There are three things in the world that cannot be hidden: cough, love and poverty... There is a saying in
: Your temperament comes from the road you have walked and the books you have read.
People who are used to living hard life will always leave a mark on him.
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Recently, I did not click Mom to read Douban and saw this topic: the traces of poverty left on me.
He described that after being turned away from the commissary because he had no pocket money in his childhood, he seemed to have lost the courage to express his desires forever. In the topic of
, there are many other friends who share the influence of poverty on their own character, and they calmly talk about the lack of childhood caused by poverty.
Our parents have been used to hard times since childhood, and naturally developed the habit of diligence and thrift. Poverty can be tolerated, but the imprint of crying poor parents cannot be erased in adulthood.
"The family is very poor, mom and dad can't afford it."
"There is no money to buy vegetables at home."
"My parents are very hard to make money, don't spend money randomly."
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is a crying poor scene. It is everywhere in real life. Originally, the family was not incapable of opening the pot, but hoped that the children could develop the good habit of diligence and thrift, and that the children were obedient and sensible, so they cried poorly with the children unconsciously, putting financial pressure on the children.
"Anyone who suffers from bitterness is a master", "The children of the poor are in their homes early"... These words are inspirational on the surface, but in fact they are just poisonous chicken soup!
psychological research shows that: people spend their entire lives repairing their own childhood, what is missing in childhood, when they grow up, they desperately look for something. In the
TV series "The Name of the People", the corrupt official Zhao Dehan was raised by poverty, which led to his infinite desire for money as an adult. He greeted 200 million by any means, but he did not dare to spend a penny.
Children who have lived in a "cry-poor" environment since childhood have more or less inner feelings of insecurity, low self-esteem, and cowardice.
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"Why Poverty is a Disease" says: If a child is a "poor" since childhood, then he will be a "poor" all his life.
Because poverty is not terrible, the terrible thing is "heart poverty".
Even if the family is poor, parents should not often cry poor to their children.
There is a video of a young boy from abroad returning to his classmates on the hot search.
A classmate laughed at the boy for not wearing brand-name shoes, but the boy said the following:
"I didn't wear brand-name shoes, because I am not a person who blindly follow the material; I wear ordinary brand shoes because I like the color. ; A person’s focus is not on what brand of clothes and shoes to wear, but on knowing what he wants; sooner or later you will not be able to wear those brand-name shoes, but the ideas in your mind, your wisdom, and knowledge can always inspire others ......" Even if
lives in poverty, as long as he can see what he has, he does not feel scarce. And if parents often cry poor to him, the child will focus on what he does not own, and even feel that he is not qualified to own it, which is most likely to breed a sense of want.
In a short film in Thailand, a mother's way of educating her children is worth learning from poor families. Her family is very poor and feeds her children by setting up a stall, but she has never cried poorly with her children. When the children want something, she did not say "Mom is very hard to make money, don't spend money indiscriminately", but educate the children to make money on their own Buy what you need. So, when the child is young, he learns to make popsicles with his mother, then sells popsicles, and uses the money he earns to buy things he likes.
is also a poor family. This mother did not let the family's poverty make her child "heart-poor". Not only did she not breed a sense of want in her child's heart, she also made her "richer."
Shakespeare once said: "Poverty but satisfied people are rich, and very rich." The poor economic status of the
family does not affect whether the child is rich in heart. With good family education, parents will neither cry poor to their children nor give them extravagant material life.
"One generation is poor, three generations are poor", please stop crying poor to your children!
Written by: Don’t point mom
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