Contributor: Yu Ensheng
Talker: Zhao Fang, pseudonym, male, 31 years old
The focus of this issue-
After breaking up, he was paranoid about her Feeling helpless and painful: do you have to tear your skin and become an enemy if you fall in love?
■ At a party a year ago, I met Xiaoyu.
Recently, the biggest entertainment news on the Internet should be that several male stars went to jail or were forced to retreat. I watched and smiled bitterly: If I were a star, Xiao Yu would be the bamboo and the dew, no matter if I deserved it or innocent, I would die miserably...
I am very ordinary, so I don’t need to be hot, the reason why I say I don’t want to be stigmatized anymore by telling my own experience.
Xiaoyu and I have been in love since we met to we broke up, but after a year, the final breakup was agreed by both parties, but now, she splashed me with dirty water, saying that I was a liar, not only cheating sex, but also cheating money. . In the face of slander, I have a hard time talking about it, and I can only clarify some things in this way.
One year ago, I met Xiao Yu at a party. There were a lot of people at that party, and I felt bored, so I looked down at my phone. When a group of people toasted each other, I started to retreat and said hello to a friend who came with me, wanting to sneak away quietly. But as soon as I got out of the room, a girl followed me and called me: Hi, handsome guy, can I go with you?
This girl who proactively greets is Xiao Yu. She said that she was also dragged by a friend, and she felt boring, and she wanted to leave early.
When I took a taxi that day,Xiaoyu said that she was on the same road with me, and asked if I could carpool. In the taxi, after a brief introduction of myself, I didn't expect us to be alumni, but she just enrolled when I graduated. The road is not close, because I'm talking about interesting things on campus, and I'm home without knowing it. I want to pay the fare, but Xiao Yu refused, saying that her house is quite far away. I was worried, so I added her WeChat and asked her to reply to me when she got home.
After we started chatting, I found that Xiao Yu was a particularly positive girl: also majoring in law, I worked as a civil servant, Xiao Yu was a lawyer, and after heavy work, she also passed the examination certificate.
Because I appreciate it, when Xiao Yu said to have a meal together, I invited her to the hotel opened by her.
After a meal, my mother fell in love with Xiao Yu: This girl is suitable to be a daughter-in-law for our family. You can inquire about her family's situation, as long as it is not too bad, you will chase her.
Listening to my mother's words, I was a little tempted. When I didn't know how to speak, Xiao Yu sent a message at midnight: I like you very much. Do you like me?
I am very happy, because I chased girls before, and Xiao Yu was the first to confess to me. I haven't replied yet, Xiao Yu called: You don't need to be entangled, you can't be lovers, we can still be friends.
It's all here, I quickly said: I just don't think I am worthy of you.
Xiao Yu giggled when he heard it: Your emotional intelligence is so high.
In this way, Xiao Yu and I are in love.
■ After a big quarrel, I broke up because of my disagreement.
Before I met Xiao Yu, I had a couple of different love relationships, but I paid a lot, but I didn’t get the right results, which made me very long. Time to talk about love change.
After falling in love with Xiao Yu,I was still a little hesitant, but soon, Xiao Yu transformed me: a greeting message must be sent at 6 am every day, and I bought lunch at noon and came to eat with me. As long as she doesn't work overtime, she will either watch a movie with me or accompany me. Swimming, and as long as I show what I want or do, she will bring things in front of me...
Not only that, with the interaction, I found that Xiao Yu is very different from the girls before, and she has a special sense of professionalism. Qiang, in addition to the work of the law firm, she also gave advice to several companies. When she said the income, I was shocked. Xiao Yu doesn't like to dress up, she often goes out for dates in professional attire, and she doesn't wear makeup. Once I joked that my girlfriends are so fragrant, but my girlfriend is full of money. When I meet again, seeing her change into fashionable clothes and light makeup, I know that she cares about me very much. I was very touched. When she worked overtime, I stewed the bird's nest and sent it away. She had a fever and went to the hospital to get a drip, and I was also there for the whole process. Later, my mother felt that she was a single-parent family and didn't agree with us to get along, but I didn't care, but treated Xiaoyu better.
The relationship quickly heats up. After three months of love, we are together. Unexpectedly, the relationship between the two has changed, and Xiao Yu has also changed.
She becomes irritable first. There was no reply to the message. I was a little distracted when she spoke. Forgot to give her a gas card, which became the reason for her to lose her temper. But before, she never cared about these things. Then I want to control my life. From what clothes I wear to what friends I make, she has the final say. When I was thinking about the theory, I found that I was no opponent at all. She was too good at talking, and I couldn't find a reason to refute it. The two began to quarrel, and after the quarrel, she fought coldly. I think I am a boy, so I should be more generous and take the initiative to seek peace every time. But I couldn't help the frequency of quarreling too frequently, I was a little tired, and finally I broke up after a big quarrel.
At that time, I was having dinner with my friend, and Xiao Yu insisted on sending her the paper bag that I was pulling in my car. I said to send it right after the meal, but she reminded me one WeChat message every minute. I didn’t want to return, so she called. I was very annoyed and didn’t answer. As a result, when I gave her the file bag, she directly I fell to the ground: Go and die...
I'm on fire,Turned his head and left, sent her WeChat to propose breaking up when he got home.
Xiaoyu didn't reply to WeChat. I thought it was like this. She must have agreed to break up, so she ignored it. But I never expected that a week later, she sent a letter that made me feel incredible.
■ She agreed to break up, but made various claims for compensation
First, she agreed to break up, and then listed my three major crimes. One was to deceive her feelings and said that she would marry her after half a year, but she was too late Nothing happened; the second was the money that deceived her. During the love period, she spent a total of fifty-six thousand five hundred and seventy-two yuan for me, and I only spent nine thousand six hundred and twenty-three fifty cents for her; the third was defilement. In addition to her body, except for the first and second time, she could feel my love. Others made love to her because of my impulse and desire... Finally, she filed a claim for compensation: emotional injury and youth loss. One hundred thousand yuan, return the money she spent on me, plus interest, and a solemn apology to her.
After reading it, I laughed angrily: I will lose money even if I break up, is it sick?
But I couldn’t laugh anymore. Xiaoyu found my mother and told about the whole process of our relationship. He took out the printed WeChat chat records, retelled the love words I said, and gave her to The copies of the invoices for my purchases were also placed on the table.
My mother felt embarrassed, so she picked up the phone and yelled at me, saying that it was not that she had no money, so why did she take advantage of the girl.
The truth is that Xiaoyu bought me those gifts on his own initiative. I don’t want her to be annoyed, and she doesn’t even give money.
I couldn't argue with a word, and I was so annoyed that I quickly transferred 60,000 yuan to Xiao Yu and said that I don't need the money I spent on her. Soon, Xiao Yu gave me 10,000 yuan, said one yard and one yard, and finally asked: When will the 100,000 be given?
When I was asked, I was stunned. After a while, I realized that she was talking about youth loss fee and physical damage fee.I replied: Are you too funny? We are lovers, because we love each other, what do you want me to think?
I am not ashamed to say that Xiaoyu takes the initiative in many cases. But even so, she was irritated: how precious is a girl's youth? Many people know that I have something to do with you. I will definitely be affected if I find another person. The loss of one million is not enough. Therefore, this little money is only symbolic and is the spiritual compensation I should get...
Seeing Xiaoyu's reluctance, I was too lazy to talk to her, so I ignored her. A few days passed, and she didn't move much, I thought it was over. But when I breathed a sigh of relief, our section chief called me to his office and said to talk to me about something.
■ I broke up and got me to the point where life is worse than death.
Seeing the mysterious look of the section chief, I thought I could be promoted this time, but when he opened his mouth, I almost felt dizzy. past.
Section chief said: Your girlfriend wrote a letter saying that you cheated on her feelings, and what else, ask the unit to deal with you. The director asked me to talk to you, don’t affect my future because of my personal life...
I resisted my anger and talked about the ins and outs of the matter. The section chief said: Everyone knows your personality, and I also routinely tell you about it. , You have a good talk with that woman, don't make any extra troubles.
Coming out of the section chief’s office, I went directly to Xiaoyu’s unit. She received the call and immediately went downstairs. Seeing me, she looked calm and said: I only have ten minutes, so please say what you have to say.
When I said that I would not give her money, Xiao Yu stared at me and said very calmly: Wait for two days for you, then you can just do not regret it.
In the early morning of the third day, Xiao Yu sent the complaint letter to a group with us. The content was still the feelings and money she paid for me. How did I swear at the beginning,How to promise, how do I escape and play rogue now. This is a large group of more than 400 people, many of whom are my colleagues and classmates. They privately believed in me, some asked what was going on, and some gave me tips and asked me to sue Xiaoyu.
I don't even want to meet Xiao Yu, but in order to solve the problem, I ask Xiao Yu's girlfriend to come forward and make peace. Unexpectedly, she refused: I know that Xiaoyu did not do it right, but she is very paranoid and decisive. If I go to say, we can’t even do a friend. I don’t want to lose this friend because I In times of difficulty, Xiao Yu gave me a lot of help...
Xiao Yu saw that I was not moving, and wrote to the Commission for Discipline Inspection. While I was writing the report, I was so angry that I was crying: Who is so unlucky like me, and broke up to the point where life is worse than death...
(The characters in the text are all pseudonyms, and the opinions of the people in the text do not represent the original Report and author’s position and opinions)
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