Regarding maternal love, Cheng Shaoshang said that because he has never had it, he will not feel sad about losing it.
Since her parents were absent from her childhood, Cheng Shaoshang became a left-behind child. Not only did she lack the love of her father and mother, her aunt also wanted to turn her into a useless person, and she was repeatedly bullied.
15 years later, his parents returned from the battlefield, but his mother's strength and superficial indifference did not allow Cheng Shaoshang to feel even half of his mother's love.
The mother is too strong and cannot see the good in her child.
Cheng Shaoshang is a fragile little girl. She is looking forward to her parentsâ return, thinking that her mother will stand up for her. However, she does not expect that her motherâs strength makes her suffocated, and her grievance days have not improved. .
Xiao Yuanyi is a man who leads troops in wars. He has a tough style and looks like a woman who is not easy to mess with.
could treat a daughter whom he had not seen for 15 years, not with love, but with strict discipline, without a soft word.
said that this is not good and that is not good. What a child needs most is love. Treating raising children as a military training-style education makes people feel wronged. The maternal love that has been waiting for 15 years should not be like this.
In addition to being strong, Xiao Yuanyi also does not understand her daughter's heart. She only judges her daughter from the things she knows (such as pretending to be faint, pretending to be sick, and eavesdropping), thinking that she is vulgar and ignorant and does not study seriously.
html She didnât participate in her daughterâs growth in 2015. As soon as she came back, she forcefully arranged what to do for Niao Niao. Xiao Yuanyi used â repressive education â that was not conducive to the childâs growth, but what Niao Niao needed was recognition.
Xiao Yuanyi's strength lies in the fact that she has determined that Cheng Shaoshang is ignorant. Anyone who goes against her own choice will be opposed by her without exception.
In real life, strong mothers often make their children weak and have low self-esteem.
In the celebrity circle, Zhu Yuchen's mother is very strong. Every relationship broke up due to her mother's interference, resulting in him being single now in his 40s.
In 2018, Zhu Yuchen burst into tears on the program " My Boy ".
He said he didn't understand why no woman was willing to stay by his side.
As we all know, Zhu Yuchen had two unforgettable relationships, one with Tang Wei and the other with Jiang Yan, but they ended up in vain under the strong interference of Zhu Yuchen's mother.
Itâs not that no girls like Zhu Yuchen, but they are all afraid of his mother.
What she cares about is not what you think, what she cares about is her own authority. As long as you don't follow her ideas, you must be wrong. No matter how many times you refuse, she will still force it on you in the name of love.
The self-righteous love of parents has become the sharpest knife that hurts their children.
If you have something to say, talk it over
Cheng Shaoshang and Lou Yao communicated with each other and made a marriage contract, but Xiao Yuanyi opposed their marriage.
Xiao Yuanyi's objection was originally for the sake of Cheng Shaoshang. She saw that the two were not suitable for each other. Lou Yao was simple and honest and not strong-tempered enough. He would not be able to protect her daughter if something happened. She was also worried that she would be bullied if she wandered over to her husband's house.
Xiao Yuanyi still takes a more rational and long-term view on this marriage, unlike Cheng Shi, who thinks that as long as he is good to his daughter and the daughter likes her, it will be fine.
Therefore, Xiao Yuanyi evaluates Lou Yao based on whether her daughter can get a happy marriage.
In prosperous times, Lou Yao could indeed do it, but in troubled times, he would definitely not be able to protect Cheng Shaoshang. The clan looked down on soldiers. Lou Yao had no father or brother, and all the women in the house were clan wives. Entering the young merchant was like walking into a tiger's mouth.
Xiao Yuanyi's objection was right, but her attitude was too problematic. She even forgot that her daughter was already an adult. She accused Cheng Shaoshang in front of everyone, making the already estranged relationship between mother and daughter even more precarious.
The starting point was good, but Xiao Yuanyi's strong approach turned into a kind of control and oppression, and she constantly compared Niao Niao and Si Si, which really hurt her daughter's heart.
If you have something to say, you should talk it over carefully, especially between close relatives, otherwise it will be easy to hurt feelings, and heartbreak is the hardest to heal.
Xiao Yuanyi's strong maternal love did not allow Cheng Shaoshang to explain, refused to communicate effectively, and directly denied it. No wonder Niao Niao asked, "Are you dissatisfied with the marriage or yourself?"
It really hurts my heart to see Cheng Shaoshang and his mother getting along less and less harmoniously, because Xiao Yuanyi made a mistake that many mothers make, that is, the closer she is to the people she is, the less likely she is to speak.
What Xiao Yuanyi was thinking in her heart was obviously that she was blocking the marriage because of the complicated relationship between the second and second bedrooms of the Lou family, but her opening her mouth became a knife that hurt Cheng Shaoshang, making Shaoshang, who wanted to get close to Xiao Yuanyi after experiencing life and death, once again mistakenly think that her mother was looking at her Not on yourself.
They are really a tangled mother and daughter. They each have their own reasons, but they just can't get along well together.
Why Xiao Yuanyi just can't understand. For Cheng Shaoshang, forced submission is not love. What she wants is care!
written at the end
"Mom, I won a prize!"
"Is it a scholarship? Where did you rank in the exam? Do you have the energy to study?"
"I don't need you to do this, I just need you to be obedient and filial. Parents, why can't you be like other people's children? "
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How many mothers always say: I don't want you to do what you want, I want you to accomplish what I want.
How many children have chosen to compromise despite being hit again and again.
Xiao Yuanyi's strong love for her daughter brought a lot of harm to Cheng Shaoshang. Not only could he not feel the maternal love he had missed since childhood, but he also had to bear more despair. This kind of growth is so heartbreaking.
Xiao Yuanyi's strength pushed her daughter further and further away. Cheng Shaoshang did a lot of things wrong, but mother and daughter are not enemies. Only by communicating calmly can good results be achieved.
I hope Xiao Yuanyi can see the excellent side of Cheng Shaoshang, stop suppressing her in everything, and give her some praise and recognition.
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