In life, we often hear such conversations. "You are really good."
"No no..."
"You are really beautiful."
"No no..."
When being praised by others, our first reaction is to deny, not to accept. This is related to the education received from childhood. There are many examples of modest in China since ancient times, such as Chengmen Lixue and Mei Lanfang apprenticeship. Everyone tells us to be humble and not to be complacent, but excessive humility is not humility, but and . We subconsciously feel that what others say is flattering, denying the sincerity of others, and naturally we will not think these words are true.
But I hope the next time you hear these words, you will realize how good you are, instead of denying yourself. Close your eyes and think about what other people compliment you on. Maybe when you helped others, others gave you the affirmation of helping others; maybe when you got good grades, teacher praised you for your hard work; maybe when you completed an excellent speech, everyone was generous to you appreciation.
Celebrities have had this experience too. Bai Yansong , the famous host of CCTV , was very inferior when he was young. He was admitted to Beijing University from a small northern town. On the first day of school, a female classmate at the next table asked him: "Where are you from?" And this question was the most taboo for him, because in his In the logic of , being born in a small town means that you have never seen the world. Just because of this female classmate's question, he dared not speak to the female classmate for a semester. For a long time, the shadow of inferiority occupied his mind. Every time he took a photo, he would subconsciously put on a big sunglasses to cover up his inferiority. However, he later became a huge success.Bai Yansong has become a famous host of CCTV, and he often talks to hundreds of millions of TV viewers across the country. He didn't blame others, he didn't give up on himself, but bravely walked out of inferiority complex, surpassed inferiority complex, and conquered inferiority complex. Therefore, the once self-denial of is not terrible, the terrible thing is that you will always indulge in it and cannot extricate yourself.
Hegel once said: "Inferiority is often accompanied by laziness, often in order to justify one's existence in the vulgar atmosphere of its limited purpose. Such humility is worthless." This sentence gave me yourself, and to you who are denying yourself.
Text｜Xu Linyan
Editing｜Jiang Meng
Review｜Zeng Ziye
Picture｜Internet
