It is no longer realistic to talk about raising children and preventing old age. Because there are few children, and most of them are too busy, they have more than enough energy. Moreover, instead of relying on others, it is better to rely on yourself.
Furthermore, with the development and progress of society, people's sense of independence is getting stronger and stronger. A family has the benefits of a family, and a personal life has its own splendor.
Moreover, a large number of people can easily lead to conflicts. Living with children, there will be more or less generation gaps and disagreements.
No expectations and no disappointments. If we look at the pension of our children with a normal heart, maybe we will have unexpected discoveries and gains.
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I am 70 years old this year and have experienced many things. Here, I would like to talk to you about retirement based on my own experience and opinions.
If you want to help your children, it is not impossible, but first of all, it is best to dispel the idea of your children supporting you. Because purposeful help can easily make people lose their minds, and it is easy to make things move closer to the direction of interests.
If you help your children with children, help them with housework, etc., just to tie them up for their own retirement in the future, the result will only be counterproductive. No one likes being calculated, let alone being calculated by their own relatives.
Second, you have to see if the children are really worth your help. The blind gang not only lost themselves, but also got used to their children, and lost both. I was like that before.
I have two sons, the eldest son is honest and not good at words, and the younger son is shrewd and articulate, so the younger son has been favored by me since he was a child, and he will help him in everything when he grows up.
Cook for their family, although many times they don't want to eat my cooking.When he and his daughter-in-law were going to buy a new house, I also actively gave them all my savings. What is the result of
? They disliked the food I made was not delicious and unsanitary, and they didn't let me live in the new house after I bought it.
After these things, I also thought about it. Those who live on their own with the pension, they can give me the money they want, and I don't force it if they don't.
There is one thing that is beyond my expectations. My eldest son, who has never been very concerned about it, sends me a sum of money on time every month. This surprised me and moved me.
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It is always right to be self-reliant and self-improvement. Looking around, few are raising children and preventing old age.
Lao Zhang next door, Lao Qin diagonally opposite, and many of my old friends, etc., after they retired, they all lived alone or with their wife. When you have time and ability, you can help the children, and the usual expenses are all on your own.
In addition, most parents do their best to nurture their children and leave enough money for their retirement.
Children have no ability to make money or live by themselves when they are young. We should do our best to educate them and let them grow up healthily.
When they grow up and have the ability to earn money to support their families, we should let them go and live their own lives.
Some excellent children have even lived abroad, in another faraway city.
If we let them go to the two places for our own selfish interests, it will not only add trouble to them, but also make the conflicts between them more and deeper, making it difficult for both parties.
It would be selfish to have children for the purpose of supporting yourself! Everyone should have their own life, and we should not bind or bind children in the name of family affection.
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You don't need to consider whether you are at a disadvantage or take advantage of your children! Do your best to help your children, and then you have to find a way out. Don't expect too much from your children!
In daily life, there are many things they need our help, and there are many things we can help them.
If they are too busy to take care of their children, we might as well take the time to help them take care of them. If their husband and wife have a conflict and quarrel over something, we can also try our best to persuade and solve them...
Of course, if they need money, we can give them some if we have the ability. But don't take out all your savings, leave enough money for yourself.
Don't expect too much from your children, just treat them normally. A lot of things go with the flow, don't force too much, don't care too much about gains and losses, the rest of your life will be happy!
Conclusion:
subjectively is not wrong to rely on its own pension, but it is necessary to have a pre-planned plan, whichever plan to follow.
When I was young, I worked hard to make money to support my family and try my best to make my children grow up healthily. When you reach middle age, try to save some money for your future plans.
After retirement, you can relax a little bit. If you can help your children, go to help, and if you can't, let them find a way.
Children and parents are independent individuals, don't think about gnawing old, and don't expect your children to be old. Self-reliance is the foundation of our existence.
being independent, not only makes his old age more leisurely and comfortable, but also reduces a lot of contradictions and unpleasantness. Without these bad things in life, wouldn't we have a lot more fun? Can't we get along better with our children?
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