Hello everyone, I am a senior family education instructor Love.
When the child encounters difficulties, the parents are still saying: It doesn’t matter?
Doing 3 things can make your child's emotions more and more stable.
In addition to accompanying your children to do homework, what else can make parents feel nervous?
Of course, when a child is emotionally broken.
When the child of my sister's family encounters difficulties and troubles, my sister always tells the child that doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, such a small thing is worth getting angry?
However, after hearing this, the child was unhappy and walked away with a sad face! After too many things like this, the negative emotions of the
After the negative emotions of the child cannot be guided correctly, and a big conflict broke out!
Just because my mother brought him less fruit, she started to lose her temper!
cried and shouted: You don’t care about me at all! You don't love me at all!
My sister was so aggrieved that she cried!
I don’t care about him. I study with him every day, I only forgot once and didn’t bring him fruit! Just say such hurtful words!
When the child cannot deal with his emotions, he will encounter unhappy things and has nowhere to put them, and will not solve them. will say things that make mother sad!
When the child encounters troubles and difficulties, parents will only say that it doesn’t matter, but ignore the child’s feelings, which will lead to a situation where the child’s learning declines, grades decline, not concentrate on listening in class, and even deliberately quarrel with classmates and parents.
Don’t say “it doesn’t matter” when your child encounters difficulties! Doing 3 things can make the child more stable
① Give the child the opportunity to talk to
When the parents said it was okay, they did not think about it. The child originally wanted to talk about the troubles he encountered, but when the mother said it was okay, she felt that the mother didn’t care at all and what happened to him! There is no chance to talk, and even the parents denied it as soon as they said it.
The negative emotions in the heart cannot be released, which will increase the psychological pressure and even do things that parents think are too excessive.
will not control one's emotions, and will make children lose the hearts of their parents , the love of friends, the support of teachers, and even the nobles in life!
② Practice the correct expression more and
What is the reason why children speak too much?
Children are kind-hearted, but they have not practiced the correct way of expression. No one has taught them how to communicate with their parents so that they can get the help they want and how to speak themselves so that their mother can understand their thoughts!
In "The Great Test", when Jiajun saw that the painting he had worked hard to draw for a long time was destroyed by his mother, he told his mother, "Are you sick?"
makes mom particularly sad! Doesn’t Jiajun love his mother? Of course not.
When I found that there were medicines for depression at home, I was afraid that I would be disobedient, which made my mother angry and suddenly became well-behaved. I just thought that my mother could be in a better mood.
When you are free, accompany your child to practice correct speech. Only when the child masters the way of expression can he grow up.
③ Find a psychological book suitable for children to read
Can you understand it if your children read psychological books?
In order to help my sister's child, I became stronger and stayed away from negative emotions, I analyzed dozens of sets of books and finally discovered this set of comics suitable for primary school students to read.
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This set of "Comic Primary School Student Psychology" has 4 volumes, with the themes of self-confidence, sociality, activeness, and self-control, helping children become a confident, optimistic and emotionally stable teenager!
After giving this set of "Comic Primary School Student Psychology" to my nephew, my sister was very happy and found that her son had become much sunny! Every day when I come back from school, I will read this set of books first and not put them down until I eat.
Every day, I do small tests in the book, learn about my inner world, follow the protagonist in the story, learn how to deal with my troubles, and take the initiative to apologize to my mother. My sister feels like a different person!
I also ordered a set of "Comic Primary School Student Psychology" for my daughter. The content is really attractive. In an interesting way, relaxed comics make people reluctant to let go.
especially like the guidance method in the book. Let the children think for themselves first. What would you choose when facing such a situation? A simple multiple-choice question allows children to think positively. How do I need to do better when facing such troubles?
Through one loop of thinking, children can find a real solution.
After finally solving the difficulties and troubles, it will lead the child to think. What progress have he made after experiencing this incident? What else can be done and how to say it will be better?
can not only allow children to actively participate in it and strive to find the answer. At the same time, the book also guides children to become brave and confident in the face of difficulties, become a person who actively faces the troubles in life, achieves better communication, and become a person with high emotional intelligence and is loved by everyone!
For example, in "Self-Confidence", through the 20 short stories in the book, eliminate the inner denial of yourself, clear the obstacles on the road to growth, and you can re-recognize yourself and become a confident person!
In "Self-control", it tells the story of the little protagonist who never deals with emotions when he encounters anger, irritability, and sadness. He says what makes his parents and friends sad. grows into a person with high emotional intelligence and self-control!
Parents are satisfied, children love to watch, making their hearts stronger! There are fewer conflicts at home and more children smile!
Follow the 80 short stories in the book to experience the joy of growth. Love It is recommended that parents with 5-12-year-old children in the family must prepare a set for their children and use a relaxed and interesting way to make their children a person with self-control, high emotional intelligence, sunny and confident!
Love has applied for an exclusive price for you, a total of 4 books, one book is only more than 10 yuan, you can enjoy the happiness of the family, feel the harmonious atmosphere, and see the cute smiles of your children every day. It’s so great!
A sunny and confident person, a child who can control his emotions, and a child who can calmly and actively solve problems will make the family more warm, and will often say considerate words to parents, and will have the love of countless people. will become a big winner in life!
