feels panicked, let's talk about this quarrel. I don't know where I am wrong, if so, please let me know, thank you very much.
I did not want to divorce, nor did I want to divide the family property. I simply wanted to return the share of the family property to me, which triggered this war.
Background of the incident: Last year, my husband and I bought a second apartment for my children to go to school. In order to buy a house quota, divorced and remarried.
Before the divorce, I had a big fight when I wrote the property division agreement. I said that I would write the safest plan. He slandered me and wanted him to leave the house. In fact, my most insurable plan is: we only have a house (property A), and whose name is written under the house A, then we have to agree to write down half of the market value of the other party's property A as compensation. After all, I have seen too many cases of fake divorce due to buying a house. However, he didn't even listen to my plan. He thought that the safest plan was to let him go out of the house. He hurled away on the street, went home and made a lot of noise, and he almost got divorced at that time.
I forgot how the reconciliation was made. Anyway, for the child to go to school, the two parties compromised. The final content of the agreement is that the new house (property B) is written in my name, the other is written in his name, and the other Part of my cash (about 1/3 of the current market value of property A).
Property B, which seems to be written to me, is actually a debt. Except for the down payment, the other millions are mortgage debts.
Property A, due to its geographic location, will have a much larger future appreciation space than property B, and the mortgage will be paid off with a few hundred thousand left.
We bought these two houses after we got married. We have been married for more than ten years, and that's just this little property.
At that time, I was divorced and I said that I had to sign a new agreement, and the property rights of the two houses were agreed to be 50% for each party. This is just restoring the facts. He has been noncommittal, because I am busy at work, I have not really written the content of this agreement.
Recently, we have been idle. Our company has difficulties in business operations. The boss owes wages and layoffs in disguise. I had to go to arbitration to get back a few months of wages. Then I became unemployed and lost income. I didn't have the slightest sense of security.I can feel the pressure on him suddenly increase, the huge mortgage on him, our lives are stretched, and my new job has never been settled. I understand him, but I am anxious. These are all time bombs ambushing between the two. I have worked very hard to find a job again. Due to my age and industry, even if my resume looks good, I still can’t find it. I have to save my life and save my life. I even thought about losing face, working as a white-collar office worker for more than ten years, and temporarily going to the supermarket as a part-time picker to earn money to subsidize the family.
I have always been anxious, thinking about how I will live if he turns over and divorces because of something.
I finally got time to write the agreement and send it to him. At that time, I called him and asked him to print it, but his tone was wrong. Then there was a big quarrel the next day.
He asked me what qualifications I have to divide into half. Ask me what I have done for my family for so many years, without any contribution! He is paying the mortgage. The down payment for buying a house is the amount of money he raised. It makes me want to divide the family property so much. It’s better to find an old man to marry, and wait for someone to divide it faster after death... I don’t want to repeat the vicious and hurtful words, it feels like someone is putting a knife in your heart, repeating Repeat again.
Let me talk about my qualifications.
First of all, I am not going to divorce, I just want to restore the fact of a property. He usually treats me very well, and I am not bad to him. Our relationship in college was actually quite good. Of course, I would like to spend the rest of my life with him, raise the children well, and die together. It's just my insecurity that drives me to restore this fact. Because I cannot guarantee that one day he will not change his mind, nor can he guarantee that he will not mention divorce with me first.
Am I wrong about restoring the facts?
Secondly, what have I done for my family for so many years. I have a 211 undergraduate degree in university. I graduated in order to be with him.Without signing in to a suitable work unit, I followed him directly to Shenzhen. Although several companies, large and small, have changed, they are not too bad. Except for having a child and not going to work for a year, they have been in the workplace for more than ten years, working while taking care of the family. The elderly in the family can't help, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not bad, and there are no major conflicts, but they definitely don't want to live with us, and the climate is not suitable, so I don't force it, I take it myself.
My mother helped bring it to 5 years old in kindergarten, and my mother-in-law came to bring it for a year. The children are nursed at noon and evening from the first grade, and I pick them up in the morning and evening. I can only go to get off work after sending him to school. I have to pick him up before 8 o'clock after work in the evening. Just wait for the child to grow up day after day. When I was in kindergarten and the lower grades, I was very sick, and I was in poor physique. I got sick once a month. Even the director of Huawei said that your leave will affect your performance. No way, can I ask him to please? Men's work is more important than women's, ha ha.
Later moved, real estate A was handed over, decorated happily, and finally moved into my dream home. However, the commute from the airport to Bantian was 2 hours away by subway, and the supervisor had many opinions on me at the time, so I had no choice but to resign. When I look for a job, I have to consider whether there is a way to take care of my children. The geographical location and time constraints are very limited. I finally found a small company to work. It was still my pick up and drop off the children sooner or later. I didn't expect that this company would soon encounter funding problems, the company went bankrupt, owed wages, and became unemployed.
is looking for it again, but still have to consider picking up the child, this is my last company. I have never worked overtime in this company. I ran almost as soon as I was off work, rode my bike to the gate of my child’s school for more than 20 minutes, picked up the child, and we took another hour on the subway to go home. In the morning, too, I took the subway for one hour to take the child to school, and then took a bicycle for more than 20 minutes to the company. Almost every day is the first one to arrive at the office. In this way, rain or shine, persisted for three years.
sounds easy? People who have never experienced it, including his father, find it easy. And he just drove ten minutes to the company every day. And I [tears], don't say anything.
He has traveled frequently in the past one or two years. He has been on business for more than half a year. Sometimes he can come back on weekends and leave on Sundays. It is equivalent to the burden of the child is all on me,Send it in the morning and pick it up in the evening. When you get home, you will rush to the kitchen to cook. I only have one hour of my own every day after the children go to bed and turn off the lights to clean up, wash and go to bed. I only sleep for more than 6 hours a day. I go to work with dark eye circles every day. Once a colleague asked me why my eye circles are so dark, I was stunned because I didn't feel it at all. I got used to it every day.
I would like to ask, without me, you have been on a business trip for the past two years, who will take care of your children? Do you now say that I have no contribution to the family? ! Speaking of contribution, the wages I have earned over the past ten years are not too small. Nothing is given to my parents or outsiders. I spend all my money on food and clothing at home. I don’t have a luxury item or a lot of money. Expensive clothes, no skin care cosmetics that are too expensive. The most lipstick I use is Dior 200 yuan, which is cheaper than our company's post-90s girls who work as the front desk. People can casually use a few Armani, but I never compare them with others.
I am a wife who is thrifty and keeps the house, hardworking and capable. The house is cleaned once a weekend. She is spotless, and she works and takes care of the children. You said that I have no contribution to the family? !
This company owes wages three years later. If I do not arbitrate, I will probably not get the three-month wages in arrears. This is a decision I made after weighing and weighing. This is the reason he scolded me again, saying that every time I quit my job, I don't find a good next home first. I have been searching for a long time. I have already submitted a lot of resumes before resigning, but I have not found them. Have you been working with this company in arrears? Should you continue to work at the risk of not returning your salary for three months? I was really afraid that the company would declare bankruptcy, because then even arbitration would not get a penny!
I quarreled that day and scolded me for not contributing to the family. How could I have the face to ask for half of the property? He was paying for the house I bought.
I don’t know what a contribution is. I only know that the Marriage Law stipulates that the joint property of husband and wife shall be divided equally. Even if it is a full-time mother who has not worked at home, the law stipulates that she owns half of the property.Why am I not qualified?
My heart is confused, very tired, and my chest is congested.
Just write so much. If you have a friend who has finished reading it patiently, please tell me what a woman in a marriage must do in order to have half of the family property in peace of mind.
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