After having a child, parents will have a common feeling that the older the child, the harder it is to manage. In the process of managing children, urging has become the most common way.
Female parents can have good emotions when facing children who are always dragging. Even if they have it, it is only the first time.
The two babies at home I brought to class today. Time was already very tight, but the two babies were slower than the other. really made me anxious and I was about to collapse in an instant. Finally, he hurried out amid a loud noise.
The two children seemed to be very wronged and muttered: "We are already very fast, don't urge you anymore." The younger brother even said directly: "I don't want to draw anymore." The reaction of my two children made me even more collapsed.
In the urging, children's behavior patterns have changed and are easily affected. also changes their behavior patterns, but parents do not know them yet.
. What specific impact will it have on children? There are roughly the following aspects.
. Execution will become worse
During the urging process, the child's execution will become very poor. forms a bad habit that does not urge or do, and simply depends on the urging of parents. Forming a wrong dependence will affect the improvement of children's self-discipline and self-care ability.
. Lack of motivation to do things becomes blind
Every child will become lacking motivation during the urging process and have no idea what they are going to do every day. was urged by his parents, and he was very anxious and had no time to think.
. Children's enthusiasm becomes very poor
Children should like to do things themselves, and only by being motivated can they do well. But when constantly urging, the child's behavior will become very negative, and even if he is willing to do it, he will become unwilling to do it. has become a way to fight against parents. Once this behavior is formed, it will affect the efficiency of children's doing things.
. Attention is easy to distract
Good attention is the basis of learning, but under the urging of parents, their attention will be affected. When doing things, you cannot focus on doing things. Attention is affected, and learning anything becomes difficult.
Children's behavior patterns need to be established step by step. However, some parents' willful urging has caused unnecessary interference to the children and caused qualitative changes in their behavior. is unwilling to do what you want to do. She would give up even if she wanted to continue trying. In their minds, they would only create an idea. "It's already like this, so let him urge you."
According to research findings Most of the negative things of children are related to urging. Some children with stubborn personalities will become more willful and rebellious in the urging process, and eventually become a stubborn person.
. Why do children procrastinate?
Why do children procrastinate? is being urged by parents. The first reason is that his self-care ability is not enough for . Because of his limited ability, others will be slow to do things.
The second reason is that it is related to personality. Some children with slow-temperature personality are usually half a beat slow.
This is their normal behavior, so parents should not always compare them with others.Understand your child's personality and then decide what to do?
The third reason is that children have not developed the habits of . Children always write and play while doing their homework, which will inevitably waste time. So the whole process will become very slow and the efficiency will be very low, which will form a dullness in the eyes of parents.
2. How parents who are procrastinating children can change them by using the method of not urging them to change
When facing the child's procrastinating behavior, how parents can make them change without urging them. As long as the parents use the method properly, children can avoid many wrong behavior patterns.
. First, establish the child's concept of time
There is an ancient poem that says it well: "Every inch of time is gold." Parents should establish their children's concept of time. Let children understand that time is precious and experience the length of time in the game. For example, how long is it to play for 1 minute? Or 5 minutes of game, etc.
Feeling time by yourself is more conducive to the development of the concept of time. Let the child write down his time clearly and make a good budget for what he does, so as to avoid delaying and procrastinating.
. Secondly, teach children to plan
Parents should teach their children to plan and do everything well and have a clear idea. List the things you need to do one by one, and list what things you do first? What to do later. every time, it is clear in mind, not only to have goals in mind, but also to better help children change their procrastination and procrastination behavior.
, and buy some counters
You can buy a clock or timer to turn the time into something you can see. In this way, the child can control the time by himself through the timer. It is convenient for children to establish a concept of time and can better understand time.
. Finally, we must establish good habits for our children.
Character determines destiny habits determine success or failure . We must pay attention to the development of children's habits from an early age. No small thing in life can be ignored, but you must pay attention to the penetration of habits.
For example, the habit of doing your own things, the habit of completing everything before playing, etc. The establishment of habits can effectively help children develop procrastination behaviors, which is conducive to the development of self-care ability and self-discipline.
In addition to the above, parents should also express their requirements clearly when expressing their children, and do not have any priorities or concealment. It is also very important for children to explain what they have made clearly and understand.
Summary: Every child in the world is an independent individual, and each of them has their own characteristics. So my parents want me to have a normal mind and not always compare with my children. Discover the advantages and disadvantages of children, be more tolerant and less urge.
