Wen丨Xixiang Youqing
Time is not long, I hope you will see each other in my words!
"One person for a lifetime" is what every woman expects and yearns for. To be the only and firm choice for a man is not only a kind of happiness, but also a kind of luck.
However, whether in idol dramas or in real life, there are many scumbag men who change their hearts. Not every woman can be lucky enough to meet a man who truly loves herself.
But in fact, loving someone is not eternal, but has a shelf life. Even if a man loves you very much at the beginning, once he changes his heart, his love for you will expire.
In a relationship, the most terrible thing is not not not in love, but in love. The other person's "have been in love" will break your heart to the utmost; and your "still in love" will make it hard for you to let go and let go.
Therefore, after encountering a man’s change of heart, women usually have two ways of doing it:
One is to "get to the same end", to make the other party pay, such as letting the world know; the other is to "destroy yourself". Constantly deny and doubt self.
There is no doubt that neither of these methods is a wise choice. It is not good for him and for you. Whether you want to redeem it or want to regain it, it will not achieve the effect you want.
Actually, when encounters such things and people, it is better to let go instead of struggling hard. Once a man changes his heart, he will not treat you as he did before.
So, as a woman, you have to understand that men have changed their hearts, and smart women’s approach is to "selfish":
not to make things big
Many women choose to make things worse, such as going to the other party's work unit and finding a third party.
But in fact, this method is meaningless. You may be relieved for a while, but the impact and consequences will often make you more annoyed.
Once you make a big mess, make the other party lose face, and affect life and work, he will "break the jar".
For men, dignity and face are the most important. Once he loses these, he will become disregarded. In this case, he may still hurt you.
So, after discovering such a thing, what you have to do is not to make the matter big, but to be smart to give him a little face.
At this time, he will agree to your request and try to satisfy you in order to protect his face and image.
Don't hurt yourself
There are some stupid women who choose to hurt themselves after the other party changes their hearts.
In real life, we often see or hear some women who give up their lives for love, are depressed and unhappy.
Obviously, this way of handling is the most stupid. If a man no longer loves you, then no matter how you hurt yourself, he will not feel sorry for you.
And the harm you cause to yourself may accompany you throughout your life, leaving you with an indelible mark.
Therefore, smart women know to make themselves better and better, and make the other person regret it. Only a stupid woman can give up on herself and give up herself for love.
You know, life is not all love, there are many other things. A man who has changed his mind, he is not worthy of you to do this.
The more sad you are, the more you should cheer up and speak with facts.You have to know that it is his loss to let go of you, not your fault.
Strive for what you want
After men change their hearts, smart women know to fight for what they want and keep everything that is good for them.
In real life, some women choose to expose, so that the other party starts to be wary; while some women choose to let them go because of their love.
You have to understand that your recklessness, impulsivity and kindness will hurt you again, and you will find that the other party is really unsympathetic. For example, after some men change their hearts, they will transfer all their common property.
Therefore, smart women know that they are "quiet". Even after exposing the other party, he will be calm. In those times when the other party does not know, you should learn to collect and retain some evidence.
In this way, you can get what you want, such as material and children. As the saying goes, "you lose your wife and lose your army", and stupid women often do such things. Don't be stupid.
Concluding remarks:
There is such a sentence: "If you don't love yourself, how can others love you."
If you know how to think about yourself, how can the other person miss a trace of old feelings? Regardless of whether it is reviving or restoring, it actually doesn't make much sense.
"The wood is done", no matter how much it is done, it will hurt both sides. Just like the square fennel in the movie " in a hurry ", after Chen Xun changed his heart,Her world completely collapsed.
She couldn't accept the fact that "she loves Chen Xun, but Chen Xun no longer loves her", so she began to abandon herself, or it was a kind of revival of Chen Xun.
She had a relationship with a man she didn’t know, and she was pregnant...Finally, she suffered a severe physical and psychological shock, and Chen Xun fell into deep self-blame, and she completely disappeared from his world. NS.
Maybe, she achieved the goal of holding back, but in the end she still hurt herself.
Since love can't come back, it's better to be free and easy. You have to know that it really makes no sense to do this for people who don’t deserve it.
Remember, no matter when, women must love themselves and learn to "selfish".
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