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I went to volunteer in a nursing home some time ago. The experience of an 80-year-old man deeply touched me.
This 80-year-old man is in good health, but he has problems with the joints in his arms and cannot lift them. He has some problems cooking and washing by himself. His two sons have just sent him to a nursing home.
When chatting with the old man, the old man spoke out all his grievances and even burst into tears in the end. She cried and said: "In my old age, I am still as reliable as the third child. It is difficult to count on children. In order to buy a house for my son to get married, my wife and I spent all our savings and even sold our old house.
My wife and I live together with our son and daughter-in-law. My wife works part-time, and I look after the children and do housework at home. Our pension and the money we earned all went to my son's house. Later, my wife passed away, and I continued to take care of the children and do housework at my son's house. .
Unexpectedly, my son and daughter-in-law sent me to a nursing home when I had some health problems and couldn't work. They never visited me for a while and thought that I would fend for myself if I had a house. How can you end up in this situation if you have money and good health? You still have to have your own third child in your old age. The 80-year-old man in the nursing home complained that it is difficult to rely on the third child in his old age.
One example: an old house is not as good as a kennel. Many parents sold their old houses when they were young, leaving no way for them to survive when they were rejected by their children. There is no way out, and the end is often miserable. Therefore, no matter what, the old man must keep his old house. If his children need to live together and take care of the children, then live with them temporarily
until the children no longer need him. , consciously quit the lives of their children, return to their own homes, and live a peaceful life for a few years. The old house is not only a place for them to settle down, but also a spiritual comfort and the greatest safe haven in their old age. Don’t panic when you have enough food. The older you get, the more you realize the importance of having savings in your hands. Not only can you feel at ease when you have money in your hands, but it can also buy your children’s filial piety to a certain extent.
Having savings in your hands can help you. You don’t have to look at your children’s faces and live with confidence. At the same time, when you are sick or have big expenses, you don’t burden your children or drag down their family. In this case, your children can also be more filial to everyone’s life. All are guaranteed.
Therefore, as a parent, you have to know whether your children have it or not, but what you have is what you really have.
Especially when you are old, having money in your hands will greatly improve your quality of life. Three of three: Body
Having money and a house is useless without a healthy body. Therefore, a healthy body is the foundation for a happy life in your later years. With good health, you can enjoy a rich and colorful later life and live a more fulfilling life. Make it more meaningful and increase the length and depth of your life. The most important thing is not to be a drag on the children at all, and there is no need to trap them around you. A healthy and long life is the greatest blessing in old age.
[Topic discussion: What do you think is the most important thing in your later years? 】
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