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At what age did your child have his own independent room?
Scientific research shows that after the child is 3 years old, he should gradually adapt to sleep separately from his parents.
But in fact, when many children sleep in separate beds and separate rooms, they are more resistant and afraid to be separated from their parents. Coupled with the parents’ soft heart, this time may be delayed again and again...
Then, how should parents help their children? How about smoothly adapting to "sleeping in separate rooms"?
These three signals appear in the child, indicating that the child is sleeping
1, and the child has sex awareness
Child psychology studies have found that 2-5 years are the critical period for children to establish gender awareness , generally around 3 years old children will be The emergence of gender awareness is one of the reasons why there is a saying of "three-year-old separated bed".
Generally speaking, when children start to call themselves "boys" and "girls" , they start to say "girls only pigtails", "this is for boys" , etc., they will deliberately say When you choose toys, clothes and other items that match the gender, it means that the child has begun to develop gender awareness.
has sprouted gender-conscious children and is very curious about the characteristics of different genders. At this time, it is not appropriate to let children sleep with opposite-sex parents. Even if they do not divide the room, consider sleeping in separate beds.
2, the child proposes to want a separate room
From the age of 1 and a half to 2 years old, the child will gradually develop self-awareness, and then develop into an independent consciousness. Children with independent consciousness will have their own ideas, and will resist the arrangement and help of parents, and have a stronger sense of independence.
When children discover that they can have a separate small room through cartoons, good friends or other means, they are likely to take the initiative to propose a separate room, which shows that the child has a need for independence and privacy , and parents should consider giving He is a relatively independent space.
3. Have a certain degree of independence
When a child shows refusal to help from parents, parents need to consciously exercise the child’s independence, such as eating independently, going to the toilet, dressing independently, etc. , and when the child has After getting simple independence, you can consider sleeping with your child in a separate room.
When the child shows the above 3 signals, it means that the child’s physical and mental development has reached a certain level , and further independent space and challenge are needed. If the parent does not share the room with the child for sleep, may affect the child’s growth Have some bad effects.
What are the disadvantages of sleeping in separate rooms too late?
1. Excessive attachment to parents
The founder of modern Chinese early childhood education and one of the four major educators in the Republic of China Chen Heqin found through observation:
eighty-nine out of ten human actions are habits, and most of this habit is in Raised by infants.
Early childhood psychology also believes that the formation of habit has "premature" . If a child develops the habit of attaching to his parents at an early age, he is likely to have excessive attachment to his parents when he grows up. , Become "Mambo".
2. Delayed development of independence
Bill Gates once said:
“Cultivating children’s independence is not enough for children to have independent awareness and attitudes. You must let your children go through them and remove obstacles by themselves. In this way, children can learn the corresponding knowledge and skills, and can use various effective ways to solve problems on their own." The development of independence requires not only independent awareness, but also independent practice. If the child is too late, Sleeping in the room, lacks practical opportunities such as true independent sleeping and independent housekeeping. If , the child’s independence will developIt will slow down . Independence is contrary to the idea of independence, and it will also have an impact on the child's mental health.
3, affect children's sleep quality
, and some parents themselves have sleep problems, such as snoring, teeth grinding, etc., these habits will more or less affect the child's sleep quality , and even affect the child's growth hormone secretion .
4, precocious puberty
When the child’s gender awareness sprouts, if he sleeps in the same bed with opposite-sex parents for a long time, the child may experience some precocious puberty under various influences.
Since sleeping in separate rooms too late has so much influence on the growth of children, how can we help children to sleep in separate rooms smoothly? How does
sleep in separate rooms with children?
1. Inform the child in advance that
whether sleeping in separate beds or sleeping in separate rooms is a big change for the child, so parents should not just think about themselves, but also have to talk to the child in advance to understand the child’s thoughts, Let the children be psychologically prepared to avoid misunderstanding that the parents do not love him when they sleep in separate rooms.
2. To prepare children psychologically.
Parents can use their children’s love for freshness and curiosity to tell their children some fairy tales about sleeping independently, and let them participate in the design of the room in work, so that children can Better accept your own room and look forward to sleeping in separate rooms.
Parents can also set the date of sleeping in a separate room on a ceremonial day , such as the child’s birthday, a certain holiday, etc., and tell the child that he is already an older child and can have his own room, so that the child Think of a separate room as a gift, and better accept split room sleep.
3. Parents accompany to help their children adapt to
. In addition to psychological preparation, parents also need to help their children through a transitional period and help their children adapt to sleep independently.
Parents can tell their children a bedtime story every day, and turn off the lights after the child falls asleep; they can also agree when they occasionally want to go back to the master bedroom to sleep ; if the child is afraid to sleep alone, parents can also prepare for him The night light or let the child open the door to sleep .
4. Prepare before bedtime
Finally, parents should help their children develop good bedtime preparation habits , such as drinking less water before going to bed, avoid playing exciting games, reading some warm bedtime stories, etc., try to avoid Children wake up at night because they want to go to the bathroom, have nightmares and other problems that affect their sleep.
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