Chen Jia and Huang Ling met on a blind date. The introducer said that Huang Ling was gentle and beautiful, sensible and filial. Chen Jia had a good relationship after meeting, and he was really quiet and charming when he first met. Although it is not a love affair, Chen Jia and Huang Ling are married, who feel good.
After marriage, Huang Ling quickly gave birth to a son, and Chen Jia was satisfied. But when his son grew up, he always said intentionally or unintentionally that the house belonged to him and would not live there for his uncle and aunt. Chen Jia was embarrassed and could only say that the child was ignorant. But after the daughter was born, she often said that the house was hers, and she was clamoring to drive her uncle and aunt away. Finally, Chen Jia showed no mercy and pointed out that Huang Ling was too ruthless, selfish, and taught her children badly.
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Chen Jia is the eldest, and there is also a sister and a younger brother below. Both my younger brothers and sisters went to college, and Chen Jia worked hard in society after graduating from high school and got married very early. Although the three brothers and sisters have different experiences, their relationship has always been very good.
Chen Jia and Huang Ling continued to live with their parents after marriage. Although they have their own wedding house, Huang Ling is unwilling to move out.
On the one hand, my parents’ house is very large, with three floors and two large rooms on each floor. There are many people but they do not disturb each other and are free. On the other hand, parents are diligent and not only responsible for all the daily expenses at home, but also help take care of their newborn son.
Chen Jia and Huang Ling don’t have to worry about anything except their own jobs. No wonder Huang Ling doesn’t want to move out.
younger brothers and sisters are studying in college in other places. They usually only have parents, wives and children at home. The elderly are well-educated and well-off, and there are almost no conflicts at home. On the surface, they are harmonious and beautiful.
But an embarrassing thing came. My son was about 3 years old. The school was on vacation, and my younger brother and sister went home to live. Seeing that my uncle and aunt had lived there for several days but had not left, my son said in front of everyone, "Why are you still at my house? Why don't you go back? This is my house."
My son's voice was crisp, and everyone could hear it clearly, and the scene instantly became cold. My sister reacted quickly, "Because you are so cute, I want to stay longer and play with you."
Compared to my sister's tactfulness, Chen Jia's mother is very direct, "This is also the home of my uncle and aunt, ours." The little episode of
is over soon, and everyone is happy to chat and have dinner together. Chen Jia quietly glanced at Huang Ling. Huang Ling had no effect, she feasted and was very happy to eat.
Afterwards, Chen Jia thought to himself how his little son would say such things. He was afraid that his younger brother and sister would think too much, but too much explanation would make him feel distracted, so he skipped it and ignored it.
But when he closed the door, Chen Jia asked Huang Ling why her son said such words.
At that time, Huang Ling gave Chen Jia a blank look and said angrily, "Nervous, how do I know? It has nothing to do with me anyway."
But this is not the last time. Almost every time my younger brother and sister come home for a few days, my son will hit someone as soon as he loses his temper, "I don't like you, this is my home, you can go back quickly."
Chen Jia found that as many times as he was, his younger brother and sister didn’t like to play with his son much. They graduated and worked one after another, and said they had less time on holidays, and they were busy with work and could not leave, so they rarely went home.
Chen Jia thought that if this continues, he and his younger brother and sister will be more distant. He couldn't avoid talking about this matter.
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Fortunately, my son has grown up and can communicate effectively.
Chen Jia said to his son, "Who told you that the house belongs to you? This house belongs to grandparents, and also to aunt and uncle. Everyone lives together. It is wrong for you to say this."
"No. Mom said the house belongs to mine, and grandparents also said the house belongs to mine."
Hearing his son say this, Chen Jia knew it, and patiently explained to his son, asking him not to say this in the future.
But facing Huang Ling, Chen Jia couldn't suppress the anger in his heart. "Do you still have some clues in your mind? Teach your son to say such things. Do you think everyone is a fool? No one says you, just because you don't want to care about you."
"Children's words are rude, what are you calculating about with your children?" Huang Ling retorted.
"A child is a blank piece of paper. If you don't teach him, will he say these messy words?" Chen Jia really wanted to send Huang Ling back to kindergarten to study again. How shallow the brain smuggle can teach the child like this, and let his son take the blame.
"So what if I teach you? Your sister wants to get married in the future, and the house will not be her share. Your brother may not come back when he works in another place. Isn't the house ours? I just didn't teach correctly, but it was not considered malicious guidance." Huang Ling was also confident.
Chen Jia was heartbroken.
Chen Jia has always attached great importance to brotherhood. He hopes that the three brothers and sisters can get along well and help each other. Chen Jia is also very grateful to his parents for their help for so many years. Whether it is work, taking care of children or buying a house and a car, his parents have made a lot of money.
Huang Ling taught her son like this, but what hurt her younger brother and sister's hearts, and her parents were even more sad. It's just that they don't care about her. But Huang Ling was still self-righteous.
"The house belongs to parents, and they will decide how to do it in the future. In recent years, we have all been with parents. We have not paid a penny or been worried. If you are not grateful, you are still foolish and foolish. If you still teach your son like this, let me hear it again next time, we will move to the wedding room to live." Chen Jia opened his eyes angrily, and the blue veins on his forehead became more obvious.
Chen Jia is rarely angry and has a gentle temperament. This time he is furious and really loses his temper. Huang Ling knew in her heart that she wanted to be stubborn, but in the end she didn't say anything.
Life is still calm, Chen Jia's sister gets married, and his younger brother has taken root in his work in other places. Huang Ling gave birth to another daughter, and Chen Jia was happy.
However, what Chen Jia unexpectedly was that her daughter was 4 years old and her attitude towards her younger brother who came home on holidays was exactly the same as when her son was young.
Originally, my brother and daughter were amused, but the child would hit someone when he got up, and shouted, "I don't like uncle, uncle, leave quickly, this is my home, I won't live there for you."
Chen Jia remembered what his son said before, and listened to what his daughter said now, and was so angry that he would be furious. He raised his hand directly, as if he was hitting someone, "Who told you to say that, I'll hit you again."
It was the younger brother who stopped Chen Jia and said, "It's okay, it's okay."
all say "the speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional", let alone repeated times. Chen Jia apologized to his younger brother and educated his daughter well. He didn't say anything on the surface, but he had already made up his mind.
Chen Jia knew that over the years, Huang Ling had been used to enjoying the help of her parents and took everything for granted. Not only that, he also makes plans for his parents' property and instills his own thoughts into his children. If this continues, not only will the brothers and feet deviate, but the children's three views will also be affected by bad views.
Since this is the case, either live alone and let Huang Ling take on everything that she should bear as a wife and mother. Either you will get a divorce, but your children are still young, so it is impossible to divorce immediately if you take it seriously.
When Chen Jia made the decision to move out and live alone, Huang Ling strongly opposed it and said that she could not do so many housework for you and didn't care about the children.
But Chen Jia has made up his mind and will not change his mind no matter how Huang Ling makes trouble.
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Children are as pure as white paper, and every word and action of adults subtly affects the development of children's values. What is really scary is not that Huang Ling wants a house, but that Huang Ling teaches her children to talk nonsense. When children cannot distinguish right from wrong, adults’ view of right or wrong is the child’s view of right or wrong, they learn to behave in a way and learn to speak with words.
If parents do not have a clear mind, it will be enough to ruin the child.
From the stories of Chen Jia and Huang Ling, we can understand two truths:
families have a good wife and everything goes well, and when you get married, you should marry a woman who is not prone to trouble and wise. There are some families where men have good relationships with their parents before getting married, but after getting married, they gradually get farther and farther away from their parents, and some even never interact with each other until they die.
One of these is that the wife a man marrys doesn’t understand the truth, is centered on himself, wants to take advantage of him everywhere, always wants to compete for more, provoke troubles all day long, makes things out of nothing, and makes a good family uneasy.
When you are in love, you will meet such a woman. No matter how beautiful the other person is, stay away from him. If you only see the other person’s true face after marriage, as a man, you must be tough and deal with it positively, show your attitude and maintain your family relationships well.
Parents are role models for their children, and set an example to promote the development of their children’s correct views. Children are very good at imitating, and their every word and deed are a microcosm of their parents' character. Children see the plot and selfishness of parents, and they have been influenced by them for a long time, but I am afraid that when they grow up, they are even better than their parents.
From small living habits to large things, as parents, they should guide and educate their children with correct views and guidance. "Moisturize things silently", but the impact is amazing. As a mother, you should be more harmonious with your family, respect the elderly, gather the hearts of the family, and live a good life.
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