Do you still remember the Korean drama "You from the Star" that once became popular across the country? The protagonist "Professor Du" has not appeared in front of the screen for a long time because he is going to serve in the military. This time he is back with a drama that has never been searched but has received unanimous praise.
Seeing so many good reviews of me, I was very curious to check what the show was called, and I watched it by the way. This look was out of control. Every time I chat, I can’t help but give it to friends around me. , Because this Korean drama is indeed different from the previous plot. There is no story of overbearing president falling in love with Mary Su, nor sadomasochism. Some are wonderful plot laying and unique character creation. This drama is "Although it is mentally sick, it doesn’t matter ", a name that makes people confused at first glance.
Although this drama is based on love, you will find that after reading the content, it is a wonderful drama that explores family relationships from the perspective of mental health. The male lead
is a male caregiver in a mental hospital. He has a good temper because he takes care of mental patients all the year round, but it is impossible for a person to be without bad emotions. All his negative emotions are squeezed deep in his heart and have never been released. , Resulting in his whole being in a very depressed state, it is difficult to live out his true self.
is a dark fairy tale writer, because some bad childhood experiences have caused her psychological problems, she always wakes up in nightmares when she sleeps, and she has a low sense of self-security, so she is always domineering, reckless and cold. There is no ability to empathize with others.
in my opinion is a story of two people who had emotional trauma with their parents in childhood redeeming each other, everyone is a patient, the impulse of the heroine is a disease, and the patience of a boy is also a disease in the eyes of outsiders The irritable, arrogant and mad heroine is actually healing others, while the seemingly gentle and kind-hearted hero without a trace of bad temper is the one who is the most ill. The wonderful thing about the plot arrangement of
is that every episode will have a fairy tale appearing as a clue to the hero’s and heroine’s childhood stories. Every episode has a character who walks out of the inner haze to gain his own life value. Each character has its own unique character. They gradually release their truest self in a funny, scary, and depressing atmosphere. There is a dark fairy tale in
that impressed me very much. The picture book is called "Zombie Kid". It says:
has a little boy born in a small village. The child was born with pale skin and very big eyes. Great, the mother naturally knew that this child is a zombie with no emotions but only appetite.
In order to avoid the eyes and ears of the villagers, the mother hid the little boy in the basement and would steal other people’s poultry every night to feed the child. She continued to live like this for several years, and slowly the child grew up.
There was a plague in the village for one year. Many villagers and livestock died. Even those who survived left the village and fled far away.
The mother who couldn't bear to let her child starve cut off one of her arms and fed it to the child, but because the child was too hungry, the child was still crying, so the mother cut off the other arm and fed it to the child. The mother’s limbs were eaten by the child, leaving only the torso. The mother tried her best to crawl to the child’s side, trying to let the child eat her torso, but when the child tightly protected the mother’s body, the child who had never spoken He actually started to speak, and he said: Mom, Mom, really, really, so warm and warm!
According to the way we interpret fairy tales from an early age, we must sigh the greatness of mother’s love when the child is hungry and interpret the story from the point of view of the mother’s love. Fan scene.
is like the soul torture in the play: Does the boy want food or mother's warmth? The "zombie child" has never received true maternal love from his mother since he was a child. The fairy tale said that the mother naturally knew that her child was a zombie, so why would she know it naturally?Tao? She never let the child experience emotions, so she affirmed that he was just a zombie with no emotions and only appetite. This is too arbitrary! Mother
has never really loved her child, she just touched herself in hypocrisy, she has never poured her maternal love to him, everything is "knowing naturally" based on her own feelings. If she gave the child a warm embrace at the beginning, maybe he would have spoken a long time ago, and he would have become a normal person. This story reflects many people in the play from the side.
For the young male protagonist, he is the child who has been asking his mother to embrace from the very beginning.
Since childhood, his mother has paid special attention and preference to the autistic brother, and even revealed to the male protagonist after drinking. He was born after taking care of his brother. The mother’s preference has left a deep mark on the male protagonist’s heart, and the male protagonist who desperately hopes to be loved by his mother locks up his truest self and is burdened with a sensible, warm and kind-hearted burden. Row. When she read "Mom, so warm", the hero burst into tears.
For the brother with autism, he is the zombie kid who was locked up. Because of autism, he suffered the cold ridicule of the villagers. Because he is a child different from others, even if he pays more Many emotions will not get echo.
For the poor and thin mother of the male protagonist, she is the mother in the fairy tale who cut off her limbs to feed her child last. In order to take care of her autistic brother, she exhausted all her energy in her life.
For the heroine, she feels like the “zombie born without emotion.” The childhood of the heroine
is also very miserable. The mother thinks she is a different child, so she treats her as her own. The cultivation of an outstanding work, but did not give her the love she deserved, and the only impression her father gave her was that she wanted to strangle herself.
disseminates this drama on social issues and on family education, exposing some common scenes in our lives. Parents in many families blindly give their children material needs, but ignore them. The upbringing and love necessary to become normal people, slowly, children are regarded as "zombies" without emotions, and finally ruthlessly demand everything, even life, from their parents.
In life, many children will show a state of "not being fed". Parents try their best to give their children everything they can give, but they still seem to be at a loss. One side tries hard to get it, the other tries hard to give, like a bottomless pit , I can't fill it up. Children’s behavioral problems cause great pressure to parents, and there will be “suicide or murder of mothers” in social news. In parent-child relationships, children do not receive the emotional care they deserve, and they do not receive emotional support. Will create all kinds of problems to get outside attention, including parents.
In the injury caused by the original family to the child, the emotional injury is like an invisible wound. The pain is unforgettable but can never be healed. Emotional neglect is one of them. Some people say that long-term emotional neglect will make children produce Stress toxins destroy the brain and cause direct damage to the body.
"Parents, can you care about me? I am really under pressure to study!"
When we muster the courage to want our parents to give the most precious emotional comfort, the response we get is often:
What should I care about? I will pick you up and go to school every day, I have to cook for you after a busy day, and spend a lot of money to send you to the best tutoring class. Is this not enough? But what about you, just use this kind of results. Repay us?”
must be familiar to many people in the above dialogue. Due to the influence of national culture, in China, parents pay more attention to their children’s food and clothing rather than emotional needs. They pay attention to the trivial matters in life, but it is difficult Say "I love you" to your child. Even if the child actively seeks emotional support, the parents do not know how to help them, so they will choose not to help, or even disgust and resist. This will cause parents to love their children very much in their hearts.But I can't feel it in my heart.
Therefore, every family should attach importance to the connection between parent and child, know how to express their love and warmth to their children, and also know how to respond to their children’s emotional appeals. Early childhood plasticity is manifested in good aspects. On the bad side, for a growth period where opportunities and risks coexist, parents must know how to establish an emotional connection with their children, and how to make children grow better in warmth and love.
You have a long childhood with your children. You have enough time to explore and discover love and being loved with your children. For children who take love on the road, the world in front of them will be full of sunshine.
