Text|Shangguan Qingman
Follow my text and warm your heart.
Divorce is a disillusionment of cause and fate, and for those who cherish marriage, it is painful.
For those whose marriage is like a child's play, divorce seems to mean a kind of relief, to leave that boring person and find their second spring. But is this really the case? the answer is negative! Divorce is often worse than imagined.
People, no matter who is with whom, are the same, there will be various problems. Regardless of men and women, marriage is not easy, do it and cherish it.
The experience of too many people here tells us that divorce is never a relief or a new life, but a choice that hurts both sides. The middle-aged couple after divorce, whose old age is more bleak? The truth of the people here is silent.
Mr. Chen, 60 years old.
In middle-aged divorce women are often very sad, but men do not care. But after a while, the man will regret his original choice. Especially for middle-aged men, this is especially obvious. This is my personal experience.
At the beginning, because I was too masculine, I often favored my mother and wronged my ex-wife in the conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Later, at the instigation of my mother, she threatened her ex-wife to divorce, but she did not expect her to agree.
This is the end of the matter, and I didn't have a chance to turn around and get soft, so I left. At the time of the divorce, the ex-wife was very sad and disappointed. But I didn't think it was a big deal at the time. Anyway, the house is mine, the savings are in my hands, and my mother will cook for me.
But now at this age, alone, my mother has been in bed all the year round, and there is no warmth at home, so I regret the impulsive divorce decision.
The days of divorce are really difficult, especially for men, no one takes care of them, no one asks for warmth, and stays alone in a quiet room all day. The desolation is beyond words. On the other hand, my ex-wife lived happily after taking our daughter to remarry.
As a person who came here, I want to say something to the people in the besieged city, people who are middle-aged,Couples’ love points are often more expensive than real gold. You must know how to cherish the person next to your pillow and don't easily divorce. The saddest thing about an old man is to lose his wife, and then discover that he can't find a woman who loves him more than his wife.
Ms. Hu, 58 years old.
Divorced couples from middle-aged people, see whose old age will be more bleak?
I want to say that after the divorce, it must have been difficult for the wrong party. I am a living example.
Back then, because I was so arrogant and didn't know how to get enough information, I always felt that my man was okay, and no one else's husband could make money. Later, under the trend of vanity, I chose to divorce.
Actually, from the moment I made the decision to "abandon my husband and abandon my son", it was doomed to my desolate end in old age. I think I remarried a man with good financial conditions less than half a year after my divorce. The man is middle-aged and widowed, with two children.
After remarrying, I found out that the family who married me was just asking me as a nanny again. The mother-in-law looked down on me, and showed me a look every other time, and the two stepsons never respected me. I worked hard to serve them, and the two children were never grateful, and I didn't even want to call "auntie".
Now they are both married and established. They are very filial to their dad and have always been cold words to me. In this family, I am a lonely person. I really regret my original decision to divorce. I am old and have no children and no support.
Qingman's message: Please don't divorce easily, because the damage to the child is too great.
What is the most harmful thing about a child in divorce? It is the shadow that cannot be erased from childhood, the fear of leaving parents and a deep helplessness.
Children from divorced families often lack love and security, do not feel love and warmth in childhood, and show timid and introverted personality, or show bad temper. Some children's parents are also bad at neglecting education after their divorce, especially those who divorce during the rebellious period of their children.
When parents are divorced, the child is the most innocent. Even if the child becomes an adult in the future, his marriage, emotions, work and career will often not go well. Especially in marriage, it is often difficult to establish intimacy.In the end, it is likely to stage a marriage plot similar to that of his parents.
The end of the marriage was the fault of the two of you, and the child became the victim of the consequences. How innocent he is. Once the parents divorce, no matter which side the child is following, the child will feel unable to lift his head in front of the partner.
I hope that married people should take on the responsibility of being a parent, and don’t let their children suffer from the divorce of their parents and hurt their young hearts.
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