Writer: Pearl
Finalized: After Su Zi
Although the parenting of "poorly raised children, richly adopted daughter" has been passed down to this day, most parents still don't know the true meaning of "poor raising" and "rich raising", especially boys In the future, the burdens and responsibilities on the shoulders will be heavier. If you are properly poor, you will become a responsible and responsible man. On the contrary, the damage will be obvious and the sequelae will follow.
Case
Lily’s husband is practical, hardworking, and self-motivated, but the only thing that makes her feel unsatisfied is the deduction of money and search. As long as it is related to money, her husband must weigh in advance. Fan, careful calculations seem to save money, but I picked sesame seeds and lost watermelons. Sometimes I only care about immediate benefits, but ignore long-term development.
usually in front of her husband, she dare not buy too expensive skin care products and daily necessities, for fear of complaints, in order to reduce friction, she spends money carefully, even though she feels very uncomfortable, but think about it and save money It's better than splurge.
All the pictures in the article are from the Internet, and the pictures and texts are irrelevant.
Lily’s husband is a typical boy who was raised poorly by his parents. He was told to spend money frugally, just like Lily’s mother-in-law, every penny It has to be spent on the blade.
Most parents think that poor parents just don't spend money on their son, and they are too harsh on his expenses. In fact, this is a completely wrong perception. If only the material is used as the criterion of poverty, then the children may not escape the following endings when they grow up.
What will happen to a poor boy who grows up?
1. Very low self-esteem in the bones
If parents instill the concept of "poor family" in their boys since childhood, they will make the children feel inferior and feel that they are born inferior. This kind of poverty carved in the bones will make the children lack vision and adventurous spirit and hesitate to spend money. Undecided, or even spending too much time will produce guilt.
2. Excessive profligacy
If you lack something in childhood, you will probably be desperate to make up for it when you grow up. If children are short of money from childhood to most, they have a strong desire for money. Once they have money, they will squander it. Save the psychological shortcomings of childhood.
3, addiction to money like life
is the opposite of squandering. Another situation is that lack of money leads to a loss of security. When you grow up, you will become addicted to money and become a miser. Because you are afraid of being poor since childhood, I feel that only money can give you a sense of security. For this reason, even if I grow up, I don’t dare to spend any money. I am very demanding on myself and I am very tired.
Of course, parents can't provide boys with too generous material life, otherwise they will easily become likes and dislikes, and have a strong sense of comparison.
In fact, "poor raising" in the true sense should be the tempering of boys' will, quality, character and mind, so that boys can properly endure hardships, and cultivate their self-reliance and self-reliance and a sense of tenacity so that they can bear more when they grow up. Responsibility to avoid becoming a person who is greedy, irresponsible, idle, and lacks self-motivated person.
The correct way of "poorly raised children"
1. Let boys experience frustration
Boys are not flowers in the greenhouse, but weeds on the cliffs. Only through the forehead of the wind and rain can they grow up tenaciously. Parents allow their children to experience frustration appropriately, which can make their will and psychological endurance stronger, so that they will not give up or go to extremes when they encounter difficulties.
If a boy does something wrong, the parents’ criticism and punishment are very necessary. Only when he dares to face his own mistakes can the child reflect on himself, examine himself, correct his mistakes, and strive to do better next time.
2. Learn to be independent
. The most taboo thing about raising a boy is to take care of everything. Most parents will not cultivate the boy’s awareness of doing housework. They think that men’s hands are for making money instead of doing housework. This is a completely wrong idea. Boys doing housework can exercise their self-care ability, sense of independence and sense of family responsibility.
3, dare to take responsibility
responsibility is a manThe most shining quality in the world, a man who dares to take responsibility is the most attractive. They have a strong sense of responsibility towards their partners, children, parents, family and society. To a large extent, they will not go beyond morals and laws. Things can make the partner feel more secure and make parents more at ease.
4. Cultivate an optimistic mentality
Having a positive and optimistic mentality is very important to the growth of a boy. Parents should guide their children in different ways to make them a cheerful and optimistic person. Don’t always complain when you are in a downturn. Can't get out.
"Raising a Boy" is a book that can help parents solve various parenting problems. This book combines the psychological characteristics and growth rules of boys to teach parents the correct education direction, scientific education philosophy, and reasonable management methods. , Quality, psychology, potential, learning and other aspects to train children.
is an excerpt from "Bringing a Boy"
As mentioned above, boys’ left brain development is slower than girls, and their language skills are not as good as girls. For this reason, they are slightly lower in expressing feelings. Often boys’ emotions are irritated. Will give up verbal expressions and choose body movements to solve the problem. For this reason, parents should not be polite and reasoned when raising a boy, because it is difficult for the child to listen.
After reading "Raising a Boy" this book will give you a feeling of meeting each other late. If you sink your heart and read for half an hour every day, you will feel that you have benefited a lot. This kind of parenting problem can be solved easily, and cultivate children with high EQ to become excellent talents.
