In the TV series "Hurry of Youth", Zhao Zuozuo's mother, Teacher Jin, passed away, and she also had conflicts with her mother-in-law over childcare. To be honest, Zhao Zuozuo is too naive in marriage and will suffer a loss sooner or later. Today, let’s talk about Zhao Zuozuo’s in

TV series " Hurrying Youth ", Zhao Zuozuo's mother, Teacher Jin, passed away, and she also had conflicts with her mother-in-law over childcare. To be honest, Zhao Zuozuo is too naive in marriage and will suffer a loss sooner or later. Today, let’s talk about Zhao Zuozuo’s innocence.

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Zhao Zuozuo complained to her friends that she felt that conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law broke out after her parents left. In fact, it was her mother who shielded her from the conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law at first. Her mother-in-law was never an easy person to get along with.

She gave birth to the child prematurely and was so weak lying in bed. Her mother-in-law was thinking about the child, not her. Her mother-in-law forced her to drink soup so that her child could have milk. At that time, it was her mother who helped her dump it. Later, my mother-in-law and mother lived together. Although her mother is overbearing, she does many things for her good and is afraid that she will suffer.

Because the mother is here, all the conflicts are not conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but transformed into conflicts between mother and mother-in-law. The most obvious issue is the child's household registration. The two families had a conflict over whether their surname should be Zhao or Jiang.

Because Zhao Zuozuo and Jiang Xiaoyu got married without a house, her mother was afraid that Zhao Zuozuo would suffer hardship, so she wanted to put some pressure on Jiang Xiaoyu to buy a house as soon as possible, even with a loan. However, before the house was bought, Zhao Zuozuo became pregnant. The mother gave the child a surname of Zhao, which put pressure on Jiang Xiaoyu. After you get a house, you can redeem your surname. Moreover, she secretly registered her child’s household registration without telling her daughter.

Perhaps, in the eyes of many people, what she did was wrong, or even crossed the line. Even her own daughter Zhao Zuozuo didn't understand, but she did do it for her daughter's good. This was a sharp conflict between mother and daughter. Zhao Zuozuo first asked her husband to run away from home, but in the end he was injured and ran away with his children. After she came back, her mother left and promised to change her surname. She won this round, and she turned towards her husband's family. However, her mother-in-law didn't understand her kindness.

In my mother-in-law’s heart, it was only natural for her to do this. Because she was the one who was married, so she should be devoted to her son. I have to say that Zuo Zuo is too naive and thinks of marriage too simply.

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Zhao Zuozuo and Jiang Xiaoyu got married in a hurry. They never met their parents, and they married without knowing each other's family. Moreover, she didn't want a car or a house, so her mother felt that she was being unfair. Even when her mother offered to buy a house, she teamed up with Jiang Xiaoyu to deceive her mother.

In her opinion, as long as she is with the person she loves, renting a house is okay. However, as a mother who has experienced this, she knows that without a house, there is no security. She can only live a homeless life with Jiang Xiaoyu. And she doesn't want anything. If the other party gets her easily, he won't cherish it. She has not experienced severe beatings from society and does not understand that there are good and evil in people's hearts.

Therefore, as a mother, Teacher Jin has been putting pressure on the other party. In a way, this pressure is a kind of support. However, Zhao Zuozuo would not understand. She is still too young, believes in love too much, and has not experienced the troubles in marriage. Therefore, she does not understand her mother's hard work.

Zhao Zuozuo’s marriage was, to a certain extent, both a down-marrying and a backward move. Her mother’s worries were not unreasonable. In the opinion of Jiang Xiaoyu's mother, it was not how good she was, but her son who was so good that she did this.

The love that Zhao Zuozuo thought was that she and Jiang Xiaoyu were together and living their own little lives. However, marriage is never about marrying a man who loves you, and his family, as well as his family, cannot be ignored.

If you marry yourself without knowing the other person’s family and asking for nothing, the other person will think you are cheap, and sooner or later you will suffer in this marriage. This is human nature. No matter how much a girl loves someone, she should never turn her back on him.

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The conflict between Zhao Zuozuo and his mother-in-law seems to be a parenting issue. However, you will find that your mother-in-law does not respect her at all. She was chatting in the group, and her mother-in-law took her mobile phone and deleted her chat history.

When the child cries, she doesn't want to comfort her, but her mother-in-law wants her to comfort her. Her mother-in-law objected to her putting cosmetics on her children, and she was used to her mother-in-law wiping her children's faces with spit. These seem to be differences between the two generations, but they cannot be resolved through communication at all.Zhao Zuozuo feels that his mother is strong, but in fact, her mother-in-law is even stronger.

Both women were waiting for Jiang Xiaoyu to come back to solve the problem, but Jiang Xiaoyu only knew how to make peace. Zhao Zuozuo expressed dissatisfaction, and her mother-in-law felt that she could not accuse her husband like that. Only then did she realize that her husband and mother-in-law were one family, and she was the extra person.

She couldn't get along with her mother-in-law under the same roof. She thought of a way to avoid her mother-in-law, which was to go out to work. At this time, her husband and mother-in-law joined forces to oppose her, and she couldn't even find anyone to help her.

Zhao Zuozuo’s biggest problem with her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that when someone supports her, she stands on the opposite side of her mother. Now, the person she loves is of the same mind as her mother, and she can only express her sorrow.

Marriage is different from love. She is less naive and more cruel. A little less sincere and a little more calculating. Girls should not have no requirements for marriage, but only if they have requirements will they live a good life.

Today’s discussion: What do you think of Zhao Zuozuo?