Parents are the creators of the family environment. What kind of family environment parents create, the children will be affected and shaped by the environment, and they will gradually become what kind of people .
Introduction
I once again realized the powerful influence and shaping nature of the environment.
On Friday night, the child’s father watched the TV series Sun Honglei , and I looked at it and found it was quite good. So I also sat on the sofa and watched, and the children were watching.
When I saw it at around 9 o'clock, I called my child to go to bed, saying that I usually go to school and go to bed late, so I should hurry up and take a good rest on weekends, but the child refused to go.
After a while, it was 10 o'clock, but I still refused to go to bed. After a while, it was 11 o'clock, and it was almost early morning and I yelled at me before I went to sleep reluctantly.
Parents are the creators of the family environment
In our family, it is extremely rare for children to sleep at such a late night. They usually sleep around 10 o'clock, and sometimes they go to bed at around 9 o'clock on weekends, and I never turn on the TV on my own initiative.
But the child’s father likes to watch TV at night. If I don’t restrain myself, he usually turns off the TV after the early morning.
To say this, I am not pushing the responsibility to the child’s father, I know that I have greater responsibility. But what I want to say more is that because we are parents, we have the responsibility to create a positive and motivated family environment for our children.
TV is not impossible to watch, but the time and frequency of watching TV need to be bounded, which requires parents to have strong self-discipline.
Sometimes I am not self-disciplined. For example, when watching TV, I either don’t watch it, and I have to finish it as soon as I watch it. If I don’t finish it, this matter will always be in my heart.
However, there is something even more that I can’t stop. After all, watching TV is easier and more comfortable, right? It’s so cool to sit by the stove and eat snacks and watch TV on winter nights!
So, you see, even parents are like this, let alone children?
This reminds me of Cai Xiaowanlai, the father who takes educating his children well as his career.
Cai Xiaowan has 6 children. Since he gave birth to his first child, he will train his children well and make them his greatest glory as his lifelong career and life ideal.
In order to achieve what you want and achieve your dream, Cai Xiaowan built his family into a place of love, warm and scientific learning.
★ Pull erhu every morning, wake up the child with music, then play the radio, and polish the child's ears in English.
★ Every night I read and study with my children. The whole family sits under the light, parents and children read their own books, and ask questions if they don’t understand.
★ In the 16-square-meter house, the old walls are covered with portraits of scientists such as Einstein , Madame Curie, Newton , Qian Xuesen and other scientists.
★ Plan the child’s growth blueprint early and designed the child’s path to study. The family moved to the child many times for the sake of his studies.
★ Take your children to travel around the country when you have time, and enrich your children’s experience and see a greater world.
★ In order to accompany the children, Cai Xiaowan and his wife sacrificed almost all the entertainment activities, and even rarely participated in wedding banquets and wedding banquets of relatives and friends.
In addition to this, the couple did a lot. The they created actively and beautifully upward family environment , which ultimately made children successful.
What kind of family environment do parents want to create for their children? What parents say doesn’t count, but only after doing it is
Back to myself, I am extremely tired of the family environment that only knows entertainment but not motivated. I believe that most parents also want to create a good family environment for their children. How to create
?
My approach is to first reach a consensus with the child’s father on watching TV.
The child is at home on weekends, and the time to watch TV at night is controlled within 2 hours. He usually watch TV before the child returns home after evening study.
Secondly, as parents, we spend more time making money and growing ourselves, and keep our restraints on entertainment such as playing games and watching TV.
Again, communicate and interact more with your children at home, chat from time to time, talk about home and heart, often exercise with your children, and study with them.
Finally, I attach great importance to children's education.
attaches importance to children's education, should be put first.
As Cai Xiaowan advocated in the book " My Career is a Father ", treat nurturing children to become a career in life, put it first in daily affairs, and sacrifice everything else if necessary.
When parents have this awareness , the family environment will naturally be bad.
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Family environment is the child's "influence dishes" and "shapemaker".
What kind of family environment parents create for their children, the children will be affected and shaped by the environment.
Your present is the future of your children. More create a positive and progressive family environment !
