Some psychologists once said that whether a person has skills can be known through visual inspection. The famous Chinese psychologist Wang Yangming once pointed out that people are incapable and can know at a glance. What do you think? In fact, people who lack skills basically have these characteristics. Let's talk about it in detail below.
1. Let your emotions control yourself.
There is a saying that you don’t make any decisions when you are angry. But in reality, many people cannot get rid of the influence of bad emotions, making them lose their chains at some key points.
Li Meng is such a person. A few years ago, by seizing the opportunity, Li Meng won the first pot of gold in his life, and then his business went smoothly.
However, compared with his keen sense of opportunity to capture touch, it is surprising that Li Meng cannot control his emotions when he is angry. Indeed, as a person who can achieve something in their career, their psychological quality should be excellent, but Li Meng failed to do so. In a major business decision, Li Meng happened to be irritated by his subordinates, and he was very angry. Others kept persuading him to relax, but in the end he made a wrong decision and the company was dragged into the quagmire.
In this incident, Li Meng could not effectively control his emotions, but was swallowed by emotions. Don't make decisions when you're angry, and don't make promises when you're happy. Maybe some people with bad intentions just want to use this to force you to make mistakes.
2. You can do everything in your mouth.
This kind of person usually does not say why, but when it is really put into practice, they are powerless. People like this are best at flattering, flattering, and simply have no strength to be the truth.
Therefore, when the outside world knows his personality, such a person will be despised and ignored. How can such a person be reused? To put it bluntly, this person can't speak at first glance.
3. Be content with the status quo and only look at the present.
This kind of person is more suitable to describe the ancient small peasants, saying that small peasant thought is deeply ingrained and does not want to make changes easily. Instead, they like to mechanically repeat their actions continuously in the existing mode.
In ancient agriculture, this was not a big problem, but in today's era, farmers should keep pace with the times. Unlike the past, such as farming methods, agricultural mechanization has also greatly improved planting efficiency. If a farmer still relies solely on human labor as in ancient times, the farm is likely to close down soon.
In human behavior, if you are content with the status quo for a long time and only look at the present without looking at the future, this person is probably not self-motivated.
Some people say that this is a way of living in poverty and enjoying happiness. What needs to be explained is that modern people shoulder more responsibilities than ancient people. Now kindergartens are competing, elementary schools and middle schools are competing, and children have various tutoring and nutrition packages. All these issues involve money. As a reliable parent, they will not pursue the best for their children, but they will try their best to give their children the best they can.
Also, being content with the status quo is equivalent to boiling a frog in warm water. He has performed well in a certain field and has no ambitions of his own. However, as the environment deteriorated, he wanted to escape this harsh environment, but found that it was too late.
4. Low emotional intelligence.
Some people say that IQ determines the lower limit of a person, and EQ determines the upper limit of a person. In fact, this is true. In the long history, there are quite a lot of people with high IQs, but not all of them can get to the highest level.
Xiao Shenyang was a famous minister in the Qing Dynasty. Speaking of his path to prosperity, from a small bodyguard to a city lord, Xiao Shenyang's IQ did not hinder him all the way, his EQ is high, and proper control of various interpersonal relationships is the key. On the other hand, in reality, some people who do poorly are inferior in terms of emotional intelligence. The most common way of dealing with others is not knowing how to respect others and being self-centered. Such people can't go far.
5. shirk responsibility. People like
are not uncommon in life. Some people have no abilities, but the level of shirking responsibility is very high. When they meet a clear-headed leader who knows the internal situation of the organization well, such a person will not be able to eat.
The responsibility is on your shoulders,Prove that you have value, and show that you need to continue to work hard for it. When you give up responsibility, you will have rules to follow. In many cases, whether you can do well depends not on your ability, but on whether you have sufficient sense of responsibility. If you do, but your ability is not enough, you will do everything possible to mobilize various resources to help you get things done. This is also an important principle for us to mix in society. attitude decides everything.
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