not appreciate and respond to your kindness, but gradually like it, thinking that you should be kind to him. Once you have such an idea, the relationship and relationship between you will never be right again. waited.
The non-equal relationship is destined for one party to enjoy peace of mind, while the other party is extremely wronged. When the party who feels wronged reaches the limit, the fate between each other will be exhausted.
People in different worlds are destined to be unable to empathize and share the same frequency.
The circles are different and can’t be fused. No matter how good the relationship was, the distance gradually increases, and the relationship can no longer be maintained, because you will find that there is less and less common language between each other, and in the end, there is no more.
You want to care about him, but you don't know where to start. Even if he really has something to do, you may not be able to help him. Instead of forcibly talking awkwardly,It is better to let this relationship fend for itself.
Just like two best friends who had a good relationship, one got married early and had children, while the other chose to work hard. The former became a housewife, and the latter became a strong woman in the workplace.
One thing to talk about and pay attention to is a child every day. It is diapers, milk powder and children’s toys, as well as the endless conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, while the other is concerned about the stock market, funds, housing prices, and when to get promoted and raise salaries. .
There are fewer and fewer common topics between you, and you want to care about each other but you can't do anything about it. In the long run, you can only let the other party disappear into the crowd.
There is no way. From the moment you choose to take a different path, you can't have the same frequency.
If we think about it carefully, our life is only a few decades, and we will clean the circle and have a worthwhile relationship and talk, and we will have more blessings for the rest of our lives.
Those who are destined to fall apart, those relationships that are irreversible anyway, should not be forced. No one should contact each other. It may be the last tacit understanding between you and the most decent goodbye.
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