Women must learn to protect themselves. In love, you can fall in love, be loved by one person, love in one way or another; but marriage is diversified. If you don’t even know what a failed marriage can have besides pain, you only have to learn one thing: turn around gently.
He and she were childhood sweethearts, and later together it was a matter of course. Passion is more than happy and beautiful, eat an apple and I want you to show my sweetness every bite. At that time, they all thought that such a love would last forever.
However, as the years passed, the glitz was filtered out and the truth was revealed. She is really a virtuous and traditional little woman. His happiness and anger are all the content of her life, gentle and considerate, cooking, washing and boiling bath water, even the small piece of toothpaste before washing in the morning was squeezed and placed under his chin.
And his true nature is a romantic seed, not to mention, no matter what the woman is so exposed to the smell of fireworks, she will inevitably make herself tacky in the end. After the initial freshness of love passed, he began the life and habit of thinking with his lower body: from time to time, he made some colorful news to hit her tear ducts, and then knelt in front of her again and again to beg her for forgiveness.
For the love she used to, she chooses to forgive and treats him better. She fantasizes to touch him with her actions, hoping that he will find it in her conscience in the weight of her mind, and change his wrongs. However, it cannot be said that there is no injury. What is even more painful is the result-she has chosen to endure countless times, but she still has nothing to lose. She has lost her youth love and marriage. Even though she voluntarily gave up, the hurt is real. The process of reaching Wu Wu was a process in which her love and soul were slightly delayed by a sharp knife.
The story of him and her actually happens every day. I always thought that I was enduring humiliation and bearing heavy burdens, but in fact I was just enduring thick. The word "heavy" had no weight except hurt.
There is a classic Hongxian saying: To conquer a romantic man, we must rely on fighting wits, conquering smart men, flirting, conquering honest men, and acting like a baby! But often,In the process of love, women use the wrong way to count the wrong people. Whether it is a romantic man, a smart man, or an honest man, they all like the traditional way, and they pay more. Or, they often use love to show loftiness and generosity, and like to bear the burden of humiliation.
When a man crosses the bottom line of morality or marriage, a woman does not need a simple "roll" to end, but chooses forbearance wishfully. It seems that she is a unique strange woman in the world, and sooner or later he will fall and turn around in his own humiliation if the flowers and plants outside are tired of plucking.
In fact, it is very particular about the words "bearing humiliation".
In ancient times, women had only one word "forbearance" for their husbands. Because there was no other choice, men controlled the mainstream of society and the right to speak, and even public opinion and sympathy would not be on your side. If you can't bear it, you will be demonized as a whole, and you can no longer gain a foothold in society, and women have no choice but to bear it. But this forbearance is called forbearance and humiliation, and there is a word "heavy" in it, because the consequences of forbearance are better than those of intolerance, and forbearance has some value, such as generous reputation, family status, life security, and so on.
Even today, there are many people who have endured the value. For example, many years ago, Hilary, who stood on the cusp of the world in the face of her husband’s derailment, joined hands with her husband and Clinton to stand in the front of public opinion. They did not resent or hate, and even supported him. He has the strength to face the gossip with him. Do you think she is forbearing humiliation for love? That would be wrong, she was for the word "heavy" after "forbearance". For Hillary Hillary, her "heavy" is the smooth political career of Clinton and herself, the righteous master of the White House, and the generosity and reputation of the first lady. She endured it and swallowed the humiliation into her stomach.
There is also an American. The former governor of New York was exposed to openly hiring prostitutes. Public opinion was in an uproar, and he had doubts and contempt for the governor's taste and character. The critical moment was when his wife stood up with him and faced the public with a virtuous attitude.
First,Wives who can tolerate their husband's derailment and engage in peachy news, their husbands will not be ordinary grassroots. That Hillary is the current Secretary of State of the United States! The former governor, with the strong support of his wife, kept his political status.
Back then, Hillary and the wife of the governor did not know how many people hurt the minds of the little man: Look, the wife of the other family is a virtuous, knowledgeable man. Yes, such a good thing that having an affair will not cause trouble, which man is not happy to have stomach ache. So there are some women who choose to forbearance, look up to XX, and do not hesitate to endure a cancer. However, I forgot to look at the results of other people's forbearance and my own results. They endured to the end, they had a political future, and the White House could live in. Even the worst, they still held back the glory and wealth. But, ask your heart, what did you endure. Probably it has been hurt and humiliated time and time again. For those animals who think with their lower body, it is the word "forbearance" that will take you down.
Therefore, if a woman chooses to endure the humiliation of a man in marriage or love, she must first ask her own heart: whether this "humiliation" forbearance is "heavy" to bear.
Of course, this "heavy" can be spiritual or material benefits. The key is to have benefits for yourself. Otherwise, there is no weight and no benefit, only harm. If you bear with it, you might as well simply say: Get out! It ended perfectly, crisply and neatly.
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