My husband and I are college classmates, because we come from the same city, we are very kind. But at the time we both had our own boy and girl friends, so we were just ordinary friends. After graduation, we both broke up because of the problem of staying and going, and then we returned to our hometown. Then we were forced to go on a blind date by our family, and we went around. We met during the blind date. Picture Network
thought it was funny at first, but also to prevaricate at home, I didn’t want to go on blind date like this anymore. Just pretending to look right at each other, and began to meet and date one after another. But as the time spent with each other increased, some feelings gradually developed. I found that my husband is careful, has a good temper, and is very good at taking care of others. And he felt that I was different from what he had originally imagined. I was actually a lively girl on the outside but quite quiet on the inside.
Later we confirmed our relationship, and then we took each other to see our parents. My parents were quite satisfied with him at first, after all, he behaved decently. But since we have both seen our parents, it means that we are planning to get married. So when my parents saw that I didn't know about my husband's family, they naturally ran around to inquire about it. This inquiries was a bad thing. My husband is in a bad family situation, of course, this is not what my parents care about most.
The reason why my parents kept trying to persuade me to break up was because my future mother-in-law was famous for being strong and calculating. My parents felt that my personality like this would definitely suffer in her husband's house. But I don’t listen. I think that although the conditions of the husband’s family are average, they still have to rely on their own efforts. As for the strength, I really didn't feel it. I went to my husband's house several times, and the future mother-in-law will treat me very well. I'm stupid too, I forgot, this person will pretend for purpose.
I insist that my parents finally agreed to the marriage of both of us, and taking into account the other's family circumstances, when discussing marriage, we proposed the marriage room my family to prepare, but there must be a gift of 80,000. This number is not low in our city, but it is not too high. What's more, my parents also said that they will add a little bit to me as a dowry. But the mother-in-law cried and cried, which directly spoiled the atmosphere at the time. She said that her family was poor and had spent her savings for her father-in-law's treatment a few years ago. She asked me if I could do without the bride price.
My parents were not happy at the time, they had already married a wedding room, and the bride price was actually a formality.If it is really difficult, you can do less, how can you just not give the bride price? If this is said, others think that no one wants their own daughter, and they are rushing to marry. My husband and I have been making rounds, and finally my mother-in-law finally let go and said: "It's not impossible to give 80,000 gifts. The wedding room must be named with my son."
Upon hearing this, my parents became even more angry. My mother said at the time: "This house was bought by my family with full money. I can only write the name of my daughter alone. If you have to do this, then this marriage It's over." After finishing talking, my parents took me and left. Talking about marriage and getting married was considered unhappy. This time, my husband and I have also started to quarrel with each other. He meant that there were a lot of gifts and said that I did not consider his feelings.
I am very angry. Our wedding room has always been bought by the man. Now my family bought a wedding room, but it only costs 80,000 gifts, and I will bring it back. Why don't you consider the actual situation? I know his family conditions are not good, but what about his savings? There should be tens of thousands in two years of work. In fact, his family is not without a little savings. He also said that before, how can there be no money when it comes to the bride price? Take 10,000 steps back, so why add a name to the house, and that 80,000 will be there again?
I feel a little uncomfortable after such a disturbance, and I don't even mention marriage. However, after a few days, my mother-in-law took the initiative to call me and said that she had nothing to do with the house. Both parties paid for the wedding expenses. In order to apologize, the bride price was 100,000. My parents felt a little puzzled at the time, but I didn't think about it too much. After all, my husband and I were rushing to get married at the beginning. Now that we can get married, we are too happy to be happy, so naturally we won't think about it.
Then everything went well. A few days before the wedding, my mother-in-law gave me a card, saying that it was a gift of 100,000 and the password was my birthday. On the day of the wedding, the master of ceremonies also mentioned the bride price. Friends and family all said that my mother-in-law is good and valued this daughter-in-law very much. My parents and I are also very happy. My parents really want an attitude. This card returned to our small family with the 80,000 box deposits given by my parents on the wedding day.
A few days after the wedding, I thought that I would take out the bride price and the dowry from my parents when I was free anyway, plus the gift money given by friends and relatives at the wedding, and save them together. There is currently no need for large expenditures.Save it first and take it out when the small family needs it. But when I went to withdraw the money, I found that my mother-in-law’s so-called 100,000 gift card contained only 800 yuan.
My first reaction was that I was stolen by someone? But I don't think it is realistic, just for a few days, and Ka has always been by my side. After thinking about it, I called my husband first, and he kept changing the subject, meaning that I had nothing to do with this card. I was faintly disturbed, and then I contacted my mother-in-law, but when she heard me mention that the amount of the bride price was wrong, her tone suddenly became cold.
said, "The wedding room doesn't have my son's name. It would be nice to give you 800 yuan as a gift. How much do you want, and don't want to think about whether you are worthy or not." I was dumbfounded at the time, and returned home after a long time. I asked my husband if he knew about this and if he had colluded with her mother-in-law to deceive me. When my husband found that he really couldn't hide it, he admitted, but kept saying that this matter was actually my own sake, and that he had to ask for this gift because he knew that my family was not rich.
I laughed angrily, you don't want to give a betrothal gift, you can just say that my parents disagreed at the time. If you think you just don't give it, then it's okay for us to get separated like this. If you are willing to keep working hard, then show your sincerity to persuade my parents and make them feel that it's okay not to be a gift.
But what is going on now? I want this face too, knowing that the woman is married to the house, and the man does not have a betrothal gift or is too small, and will not be able to get off the stage at the wedding, so did she choose to cheat? I think my family is in good condition and I don't want to miss it, and then I don't want to really give a betrothal gift, so I chose to cheat? If you lied, you lied, and it is so natural, is it double shameless. People who don't want to pay a penny and want to add their son's name to the house, how embarrassed to say that I am vanity.
I am really mad, but my husband has such an attitude now. It is definitely unrealistic to make up the betrothal gift, but he will give me his salary card in the future, and the family will let me take care of the money. This is just the story, let me not tell my parents. But can I still believe him this time? I'm forbearing now, after a while, maybe my husband will go back again?
What's more, if I compromise, does my mother-in-law think I am more bullied,If you deceive me like this, I'll be fine, and maybe I will be more precise in the future. But should I stop the loss in time for a divorce? This is just getting married. How should we face the inquiries of relatives and friends in divorce now? After the divorce, I still endure this tone and continue to live, I am really at a loss.
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