Rousseau said: "Man is born free, but he is everywhere in chains. People who think they are the masters of everything else are slaves more than everything else."
No one can control The other party can't help but control himself.
Whether it is a husband or wife, a confidant, or a lover, if you have excessive freedom, you have crossed the boundary.
No matter how good the relationship between the opposite sex is, it may also be defeated by the following things. Good relationship requires management, remember!
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takes the other party’s goodness as "a matter of course".
If you love someone, you should give in your whole life, not just reap the rewards. However, if a person pays for too long without getting a response, then the effort loses its meaning and it will be chilling.
There is such a story: On Valentine's Day, the husband gave his wife a "520" red envelope and a lot of roses to her.
The wife is very happy, but she didn't even make dinner on this day.
My husband came home, ordered takeaway, and fell asleep early, without saying a word. This home is freezing cold.
If a person is used to accepting others' good, he must also be used to responding to others' good, otherwise he will be too unreasonable.
"'s Book of Rites, Qu Li Shang " wrote: "If you don’t come, you’re not polite; you don’t contact, you’re not polite."
Take Li. Even if the gifts are not equal,But the meaning of gifts is equally profound.
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Accept the good of each other, and always "will not refuse".
Love mentor Tu Lei said: "After drinking a good wine, when it is half open, smart women should know how to stop."
Actually, whether men or women are in love In the middle of the world, there must be enough to stop, and can't promise everything. Some things can’t be helped; some things can’t be done; some things are better not to be said.
For example, when friends of the opposite sex are dating, a woman who is wronged at home can complain to the other party, but she cannot make an appointment at any time. After a man receives an invitation, he should be treated wisely and cannot be with each other in the middle of the night.
People of the opposite sex must learn to refuse. If they are not a husband and wife, they must not have any non-discriminatory thoughts. When a husband and wife get along, they must not have the behavior of calling to come and go.
If you don't know how to refuse, you will be regarded as an "good old man". After countless grievances, your feelings will disappear.
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Contact each other, always "anytime, anywhere".
Yesterday afternoon, a female colleague of mine received an invitation from a male student to go to dinner together.
Originally, she bought the vegetables and was going home to cook. This day happened to be his son's birthday.
She said a few rebuttals, but the male student could not tolerate her resignation.
Early this morning, a female colleague told me softly : "Hey, I quarreled with him."
I immediately understood,She didn't distinguish between "which is more important and less", because a dinner hurt the feelings of the husband and wife.
Going to meet friends of the opposite sex anytime and anywhere shows that the relationship between two people is unusual; chatting on WeChat anytime, anywhere, and slowly will have love, when no one can get out of the relationship.
Couples get along and can’t contact "anytime, anywhere". If this is the case, it means that the two people are "not trustworthy enough."
Two people get along and need to be in touch, but the "blank time" to keep in touch is to distinguish time periods. Too much contact is a side effect.
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The topic of chat is always "unscrupulous".
" Warning World Bulletin " wrote: "Speaking three-pointers when you meet people, you may not be able to throw your heart away."
At any time, you must speak with a scale, and you must not be silent.
No matter how good the relationship between two people is, they must keep the bottom line of the chat.
Don’t expose the old, don’t turn over old accounts, don’t insult personality, don’t hurt the other’s parents, don’t entangle the other’s shortcomings, don’t expose the other’s privacy, and don’t talk about family scandals. Once the bottom line of these kinds of chats is broken, Then there is no more to talk.
For example, when chatting with friends of the opposite sex, they often treat each other's lover as a laughing stock, or talk about the quarrel between the couple. Invisible, it is "which pot can't be opened and which pot should be mentioned", and the chat becomes short.
For example, when a husband and wife are together, they devalue each other's parents and appear to be very unfilial, hurting the feelings of the original family.
"Knowing everything is endless, saying is endless", it is not suitable for all scenes, nor can it be a fixed mode of chat.
If you help someone, you can speak thoroughly; if you care about someone,You can say a few more words; but if you hurt someone, don't say a word; if you have suspicions, you need to have reservations.
Whether it’s face-to-face chat or WeChat chat, it’s always talkative and playful. If it’s a group chat, it’s even more necessary to avoid certain problems and save face for each other.
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When it comes to money, we want to "possess it for ourselves".
read such a short paragraph.
A woman is going to buy groceries and finds that she has no money. However, she didn’t want to withdraw the money, so she had an idea and called her husband: “The house is on fire, do you have any important property to take away?”
The man said, “Hey, go and look in the shoe cabinet, the bottom one. On the first floor, there is fifty thousand yuan. Take it, and run quickly."
An "unexpected" thing, the matter of hiding a man's private money, has all been figured out, and the money has also been in the hands of a woman.
The road is one foot high, and the magic is one foot high.
Those who deposit private money should understand that their own money cannot be hidden from their lover.
If you are friends of the opposite sex, the two people have to be clear about money. To cooperate and work together, there must also be rules, and it must not be a silly account; borrowing money requires an IOU, not "two pieces of paper." In addition, it is necessary to make it clear with the families of both parties that family conflicts should not be caused.
"Talking about money" can see the feelings clearly, but also can test the true feelings.
Really good relationship, two people can talk about money, and can also make money together.
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Concluding remarks.
In a person's life, it is not easy to meet the right love; to meet a friend of the opposite sex is the most beautiful fate.
If you don't know how to cherish, if you don't follow the rules, no matter how good your relationship is, you will die.
No one owes you a lifetime, and no one can bear the unruly way of getting along.
May you, meet someone, stay close to watch, love or not, always be there.
Author: Commoner Crude Food.
The picture in the article comes from the Internet.
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