Every parent hopes that their children can be smart and have both good character and academic performance. However, parents must be wise in their education and guidance of their children. You cannot make choices and decisions for your children based on your own opinions, but should give full play to your children's own subjective initiative.
In this way, children can truly grow up. If your child has the following situations, it may be "fake smart", parents should pay attention to identification, and do not be proud of it or be complacent.
1. Children can speak eloquently, but they are "talking on paper". Children have a cleverness, and parents will certainly be proud. Because in the current social environment, being able to speak eloquently is really important. Be able to gain good connections and development opportunities for yourself.
Some children are very good at reasoning. No matter what they do, they always present their own reasons, and even quote classics to prove themselves. They are simply wise and can easily overcome others verbally. However, careful parents may find that the child can only say but not do it, or the results he has made are completely different from what he has said, and are far from what he has said. This will attract attention.
Although eloquence is a necessary skill, it is absolutely impossible to just say but not practice. You must have real skills so that your eloquence can truly play a role. If you don’t have any skills and just rely on one mouth, others will not be convinced.
2. The child is obedient and well-behaved, but his ability to resist setbacks is too poor. We all hope that children can be obedient and sensible, but some children are overly obedient, obey their parents' words and dare not violate them, and are typical "good boys".
This kind of child is often prone to lack subjective initiative and creative thinking, and cannot take on and complete something independently. Moreover, if you hear too many praises in your ears, you will easily become arrogant in your heart. Once you have words to belittle yourself, you will not be able to accept it at all, and your ability to resist setbacks is very weak. If you encounter difficulties, you will stagnate and helpless. This is something that parents need to pay attention to and guide.
3. Children are very good at playing, but they do not have enough concentration in learning. It is their nature that children can play. But once you mention reading and studying, it is easy to slack off. On the one hand, children have formed a wrong understanding of learning, believing that learning is boring, and on the other hand, they lack concentration.
Parenting expert Li Meijin Professor said: What determines children's academic performance is often not IQ, but concentration. On the one hand, parents should cultivate their children's interest in learning and tell them that learning is the same as playing, which is also very interesting. It is not only interesting, but also meaningful. On the other hand, subconsciously exercise his concentration so that he can focus on doing something from beginning to end, and the child's wisdom will gradually improve.
