There is a question on Zhihu: "Our education exhausts children. Will children feel the joy of learning? ?"
I answered this way.
Fan Deng Teacher once said that children with high self-esteem are good at facing challenges, while children with low self-esteem will choose to retreat relatively.
Is self-esteem born random?
or is it cultivated from this container of family?
First, every era has its own difficulties
My parents were from the 1950s, and they have experienced many difficult periods of history and were even forced to go to the countryside for ten years. As written in "The First Emperor" today, any proton sent to the princes and countries will be more promising because they face life and death threats every day.
My parents often say that a generation who has experienced going to the countryside can endure harder and have a greater chance of success when they return to the city.
Can’t children bear the hardships of learning?
Second, it is the responsibility of parents to cultivate children to be studious
In the same educational system, there are children to be studious, but children not to be studious. Curiosity about the unknown is a homework that parents should do when they are born.
Montessori says that every child has innate learning potential.
A teacher in school faces forty or fifty children and naturally chooses to treat him with different eyes if he is willing to study. School education is a continuation of family education.
The root of everything lies in the parents themselves.
Third, I found that children are slightly better than others
In my time of study, more than 30 years ago, everyone had to work hard to find a way through learning. After so many years, I saw that my classmates develop, not that they must be good if they have good grades, and those with poor grades cannot survive.
Parents Do you have all the children to accept and see the real children?
The future is an era of artificial intelligence , and any mechanical copy of memory may be replaced by artificial intelligence.
The only thing we are good at doing is to be ourselves. Cooperation and innovation are the eternal core competitiveness of our human beings.
While discovering the advantages of children, they continue to encourage children, while growing up themselves and becoming a role model for their children. The essence of education now is a two-way journey between parents and children.
We cannot change the current overall education situation. We have survived such advantages for thousands of years, but we are also a generation with more resources. It is better to improve our own pattern and accompany our children to see a bigger world!
