does not want his children to be optimistic and cheerful and face life positively.
has such a short story: two young people are traveling in a desert. After walking for a long time, they drank all the water on their bodies. At this moment, both of them are in danger of dying of thirst. If there is no more water, they can only die. In the desert.
Fortunately, when they were about to faint and unconscious, two bottles of water suddenly appeared in front of them, but unfortunately, each bottle only had half a bottle of water.
One of the young people was excited when he noticed that there was half a bottle of water. He shouted happily, "I'm so lucky that I have half a bottle of water."
But the other young man had the opposite mentality, "Is there only half a bottle of water?" What a horrible thing!"
Two different moods produced different results. The optimistic young man walked out of the desert with half a bottle of water, and the pessimistic young man died of thirst in the desert.
So, why are the same half bottles of water, but the results are so different? It turned out that optimistic young people were full of motivation because they had half a bottle of water, and soon walked out of the desert, while pessimistic young people complained about the misfortune of fate all the way, and finally became more and more thirsty. Half a bottle of water was soon lost. Drunk it all.
It can be seen that facing the same thing, different mentalities produce different results, and optimistic people are more likely to get out of life’s difficulties. Therefore, if parents can achieve these 3 points, you can also cultivate an optimistic child.
How important is "optimism" to children? Parents do these three points, you can also raise an optimistic baby
1, create a happy family atmosphere
This is a method that is applicable to almost all parenting problems. In addition to some factors determined by genes, the family atmosphere plays an important role in the formation of children's personality.
When children do not follow their wishes and mischievous, parents will yell "I don't want you anymore!"
Maybe adults just talk casually and scare a bit, but children have no way of understanding the reasons behind their parents’ negative emotions. They will feel that their parents hate themselves because of their mistakes, and they will mistakenly think "Mom and Dad really don’t want me anymore." It’s all I’m not good,” resulting in lack of self-confidence, guilt, and loss of security. A family atmosphere like
cannot produce optimistic children.
2. Give your children enough love from an early age.
Cultivate a psychologically sunny child. The most important thing is to give your children enough love from an early age. Especially before the age of 3, the high-quality company of parents is very important to children. With the company of their parents, children can feel the care and love of their parents most directly, and with the company of their parents, can they better discover their children's problems and problems.
3, help children get rich spiritual experience
Different psychological cues can bring people a very different emotional experience, and rich spiritual experience can bring greater psychological flexibility. Parents can take their children to get in touch with more new things and let them experience a rich emotional experience, so that children can better integrate their emotions.
An optimistic attitude is the key to a child's growth. When encountering difficulties, children will also find ways to solve problems instead of avoiding them. So we must help children develop an optimistic attitude.
