"Children are still so young, don't always control them."
When it comes to educating children, we always adhere to one concept - Discipline your children as early as possible. If it is too late, you will really be unable to control them.
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The younger the child, the more plastic it is
Some people say that a child is born with a blank sheet of paper, and it all depends on how the family draws on the paper.
If you start steadily, have a reasonable layout, and extend the painting along the starting point, the painting will become more and more beautiful, and the child will develop into an excellent figure.
However, if you make a mistake in drawing, you have to deal with these bad places before you can draw again. This process is very difficult.
Therefore, as parents, you need to invest a lot of energy when your children are young.
The younger the child, the stronger the plasticity. If you give him a good education, the better he will be when he grows up.
Therefore, we must seize the plasticity of children at this stage as early as possible and focus on cultivating children.
As the saying goes, three years old will make you look older, and seven years old will make you look older.
Before children enter primary school, it is the golden stage of character development. We must focus on cultivating children's character.
Before a child is one year old, it is an important stage for the formation of a sense of security. Parents should make their children feel that they are safe.
When a child is one to three years old, the child slowly learns to walk, talk, and be whimsical, etc. from knowing nothing.
Children at this stage learn things very quickly, so parents should pay attention to accompanying their children, give him correct guidance, and set simple rules for him.
Remember, you should not think that your child has been pampered or indulged in his wrong behavior since he was young.
Parents who do this will only make their children become self-centered and have no rules when they grow up.
At the age of three to six, children are going to kindergarten and have developed a thirst for knowledge about the things around them. Parents should create an opportunity for their children to freely develop their nature.
Parents should focus on cultivating their children's ability to understand things independently and their thinking ability, and cultivate their children's interests and hobbies.
In addition, parents should teach their children to actively contact other children and actively communicate with them.
The younger the child, the stronger the plasticity. Parents need to exercise more control so that the child can understand the rules, be polite, and be able to communicate with others.
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I don’t care about my children in the early days
I can’t control them anymore in the late
I once heard a relative complain to me that my son has already entered junior high school, but he is still so playful and willful, and he becomes impatient when I ask him to study.
As a mother, she was really worried about her son. Once she had a conflict with her son over his grades.
Her son ran away from home because of this, and it took her a long time to find him.
Later, she became even more afraid to discipline her son, so he became more and more rebellious.
The relative said regretfully: "It's all my fault. I didn't discipline him well when he was a child and let him behave wildly, so he has become so rebellious now."
In fact, there are many parents like my relatives in life.
When the child was young, he always doted on him. Even though he knew that he had made a mistake, he still had to indulge him.
Little do they know that their bottomless protection of the calf will eventually make their children become more and more unruly and arrogant.
Last year, there was a piece of news that shocked me.
Four teenagers under the age of 17 jointly killed their 16-year-old classmate. After that, they were sentenced to fixed-term imprisonment and life imprisonment .
After hearing the verdict, the four teenagers actually smiled at each other in court, thankful that they had escaped the death penalty.
What is surprising is that their motive for committing the crime is as simple as - they have no money to go to an Internet cafe!
When the parents of the four teenagers saw the photos of the victim, they cried bitterly. One father said:
"You don't know, I don't care about this child. I have beaten him and scolded him, but I He doesn’t listen to me!”
Why do children disobey their parents?
The reason is very simple, that is, parents do not provide correct education to their children as early as possible.
Professor of the People's Public Security University of China Li Meijin said: "Character is developed before the age of 6. If some problems are not solved, parents will not be able to control them later."
Therefore, parents must not take the idea of "trees are naturally straight". This is what I used to say to comfort myself.
Don’t think that you should leave your child alone because he is so young. Children will naturally become sensible when they grow up.
12 years old, you did not properly discipline him, wait until 14 years old to strictly control him, it is of no use at all.
Children's problems are often caused by adults. Children's rebellion is related to their parents' education methods.
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Children must be strictly controlled
in order to have a future
"Strict control" is love, and "indulgence" is harm.
I hope everyone can be a "cruel" person when it comes to educating their children, and don't always indulge their children because they feel sorry for them.
As the saying goes, "If there are no rules, there will be no rules."
There are many things in this world that need to be followed by rules, but many children don't care about them because these children are spoiled by their parents and are unscrupulous.
Some parents always laugh at their children's disregard for rules and undisciplined behavior, which ultimately results in these children being very undisciplined and difficult to discipline.
Therefore, when parents discipline their children, they must cultivate their sense of rules and not let them ignore the rules.
Parents should let their children understand that only if they respect the rules will the rules respect them and protect them.
There is a saying in "War and Peace": You won't grow up when no one says no to you.
In life, many parents turn a blind eye to their children's "bear" behavior, and even think it is normal.
In July last year, a woman was beaten in front of the Fan Diego Theater in Shanghai Disneyland.
The cause of the incident was that a woman was playing and was unexpectedly touched by an 8-year-old child on her buttocks.
She said something angrily to the boy. When his mother saw it, she ran over to the woman and said angrily, "You are so ugly, what will happen if my son touches you?"
Then she not only attacked the woman with words, but also Her fellow travelers beat her up.
No reasonable parent will continue to protect their child after seeing him make a mistake. It is obvious that this mother is not a qualified mother.
Usually she must not have taught her children what rules, respect, and education are, because even she herself has not done this.
agrees very much with the saying that children are copies of their parents. If there is a problem with the copy, find the reason from the original!
All problems of children are actually problems of their parents. In the process of educating children, parents actually need to grow up the most.
As a parent, you must know that you need to discipline your children as early as possible. Don't let your indifference and lack of discipline ruin your children's future.
As a parent, if you have any other good opinions, please discuss them in the comment area!
