A child who avoids and shrinks when encountering a problem, first of all, a child with no inner strength, a child without self-confidence.
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Why is a child not confident? There are many reasons. The first possibility is that the child was hit hard when he started learning. For example, at the beginning of school, the teacher or parents criticized him for not mastering the learning skills, and the child's perception of himself is "I am a poor student", which affects his self-confidence.
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The second possibility is that children have received bad hints in their studies, such as being told that they are stupid and poorly learned. These words are deeply buried in their hearts, enter the subconscious mind, and become their evaluation of themselves. When they encounter a problem, they don't try to solve the problem hard, instead they think that they can't do it without thinking, and show avoidance and withdrawal behavior.
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The third possibility is that the child's willpower is poor, which may stem from poor family education. For example, a child is so much loved and overprotected that he never needs to face the problem himself. In such a family where the child is allowed to rely on his parents, the protection he receives is comprehensive, and his life is actually replaced. Children like
have poor self-control and willpower, and of course they will not perform well in dealing with difficult problems. Therefore, parents should not think that it does not matter what their children do in life, as the children's various behaviors, character, and will quality in life will be transferred to learning.
A child faces difficulties in learning and perseveres. This kind of willpower is cultivated in life, and does not appear in a vacuum. It is not a single problem for a child to escape when encountering a difficult problem, and his behavioral pattern will be manifested in other aspects.
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The fourth possibility is that there is a problem with the child's family structure. For example, a child with poor willpower may have parents who over-restrain him, such as a father who over-restrains him, is demanding, and has a strong desire for control. It is difficult for this child to develop his self-confidence, and he will avoid it when he encounters problems.
also has some children who have been insecure since they were young, and did not get the love of their mothers when they were very young. For example, when they were 0-3 years old, their mothers were often absent, and when they were 3-6 years old, their fathers were often absent. During the period, the child is not properly taken care of, leading to insecurity. Such children are often uneasy and can't calm down and do things, and they will avoid difficulties in learning.
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The fifth possibility is that the child is in poor physical condition and is a very weak child. Due to lack of energy, these children have difficulty supporting their bodies, and lack the ability to continue to tackle difficult problems.
There are many reasons for children to avoid problems when they encounter problems. Parents should observe their children. Only when they know why the children are avoiding, can the parents think of the right medicine.
On this issue, parents shouldn't be too hasty. It is unrealistic to let their children face the difficulties tomorrow, so wait slowly.
