Zhang Ailing said that when love is about to end, it will be over. When that happens, you don’t want to end it.
Yes, because love is something that needs to be done in both directions. It is not a person who has taken 99 steps and the other party is hesitant to take the first step.
When you are still indulging in a relationship, the other party has already asked you to break up. Pleading hard is not the best way, even if you can keep his person, you may not be able to keep his heart.
Although it is painful to break up, but being with someone who is not in your heart, the long-term pain is not as good as the short-term pain. You know, time will change everything after all. One day, you will face the sun and find someone who treats you sincerely.
It’s not that difficult to let go of a relationship, but it’s just 3 steps. If you stick to it, you will win.
01 Unable to accept reality, plunged into darkness and pain
In this vast sea of people, it is not so easy to meet someone you like. If you meet it, you must cherish it.
But the love in this world, sometimes you don’t go all out to get the same feedback. You have exhausted your whole body and mind, but sometimes the other person turns a blind eye and doesn't cherish you.
All understand this truth. But no longer love, knowing how to stop loss is the wisest way.
His heart is not on you anymore, if you cling to the obsession, you will only hurt yourself in the end. Although accepting reality is an extremely painful thing, it is better than him cheating you every day and making you scared.
The word "break up" is cruel, but after all, it is an indisputable fact. Learn to face it even in pain.
The first time your lover leaves, it must seem to you like cramps and skin, the pain is unbearable, and you are at a loss. It doesn't matter, this is a normal state. If you don't feel any sadness, it means you haven't paid seriously.
Some people say that the best way to forget your old love is to find another love. But this is actually the worst choice. The consequences of not choosing food are often greater than the loss of the previous relationship.
Being broken in love is not terrible, but it is afraid of losing your mind. If you don’t know what to do after a broken relationship, you might as well keep yourself busy, attend more friends’ gatherings, and try to divert your attention.
Either choose a few of your hobbies and get drunk in them. Or spend your time and energy on your work, and there will be unexpected results. You must know that your potential is endless, maybe it's you for a promotion and salary increase.
No matter what, try to minimize the time when you are alone, and you will get to the second step.
02 I always fall into the memory of him and miss those sweet times
to live with one person for a while,There will always be various memories. There are some traces, even if you work hard, you will not be able to erase them.
People often ask, how can I forget the person I loved? In fact, the more you deliberately forget, the more you will inadvertently remember, there is really no need to do this.
If you always think of the other person, you might as well set aside a period of time to think about him seriously, not only about the time he was in love with you, but also about the times when you were not getting along well.
Slowly, you will be liberated from your emotions. Although the love is beautiful, it is not as perfect as you imagined. There are still many flaws.
When you can let yourself manage this relationship from beginning to end, you will find that there are many problems.
No love is a sign, but you didn't notice it at that time. As the clues are exposed, you will find more and more that your contribution is not worth it.
He is not that good, and you are too crazy. After all, your feelings when you are together are not equal.
At this time, a feeling of fortune will rise in your heart. Although you may cry when you have such thoughts, you may also feel heartache, but you have subconsciously driven this relationship out of your heart.
The process may be painful, but there is always a price to pay if you want to make a decision. Abscesses that grow on the body, if they are not cruel, will spread and affect the overall health.
You will soon discover that compared to when you just fell in love,You can already speak frankly about him.
03 Facing the future, give yourself opportunities and opportunities for others
Some people love deeply, and it is difficult to get out of it for a while; some people are more open and do not regard love as the most important thing in life.
But anyway, after going through the first two steps, to the third stage, it is almost dawn.
You will find more and more that in life, there is not only love, but also many beautiful things.
And you don’t have to give up the entire forest because of a single tree. After all, life is limited and energy is limited. Why bother to compete with the unbearable past, do more things you like, and you will be worthy of this life.
When you think like this, you basically beat yourself. Next, you will live a more exciting life. And you who are getting better and better will inevitably attract the eyes that admire you.
At this time, you can temporarily not accept new feelings, but it is definitely not "once bitten by a snake, ten years afraid of ropes", but because you are thinking about what you need. What kind of love is it.
Summarize the experience and lessons of the last love failure, remind yourself not to fall in love again, no matter when, you can't give up your self-esteem and principles, and you can't sacrifice everything for the other party.
, you know,When you have nothing, career is your best friend. It can not only ensure that you have no worries about food, clothing, housing, and transportation, but also divide most of your energy and make you better.
Shi Tiesheng said: "No matter how much you are disappointed with the opposite sex, you have no reason to be disappointed in love. Because love itself is hope and is always a kind of hope in life. Love is your own quality, it is yourself. Your heart and soul is your own situation and has nothing to do with others."
You are becoming more and more calm, and more and more self-reliant.
When you no longer regard love as the theme of your life, you have become your own master.
You believe that no matter how hard the road ahead, as long as you go in the right direction, no matter how rugged, you are closer to happiness than standing still.
You will work hard for the life you want, and you will run forward to meet the person you like.
Although, you still don’t know where that person is and when he will appear, but you will never give up yourself easily.
Hayao Miyazaki said that life will get better if it is bad to a certain extent, because it cannot be worse. After working hard, I learned many things, insisted on persisting, and came over.
Actually, love is the same.
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