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When we were young, we formed an stereotype : A girl who studies well must be simple, while a girl who is radiant and loves to dress up must not study well.
The reason why we think so is because parents convey this message to us. We often hear such words from adults: they are dressed up in a fancy way, they look like a "crazy girl" at first glance, and must be a big fool.
is right. Under the guidance of parents and the influence of the general environment, girls who study well do look very simple, and those girls who like to dress up in the class are indeed dragging their studies.
, influenced by this concept, we have grown up and entered the ranks of middle-aged people. It is precisely because we were educated and influenced when we were young that many of us still have such stereotypes that "good learning" and "exquisite" cannot appear at the same time. Girls who are good at learning must be those who are rough and non-skinned.
This is a stereotype, and stereotypes must be inaccurate.
Girls who love beauty can also learn well
The higher you stand, the further you see, the more you can see different scenery.
When we first saw that girl with exquisite makeup was actually a top student, we must have a skeptical attitude, but when we understand her strength, we will find that it is her own stereotype that limits her pattern.
In fact, there are many such girls in the outside world. Girls can take into account their appearance and be an exquisite girl, while taking into account their studies and achieving good results in their studies.
We should not regard "pursuing beauty" as a manifestation of "degenerate", and this kind of old thought is unsatisfactory.
As long as a girl knows what she wants, can focus on learning when studying, have a relatively high concentration, and has her own unique learning methods, they can maintain a good learning state, , and this does not affect their mentality of pursuing "beauty" in their spare time. These two things are not repeated, and it is not necessary to choose one type of .
It is natural for girls to love beauty. Parents should not deny their children
If you have a daughter at home, I suggest that parents do not guide their children, let their children refuse pink, dolls, and bows.
says this because I have met many mothers who like to dress up girls as boyish, and claim: "My daughter doesn't like pink, doesn't like dolls. They like cars, excavators, and basketball..."
But in fact, when they leave their mother's sight, they often stare at other people's pink toys and pink dolls, and their eyes are filled with unconcealed likes.
There is also a kind of distraction from parents because they are worried about "love beauty", which affects their children's studies, so they are forbidden from getting into cosmetics and nail polish, which are difficult for girls to resist.
Children are young and should not wear makeup, and they cannot touch these things from a healthy perspective. However, parents' guidance is very important at this time. If parents just blindly deny their children's and think that their children should not have such ideas. This will defeat the children's self-confidence and self-esteem , and it is also possible to open up a parent-child relationship and make the children rebellious . In order to retaliate against their parents, they often deliberately do not take into account their studies, because they know that this is what parents care about the most, and this is the method that can make parents angry the most.
Correct guidance can make "love of beauty" a motivation
I asked my three-year-old daughter " Do you think it is important to dress up beautifully, or do you think it is important to study hard ", she replied without hesitation: I think it is important to dress up beautifully .
Personally, for a little girl who loves beauty, they only know that dressing beautifully is very fun. Gorgeously dressing will attract others' attention, and dressing beautifully will receive praise from others. They don’t know the importance of studying hard, so it is the most normal to give such an answer.
However, although they don’t know, we know.
I said to my daughter, " do you know? If you don't study hard, don't master a lot of knowledge, don't get into college in the future, and can't find a good job, you won't have the opportunity to dress up beautifully. "
After she thought carefully, she didn't speak, but then asked her this question, her answer was: "The most important thing is to study hard, because only by studying hard can you dress up beautifully. I have been studying hard in kindergarten."
This is a change in thinking of . We should let them realize the importance of learning . The process of learning is the process of accumulating knowledge, and knowledge is our life wealth. With these, we can survive well, and only by being able to survive well can we have the opportunity to dress up beautifully.
When the child understands the meaning of it, he generates the internal driving force and will take the initiative to do what he should do, which is the result we want.
Children's pursuit of beauty is not a bad thing. Parents only need to guide and restrain themselves, so that their children know what time to do and what to wear during what time and what to wear on what occasions. They allow their children to spend some time studying how to dress and dress up, so that their children realize that only by mastering certain skills and knowledge and having their own career can they always maintain their beautiful style. You will find that children who love beauty can also become academic masters.
