Yu Linmeng
Netizen asked: Can you give some advice on educating your children?
My child just entered the first grade this year. She is timid and doesn’t speak. She likes to deal with things by crying. Recently, I said I was afraid of the teacher and didn’t want to go to school. I said that the teacher scolded her and cried at school when I sent her to her in the morning. I really couldn't persuade her, because she was tired of her heart and body. What should I do when I think of such a young child not studying at night?
Reply: Children’s social courage is made of playing, and expanding children’s social circle is the best way to overcome timidity . The root cause of a child's timidity: he has few playmates in contact, he only plays with a few people at home all day long, and his parents help him with all his life affairs... The specific way to overcome timidity is to take the child out of the house and let him play with his partner from the next door.
Capability , the flexibility shown by living objects to adapt to the natural living environment, for example, humans have the ability to obtain food through active labor and solve survival and development problems through group collaboration. Ability is always associated with people completing a certain amount of active labor creation practice. Without specific productive labor practice, it cannot express people's abilities nor develop people's abilities.
"Tao Te Ching" : " Heaven and earth are not kind, and treat all things as straw (chú) dog ." Heaven and earth treat all things the same, and will not be particularly good to anyone, nor will they be particularly bad to anyone, and everything develops naturally. life is given the natural material combination form of reproductive ability + growth cycle + a small part of damage self-healing function . All natural life must adapt to the natural living environment in the way of passive adaptation + active request for . Plant absorbs water-soluble microminerals from natural substances combined with photosynthesis to produce life nutrients, animal feeds directly or indirectly, microorganism boards plants or animals... Natural life quietly forms the " ecological food chain " with relatively balanced stability .
human , a social viviparous mammal in the natural life system with the highest comprehensive IQ, the slowest growth and the strongest growth plasticity, is also the only animal group in the natural life system that has the ability to create living consumption materials through active labor according to the needs of independent survival, domestication and sowing plants, animal husbandry and fishery that tame captive animals, mining and processing to make production labor industrial and assisting humans to overcome diseases, medicine industry that assists children in learning and growth ... active labor creation has become the fundamental symbol that distinguishes humans from other natural life.
Biologist Darwin noticed the fact that No natural life can survive alone . Sexual reproduction & Asexual reproduction , hermaphrodite reproduction & dioecious reproduction, asexual reproduction & dioecious reproduction... As a social mammal with the highest comprehensive IQ, humans belong to and dioecious , and sexual are the basis of human intergenerational reproduction. Therefore, from the normal maintenance of intergenerational breeding, humans must help each other in groups.
First grade text:
Sun and moon are bright, Tian Linan.
small big tip, small dust.
Two people followed, three people.
Shuangmu Forest, Sanmu Forest.
No one person can make a lot of people, no one can make a forest.
Everyone has a heart, and the loess turns into gold.
Southern Dynasties · Fan Hua "Book of the Later Han Dynasty·Biography of Cui Si": "High trees are covered with shade, and trees are not forested. It is suitable for you at any time. The way is important to follow the ordinary." Indeed, looking at the natural world of life, plants need to grow in large quantities, animals need to survive with their compatriots, and even non-living substances are distributed in batches, such as coal mines, iron ore, gold mines, oil and natural gas . Similarly, modern humans gather in villages and towns, and modern humans can hardly find real lonely people.
The story in " Quran ":
A scholar heard that there is a "master method of moving mountains" in the world, so he decided to learn this method.But he visited many famous teachers but failed to do so and was very disappointed.
One day, he visited a great Zen master and told him about his troubles. After hearing his complaints, the Zen master told him very easily: "You don't have to run around. Stay here for a while. I can teach you the 'Great Method of Moving Mountains'."
The scholar was very happy, so he stayed there. But many days passed, and the Zen master just asked about his life situation and did not teach him the "Great Method of Moving Mountains". So he found an opportunity to ask the Zen master: "Master, when did you teach me the 'Great Method of Moving Mountain'?"
Zen master replied: "There is no 'Great Method of Moving Mountain' in the world, but there is a way to achieve the goal you hope for."
scholars asked excitedly: "What is the method? Please tell me quickly."
Zen master said calmly: "If you can't come to the mountain, I will go to ."
plants strive to extend their roots and branches and leaves, just to reach the wider water and soil resources and light energy; animals work hard to adjust their relative displacement just to capture food more easily. Actively searching for nutrients is the instinct for all natural life to maintain survival . "If you can't come to the mountain, I will go to " is fully displayed in the entire life system. As a social mammal with the highest comprehensive IQ in the natural life world, humans will try their best to meet their physiological needs and will try their best to integrate into a larger community.
" Zuo Zhuan·Chenggong Fourth Year ": " is not my race, his heart must be different from ." It means that people from our same race must not have the same heart as us. Similarly, all natural life encounters unfamiliar situations and only two strategies are used to deal with it: avoid or fight . The crying of a human baby at birth is to express fear of a strange environment and to restore peace after being comforted.
Read thousands of books, which can quickly link the wisdom of the ancients and travel thousands of miles. You can understand the secular customs and customs and famous teachers through travel, and quickly know the worldly affairs in the insights of famous people today. ... After entering the era of civilization, human beings must rely on the mature survival wisdom of the group to " stands on the shoulders of giants and become giants ". Similarly, no one knows human babies when they are born. After birth, they gradually get to know their parents + grandparents + brothers and sisters + relatives + friends + classmates + colleagues + colleagues + everyone's interpersonal social interaction is centered on the frequency of contact. The more frequent contacts, the more familiar they are, and the less frequent contacts, the stranger they are. Of course, the wider the social circle, the higher the happiness index of people in life, and the more active social behaviors, the more friends.
As the saying goes, " is born again and again, and is a friend of him, three times and four times. "At the beginning of the birth of a baby, it is not familiar with all natural matter. Humans' comprehensive understanding and ability to survive in nature matter are derived from acquired imitation practice. Therefore, humans' familiarity with the natural environment is centered on the residential point, and the closer the distance is, the more familiar it is, and the farther the distance is, the stranger it is. However, as the saying goes, "birds of a feather flock together to ", everyone prefers to be friends with enthusiastic and generous people, and likes to be friends with people who are better than themselves.
The poor children are already in their homes. Ordinary working people, because they are busy with livelihoods and do not have time to focus on taking care of their children, their children must learn to take care of themselves from an early age. Today, more and more children who are well- nurtured are timid. The fundamental reason is that parents help them with all their life affairs, they live in a gentle village where they are accompanied by their families all day, and rarely play alone with non-family members. Therefore, the social courage of children is achieved through playing. Expanding their children's social circle is the best way to overcome timidity. The specific method is to take the child out of the house and let him find a partner in the neighbor's next door to play.
Neighborhood mission: Become a sparring and consultant on the road to growth of children.
Vision of nurturing neighbors: Let there be no difficult-to-bred young people and no difficult-to-raising old people in the world.
The growth of children is like a century-old tree. It requires experiencing storms, selfless companionship from the family, and earnest teaching from schools and society.Educate neighbors: Explore the use of neighborhood friendship to drive social harmony, promote social moral education, and promote everyone's healthy and happy growth, in order to "tailor" children's growth plans with parents and build an educational service ecosystem that helps community neighbors.
