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The child is still young and does not have the ability to take care of himself. He needs parents to accompany him all the time to prevent dangers and accidents and ensure the safety of his children. But raising children is not easy, and you will inevitably encounter some embarrassing problems. Some are generous and tolerant of this, while others are obsessed with it.
Mother takes her son to the women's bathroom, father takes her daughter to the men's bathroom, mother feeds her in public, etc., such issues are no longer new. But every time something similar happens, everyone will quarrel and chatter from their own perspectives.
Sometimes parents want to avoid this, but their children need to take care of them. Put the children outside the toilet and let the children starve and cry. The former is in danger of loss, while the latter affects the children's growth. After repeated thoughts, most parents will consider their children.
A woman in Quanzhou, Fujian encountered an extremely embarrassing thing and took her 2-year-old son to the mall to shop. She was unwell and needed to go to the bathroom. But the 2-year-old child was outside and was a little worried, so he took the child into the women's bathroom with him.
The women's toilets in the mall are all independent compartments. She lets the child stand in the compartment without letting him run around. But during this period, she was criticized and accused by a group of girls, saying that she had no quality and should not take her children into the bathroom. For a moment, she felt helpless and angry.
As a mother, is there any mistake in ensuring the safety of the child and keeping the child inseparable? At that time, the child was in the compartment and did not walk around and looked around. He could not violate other people's privacy. The 2-year-old child had no gender awareness. As for how to ridicule and criticize the woman in this way?
If she can, she doesn't want to do this, but the problem is that the situation is urgent and she is unwell and she has to go to the toilet. You can't let your children stay outside, right? Even if it is left to others for care, I am a little worried, after all, everyone is very busy.
Maybe only mothers with children can experience this helplessness. A few people can ignore others' opinions, and their left ear goes in and right ear comes out, but most people cannot put it aside. They always want to come forward to argue with others, but who can understand it?
like a sentence: "Don't persuade others to be kind without the suffering of others." Some things can only be understood by yourself if you have experienced them personally. Only when you look at the problem in that environment and perspective can you get the answers from others. But what can you do if you have not experienced them? After the incident happened, everyone commented on this, and there were two main differences. One is that the special situation is understandable. Most girls have to experience this situation. The other is that women have no quality and are not moral, which violates the default public morality.
The former believes that the child is still young and does not know anything. What can a 2-year-old child know? There is no need to exaggerate or worry too much, let alone the situation is special. Parents continue to go to the toilet and leave their children outside. What if they are gone?
The latter believes that no matter the child is of age, as long as it enters the opposite sex in the toilet, it will not work. If there is no clear standard toilet for men and women, this is understandable, but if it is clearly marked, it will definitely not be forgiven, no matter what the reason is.
is just how to eliminate this embarrassment? It's really tricky to deal with, but it's not impossible. If you are in a shopping mall or other public places, you can leave it to the staff for a few minutes, or set up a third bathroom to serve special circumstances.
Everyone has their own opinions on this matter. After all, the perspective of the problem is different, but no matter what, it is really difficult to empathize with it. Only those who have experienced it personally understand that every mother will experience this situation. Sometimes it is a good thing for others to be more tolerant.
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