What is the experience of the second marriage for the elderly? 71-year-old woman said: He surprises me again and again

Introduction

It is said that second-married couples, not many can get to the end. Because there are too many problems for second-married couples, let alone remarrying in old age, it is more affected by many external environments.

Old people have the freedom to love and to marry, but many old people do not get the support and recognition of their children and the blessings of relatives and friends when they remarry. Even get criticism and incomprehension from people around you.

But once a person is unwilling to live alone, then to him, every day's life is like torturing himself. So looking for a wife again is to help you in your life and to accompany you for the rest of your life. After all, children have their own lives and pressures, not to mention the huge gap and gap between the two generations. Therefore, only the wife is the person most worthy of relying on and cherishing.

The 71-year-old Aunt Chen ignored the opposition of her son and daughter-in-law, and ignored the pointers of neighbors and villagers. Resolutely and the 79-year-old Wang walked into the hall of the second marriage, and even the two sons and daughter-in-law were indifferent to her because of the remarriage, but Aunt Chen said that she did not regret it.

So for the 71-year-old Aunt Chen, step into marriage again. What kind of feeling and experience will her second marriage round house be like? Happy Aunt Chen described it like this...

The 71-year-old Aunt Chen said:

My marriage was also happy. It's just that our marriage at that time was not like it is now. When we got married, we were all well-known and we hope to be blessed by more people.

And when I got married, it was like stealing people. This is the tradition of many rural people. Just after dawn, the ex-husband came to me with the donkey. The donkey’s head is wrapped with several red cloth flowers. Among them, the largest cloth flower in the center of the donkey’s head represents good fortune and happiness.

And I was woken up by my mother early in the morning to wash my face, and I didn't even know I had to brush my teeth at that time. The so-called new clothes are just clean clothes without holes. Originally, both parents negotiated to buy me a new set of clothes as a wedding gown. However, because the ex-husband’s family is supporting the poverty, the loyal and honest father thinks that there is no need to embarrass his family. So when I got married, my ex-husband didn't buy me a new dress or new gift.In that era, we were normal, unlike the big banquet and so many dowries that we would get married now, and there would be no RV as a bargaining chip for marriage.

In this way, the ex-husband brought a donkey wearing a red cloth flower to her natal home, and with the support of his parents, he rode on the donkey. After the ex-husband and parents bid farewell, we even embarked on the road of marriage. On the road, the two of us were so embarrassed that there was no verbal communication, let alone our eyes facing each other. It was about two hours' journey from her mother's home to her husband's house, and there was only the collision of the four hooves of a donkey and the road on the way. Once one person coughs for a lifetime or other loud sounds are made, the other's heart beats rapidly and thumps.

My ex-husband and I only met two people before we got married, and didn't say a word. So the road is very quiet.

The first thing you do when you return to your in-laws on the wedding day is to pick up your apron and start tidying up the dishes. Because the in-laws have close relatives and friends to have a wedding banquet. And our wedding banquet at that time was just a few more slices of risotto, which was already very fragrant.

When I finish cleaning and other housework at home, it is already noon. In the afternoon, I went up the mountain to hoe and mow the grass with my family.

This is my new clothes, wedding banquet and housework on my wedding day.

After five years of marriage, my ex-husband and I have two sons. The family is also happy and happy. Although the life is bitter, everyone around us suffers from the same era of big pot meal and mass production. So I just got used to it.

I thought that ordinary life would go on day after day, year after year. And our life is getting better and better, and our days are getting more and more prosperous. However, destiny always joked to me. When the two sons were 18 and 20 years old, the ex-husband suddenly fell ill and died. No one in our family can bear such bad news.

Our family is unable to extricate themselves from such pain. Those who have passed away have passed away, and those who are alive still have to run for life, fight for their children, and plan for the future.

In this way, with the help of in-laws, when I was 51 years old, my two sons were also married.And I have my own job and family. I was planning to go to work in a nearby town, but my two sons suggested that I help them take care of their children. The two daughter-in-laws were still young and could go out to work and earn money. In this way, I took on the responsibility of taking care of my grandchildren and the responsibility of cooking for the daughters-in-law.

Both sons live in a town, and I am also responsible for transporting the children to and from school every day. Speaking of heart-wrenching words, I feel very tired every day. Either on the way to pick up and drop off the children, or on the way to cook for the two families, busy every day, very tired. Sometimes when I stay at my son's house and meet my daughter-in-law and arguing with my son, my heart is very disturbed and anxious, and I don't know what position and identity I will be in the home to educate them? Even if I scolded and beaten my son, the daughter-in-law after the quarrel treated me coldly.

At the same time, my eating habits and living habits gradually differed too far from those of my daughter-in-law. But in order to meet and cater to their work and rest habits and living habits, I need to constantly observe them and often listen to a large group of different suggestions from them. Whether the cooking suits the taste has also become my most annoying thing. After all, people from two families eat together, it is inevitable that there will be differences in taste. In this way, I still insisted because the children need me and the grandchildren need me.

During these years of taking care of the children, I have been thinking about finding a suitable wife for myself. When I saw the elderly in the neighbors, the couple supported each other and supported each other all day long. Even two old couples with poor ears needed to speak loudly to ensure that each other could hear each other. I often hear two people talking very loudly, and they talk very happily. At this time, I am very envious of such old couples. Because they can have a common topic with each other, and can't be rejected because of each other's shortcomings. So I have been looking for a suitable wife for myself, but this is just a secret deep in my heart.

Until I heard that the old secretary in the town had passed away because of his wife's illness, he had been single for two years, and was also when the trustee was looking for a suitable wife. I think this is my opportunity and also the opportunity of the retired old secretary. So I volunteered to recommend myself, without the knowledge of my son and daughter-in-law,The old secretary and I have been quietly connected, which is just a process of understanding.

During our private understanding, I discovered that the old secretary is a very principled person. There are no hobbies in life. I dress neatly and carefully all the time, speak humorously and humorously, do things with reason, and behave according to my original intentions. Although he is 79 years old, he has not worked hard since he was young, and he is more particular about his eating habits. So I look very healthy and look young, and because I have been struggling for life, my hair has grayed a lot and wrinkles have grown a lot. So the age difference between the two of us doesn't seem to be much.

In terms of physical health, the old secretary is healthier. On the contrary, my back is a little hunched and my waist hurts a little. In this way, after a period of understanding, the two of us feel that we agree with each other, and are really looking for a partner for the rest of our lives. Our two life goals and ideas are very similar. He hopes that he will have someone to accompany him for the rest of his life, someone to chat with him, someone to exercise with him, someone holding hot water when he is sick, and someone handing him a warm hand when he is alone. I myself prefer to have a wife by my side. Once I get older, I will inevitably have all kinds of uncomfortable and uncomfortable moments. At this time, only when my wife is by my side will I look so comfortable.

When all my grandchildren have gone to middle or high school, I decided to live with the old secretary. However, in order to show his loyalty, the old secretary really hoped that the two of us would receive a marriage certificate. He said that the legally-protected marriage certificate is the driving force for the two of us to stick to it for a long time, and it will not easily break up because of some contradictions and problems.

However, Lao Shu and I remember remarrying, but it attracted firm opposition from our two sons and daughter-in-law. They simply thought I was confused about my remarriage. I even feel that other people will talk about it because of their unfilial piety that makes me grow old, and I still look for my wife. My sons and daughter-in-laws even thought that my remarriage was a shameful thing. At this age, my wife would smear their faces.

and I am happier for my old age,I hope I have a close wife to accompany me in my old age. I decided to ignore the opposition of my son and daughter-in-law, and resolutely walked with the old secretary. Because I feel that most of my life has been dedicated to my children. Now that they are married and established, I can't give them any help. It will only add some trouble and burden to them. This kind of life always makes me feel ashamed of them, it is better to find a wife for myself and live my own life.

In this way, when I was 69 years old, the old secretary and I walked firmly together.

On our wedding day, the children of the old secretary are very supportive of us together. So everyone got together lively and treated me kindly and politely. The old secretary took care of me all the time, for fear that I would be uncomfortable seeing outsiders. After his children had finished eating and left, only me and the old secretary were left. This was also our first official round house.

This evening, the old secretary took out his savings card and some valuable items left by his ancestors for generations, and gave me the only more than 10,000 cash in his family. He said that from now on I will be the hostess of this house, and he will unreservedly hand over all his valuable things to me for safekeeping. At the same time, she promised: No matter what happens in the future, she will stand with me to resolve together, whether it is the opinions of the children or other economic disputes, he will resolve them one by one for me. He will do everything he can to take care of me and protect me, he will also spoil me as an old princess, and my old life will be happy and joyful. At the same time, he said that because of his older age, if he died suddenly due to his physical strength or illness, he had already written his will in advance. One of the important contents of the will is that his house will be used to support me until my death, sons and daughters. Only then can we recover the property rights. But his personal general property will be inherited by me, and I can distribute the inherited property according to my wishes.

Looking at the sincere words and actions of the old secretary, I was pleasantly surprised and moved to tears. It made me feel that I was right to stay with the old secretary despite the objections of my daughter-in-law. Only this evening allowed me to realize how happy it is to have a real wife, and this evening, I realized what the real happiness of being a woman is.Because the old secretary gave me a sense of dependence, a sense of security, and a sense of steadfastness, everything he did was for my sake, showing that he was the one who sincerely wanted to spend the rest of my life with me.

Now that I have been married for two years, the old secretary has never been two-minded to me. In front of his children, he tried his best to protect me, so both his children and my children accepted me. All this lies in his Zhou Xuan and attitude. The two of us always go in and out together, take a walk together, talk together, and even grow some vegetables in our yard, as exercise. There is always so much happiness in life. The most important thing is that the two of us accompany each other, support each other, tolerate each other, and understand each other. So remarriage not only gave me happiness, but also gave me a stable and warm home.

Summary

Many people say that halfway couples will not be happy, but in fact, they cannot be generalized.

Whether the couple is halfway or the original match, the important thing is how the two people operate and maintain. The misfortune of marriage is not caused by the marriage itself, but how the two people in the marriage treat each other. Both of them have a sincere heart, love each other's heart, understand each other's heart, and understand each other's heart, so whether it is a half-way couple Even the original couple can find their own happiness.