Everyone knows that the lamb kneels to breastfeed and the crow feeds back.
But a recent video made people confused, confused, and heartbroken...
In Wuxi, Jiangsu, a mother was infected with the new crown .
Although she had a fever and felt unwell, her mother still managed to cook a meal for her three children. For fear of infecting the children, I also wore the N95 mask, which has the highest degree of protection.
While the three children were eating, a heart-wrenching scene happened:
The mother stood for a few seconds, and finally couldn't hold on anymore and fainted.
The three children who were eating just stared blankly, indifferently.
This situation lasted for nearly half a minute before one daughter stood up and walked to her mother, but she did not reach out to help her mother. She seemed to just poke her head to see her mother's condition without calling for help.
The other daughter didn’t even look at it, and was still eating calmly with her brother.
Although the woman fainted and fell to the ground, she was still somewhat conscious. After lying on the ground for a few minutes, she got up with difficulty.
Throughout the whole process, no child came forward to help the mother.
The youngest child looks only a few months old, so this reaction is understandable.
But the other two children looked to be at least seven or eight years old, which was really chilling.
For a time, netizens exploded. Many people accuse children of being indifferent, impersonal, and failing in their parents’ education.
One of the comments made me the most sad:
"Looking at the children's reactions, it is that the mother usually does too much for them and does not take the mother seriously..."
A mother's illness is like a magic mirror, which not only reveals the child's indifference, but also reveals the heartbreaking truth about family education:
The greatest sorrow of parents in this life is that they give everything but cannot raise grateful children.
Self-sacrificing parents are destroying their children
In Taiyuan, Shanxi, there is an 83-year-old old lady who sits on the ground at the train station to beg.
Her hair has turned gray, her face is covered with traces of time, her legs and feet are weak, and her vision is still a little blurry.
is such an old man. He appears at the train station every day regardless of rain or shine, stretching out his scarred hands to the passengers traveling from north to south, making everyone who sees him feel sad.
At an age when you should be enjoying your old age at home, why do you have to go out in public and give up your dignity to beg?
After police investigation, the truth is simply staggering! The person who sends the old lady to beg every day is none other than her biological son Li!
It is understood that Li is 44 years old. Not only does he not have a family, he is nearly fifty and does not even have a serious job.
His life consists of playing cards and sleeping, and all his expenses come from begging from his mother...
When asked why he didn't go out to work, Li said boldly: My mother doesn't let me work, she promised to support me for the rest of my life!
So, he felt at ease and sent his elderly mother to the door of the train station to beg, selling his dignity and squeezing out the last bit of his own value.
is pitiful! sad!
The old mother’s endless and unconditional dedication did not bring her children’s heartache and gratitude, but she got a vampire-like backlash.
There is a passage in "Parents Are Extremely Cruel and Especially Loving":
The love parents give their children is not too little but too much.
I can’t bear to let them experience the hardships of life since childhood, and I don’t know how to ask for it at the right time.
This ultimately leads to a lifetime of hardship for the children, who will demand from them throughout their lives.
Just as the educator Rousseau said:
"Do you know how to make your child an unfortunate person? Then be obedient to him."
The biggest failure of a parent is to protect the child in all aspects, control him and take care of him, but not give him the opportunity to try to take care of others and take responsibility.
Successful education is to raise children who know how to be grateful
Yu Minhong once mentioned in a speech that when he educates his children, he will deliberately cultivate their sense of gratitude to their parents.
He said: "I now live with my mother. As long as the children are present, I will feed her and wash her feet. I want the children to know that being grateful to their parents is the most important thing."
Being a parent, having and raising children, I have endured a lot of hard work. All I can ask for is to raise a child who knows how to be considerate and grateful to his parents.
A few years ago, there was a student surnamed Pang who scored 744 points on the Internet and everyone called him "a noble boy from a poor family". The president of Tsinghua University even personally led a team to pick him up at home.
When everyone arrived at classmate Pang’s home, they were shocked by what they saw:
The walls in the house were mottled, with only a few old furniture and a lamp hanging on the wall, which was the only electrical appliance in the house.
The yard is filled with all kinds of waste cardboard and bottles and cans. There is not even a table in the house, only two beds.
This is where Pang Zhongwang grew up.
Seeing this scene, the principal felt sad in his heart and said that it was very difficult for this child.
But when I mentioned my family situation and family to classmate Pang, I never heard him complain.
He said, "I grew up in love. My mother is so good, my grandparents are so good, and every one of my relatives is so good. I don't think they embarrass me.
Photo On the contrary, I think others should envy me."
When Pang was a child, he suffered from congenital heart disease . In order to treat him, his mother visited more than 20 households in the village. Finally, she collected enough medical expenses, but she was also burdened with heavy debts.
Despite being heavily in debt, her mother never complained to her child, and she even thought of ways to provide him with nutrition to keep him healthy. My grandparents also supported the family as much as they could by picking up scraps.
He has always kept the love from his family firmly in his heart. So he wanted to use his own efforts to study hard and repay his parents for their upbringing.
Considering that my grandma and grandpa are too old to take care of my mother, he gets up early every morning to finish the housework, prepare meals for his mother, and then go to school.
At an age when other children are playful, he can already support the weight of a home on his own.
There is a saying that goes well: "For a family, raising a child who knows how to be grateful is better than having a fortune."
Having love in a child's heart is better than perfect high scores; having a child with a grateful heart is more important than intelligence.
What you sow, you will reap. If you want your children to become what you want them to be, parents need to water them carefully.
In terms of material things, do not spoil your children and let them understand the difficulty of their parents;
At the same time, you must pay attention to psychological upbringing and let go appropriately so that children have more room to grow.
I hope every parent can know how to love themselves first, and then love their children; I hope every child can know how to be grateful and filial to their parents!
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