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I don’t know when since the issue of "old care" is no longer an obligatory responsibility for many children. Parents want to get it in their later years. Children’s assistance and care must meet the following conditions:
will either help me with the child or use money to subsidize my life. If I can contribute money and effort, it is undoubtedly the best.
But in fact, even if some parents have done their best to treat their children, they still live very heartily. They are picky when they bring their children. They use their pensions to subsidize their children's lives. They think it should be...
After seeing these truths through, many parents have reached a consensus: Let go of their children completely, and we just want to be nice to ourselves for the rest of our lives.
"Don't threaten me with old-age care" After 60, parents neither bring their babies nor pay: we just want to be nice to ourselves
悦悦 is a novice mother. She had already greeted her mother-in-law when she was pregnant. Ask her and father-in-law to help bring the children.
From Yueyue's point of view, it is only natural for grandparents to take their children. After all, the children follow their father's surname.
And the mother-in-law and father-in-law have retired, and they have a lot of monthly pensions. It is normal for them to take children and help subsidize small families. The daughter-in-law of
gave birth to a grandson. Yueyue's in-laws are very happy, but since the original two-person world has become a family of five, it is inevitable that they will bump into each other.
Yueyue often had conflicts with her mother-in-law because of the children's affairs, and she was very dismissive of some of the habits of her in-laws, which made her in-laws tremble and unhappy at home.
In addition, since the parents-in-law helped the son and daughter-in-law to bring the baby, the young couple has never expressed gratitude to their parents. Sometimes the mother-in-law complains that she is tired from work, and the daughter-in-law not only doesn't care, but she doesn't say it indifferently:
Whose grandparents are like this, neither contributes money nor does it work, so it will be troublesome to support them in the future.
approaching the end of the year, Yueyue’s mother-in-law suffered from lumbar disc protrusion due to fatigue, and Yueyue and her husband were very cold about this. Yueyue also complained that her mother-in-law was too sick at the wrong time and worried that no one would take the child on vacation.
A sickness made the old couple see through many things. After careful consideration, the in-laws packed their luggage that night and prepared to go back to their hometown.
"Parents, you are gone, what should you do with your children?" Yueyue didn't expect her in-laws to quit, and she looked worried.
"Daughter-in-law, I am not in good health and I am not suitable for taking children. Your dad and I decided to go back to our hometown today. Whether you invite the grandmother of the child, or the nanny, or resign yourself, that is all your business "Z3z
After listening to her mother-in-law's words, Yueyue's face was very ugly. She whispered: "Mom, can't you be considerate of the young people's difficulties? You and my dad are now the shopkeepers, don't help us, and you will be aged in the future... "Z3z
, "Don't threaten us with old-age care!" The mother-in-law waved and cut off Yue Yue's words.
"We have a pension and some savings. I'll find out. The money can be used to live in a better nursing home. From now on, my dad and I just want to be nice to ourselves."
Leaving the door with his luggage, only Yueyue stood at the door with a dull expression.
Nowadays, regardless of whether they have experienced helping their children with babies, many elderly people are very "thinking". They no longer tie their hearts to their children, but desire to live for themselves for the rest of their lives.
Why does the old man’s thinking change?
① Many conflicts with children
Many elderly people are very eager to live apart after living with their children for a period of time, because the two generations cannot achieve harmony in many aspects.
, especially the elderly with children, are often complained, and they are also tied up in doing things. It is better to be free in your own home.
② Children don’t know how to be grateful
Many children regard it as justified by the elderly to bring their babies, and even if their parents pay more for them, they take it for granted and have no gratitude.
When encountering such children, the elderly will inevitably be chilled. Anyway, the children will not necessarily be filial to me in the future, so it is better to treat themselves better.
③ Diversification of old-age care methods
Nowadays, with the rise of various old-age care methods such as group care, nursing homes, community care, etc., many elderly people no longer fully expect their children to support them.
Compared to paying for their children, these elderly people are more willing to leave enough money for themselves, and when they are old, they choose the way they feel comfortable for the elderly.
Xuan's dad has something to say
Nowadays, many parents pay for their children and contribute to their children, but in real life "grief" has repeatedly injured them.
As children, we must be grateful when facing parents. We can actively communicate with the elderly when we encounter problems. We cannot kidnap the parents morally, let alone threaten parents to raise their children with old-age problems.
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