In a parent forum, we were discussing with a mother how to help her child socialize better and feel the feelings of others. At this time, she told us something: One day, she and her children were out and passing by a shop. A tile fell from the wall and fell just in front of them. A small fragment bounced back and injured them. Mom's feet. At the moment, the mother was holding back the pain, but her child was already beside her, stunned with fear. At this time, the mother said to the child: Don't come over, mom is fine. Then I kept heading towards the store to complain. When I got home at night, the child was still scared...
I told the mother that if it were me, I would say directly to the child: Are you a little scared? A piece of tile just fell and hit my mother's foot. Now my mother's foot is very painful. After my mother rests for a while, she will be fine. Let's solve this problem together and see why something falls?
I think that this way of handling things can make children more calm and calm.
We always try to find ways to bear everything for our children, even all emotions. However, without giving the child the opportunity to be independent, the child cannot experience the true feelings. How can he feel the feelings of others well?
I remember one day when I returned home after the symposium, I felt depressed because we dismissed a student, and I still felt a lot of reluctance and reluctance. When it was time to soak his feet, Zhao Xiaozhu avoided me everywhere and wouldn't let me hold him to soak his feet. He also deliberately said things to anger me: You can't catch me, you can't catch me...
At this time, I felt resentful in my heart. There was also anger, but I suppressed it in time and did not vent it out. I calmed down and said to Zhao Xiaozhu: I am very sad today. My mouth has bubbles and it hurts. I really don’t want to waste time with you like this.
Unexpectedly, Zhao Xiaozhu calmed down obediently and was willing to cooperate with the foot washing. After soaking his feet, he said: Mom, where are your bubbles? I showed her the ulcer inside my mouth. At this time, Zhao Xiaozhu thought for a while and answered me thoughtfully: Mom, when I was a child, my hand was splashed with oil, and I also had a bubble, which was very painful...
I suddenly felt very surprised. , I didn’t expect that the three-year-old him could still remember him from a year ago, and I didn’t expect that his empathy ability was so strong.
Zhao Xiaozhu can often feel my feelings. In fact, a large part of the reason is that I often express my true feelings in front of him. Children are eager to connect with their mothers, and it is very important for children that mothers can actively input real emotional experiences to their children. This allows children to process and compare their own feelings with those of others, etc. , and finally resonate and successfully socialize.
So, moms, don’t hide your inner feelings too much, learn to express them, and you will gain a sweet boy who can feel the feelings of others.
