When talking about taking care of children, many people think of their mothers. When children make mistakes, they turn to their mothers. However, fathers rarely take care of their children. Some fathers even don’t know how to take care of their children at all.
There is a very funny joke on the Internet. A father went to pick up his child at the school gate. He waited left and right but could not see the child come out. In the same way, his child was also waiting for the father to pick him up at the school gate, but everyone Even though they were gone, he still didn't wait for his father to come.
For this reason, both of them called their mother. It turned out that the child was already in junior high school, and the child's father stupidly went to the door of primary school to wait for the child.
Although this is a joke, it does happen around us. Because the role of "father" is rarely involved in family education . They have always been "busy". Even if they rest at home on weekends, they rarely communicate with their children, let alone expect their children to tell them anything. .
Regarding dad, many people say "Father's love is like a mountain", but this mountain is not a mountain that protects children, but a motionless mountain, a mountain that even Foolish Old Man cannot move.
Let’s see how mothers complain about this “mountain”.
A: When my husband comes home from get off work, it’s hard to get him to sit on the sofa. He always shirks away from asking him to do something. He won’t even let the kids go downstairs to play.
B: My husband leaves the whole family to me. Whenever he encounters a problem, he asks me to find a solution. I have never gone out to play with my child once, and the child does not like this father at all.
C: My husband can’t be called at home. The only advantage is that he is happy to let us go wherever we go to play, but don’t ask him to play with us. He will just sit in a corner and wait for us.
D: The child’s father doesn’t know what’s going on. He gets lazy whenever it’s the weekend and seems to be glued to the sofa. I asked him to go out for a walk, but he wasn’t happy and said it was hard to rest. He even asked me to take the child out for a day. Eat well and drink well, don't worry about him.
It seems that there are many "big mountain" fathers, and mothers are helpless towards their fathers. But in fact, mothers understand in their hearts that fathers work really hard, and it is right to want to have a good rest when they get home. In addition, the children are very noisy, and it is natural for fathers not to like taking care of children.
However, fathers must understand that the child does not belong to the mother alone, but to both husband and wife. No matter how tiring the work is, it cannot be used as a showcase. This is not good for the growth of the child, and may even cause the child to misunderstand the term dad.
Of course, there are many fathers who are qualified. They work hard outside and are extremely gentle to their wives and children when they return home, making the family more harmonious and the children more promising in the future.
Some studies have shown that children who get enough company from their fathers when they are young will feel more secure when they grow up, and they will also be more generous and confident in dealing with others.
This type of father usually has the following four characteristics:
. Likes to play with children
I have a friend who is usually very busy at work, but no matter how busy he is, he will come home every day. When he comes home, he does not lie down and rest, but When watching TV or chatting with children, sometimes the mother cannot integrate into them.
In fact, for children, if their father is willing to play with them, they will not go to their mother again, because having their father's company will make the children feel more secure and successful, and father's company is different from mother's company. , Dad is better than Mom in sports and adventures, and the children like these aspects.
. Will encourage children
When a grumpy father sees his child being naughty, he will just beat him up. When he sees his child playing with his mobile phone, he will just throw the mobile phone away.
In fact, these practices only suppress the problem on the surface without substantively solving the problem. On the contrary, it is easy to leave a shadow on the children, who will be easy to imitate when they grow up and become parents in the future.
However, smart fathers do not do this. They encourage their children more, listen to their children's ideas, express their own opinions, and seriously consider issues from their children's perspective.
Children need understanding and encouragement. Although children are sometimes disobedient, this is also their nature. Fathers themselves are also children. It is better to be more patient and encourage, so that children can be motivated.
. Lead by example
An excellent father will not just use his words, but let his children see the essential education from himself.
Abti's husband is like a big "mountain". When she sees me doing housework, she will say "Mom is very hard" and ask her children to help, but she has never come to help. If I ask him to do things, he will In turn, they will accuse their children of being too lazy.
Therefore, the child is also quite disappointed with his father.
On the contrary, fathers who know how to lead by example will talk less and do more, always move in front of their children, and use actions to tell their children what initiative and diligence are.
A father like this is a good role model for his children, who will help his children understand many great principles in practice and worship their father even more.
. Love to joke
There is a father who loves to joke and is very good at pleasing his children. My cousin is such a father. His children pester him every day to tell stories and jokes, and sometimes they even learn some jokes. Performing in front of us adults.
The child has a very cheerful personality and never complains about his father. He even likes his father more than his mother.
A humorous father will "infect" happiness to his children. The children will be optimistic and cheerful, and the family atmosphere will be warm. However, if the children are withdrawn and difficult to manage, the family will be in chaos every day.
Harvard University A 2003 study found that girls who lack father's love are prone to learn mathematics poorly; boys who lack father's love are prone to emotional disorders!
Finally
Father taking care of the baby will bring the child an experience that the mother cannot give, and father taking care of the baby can also alleviate the problem. Mother's burden makes the relationship between husband and wife better. Therefore, fathers are invited to participate in child care and let their children experience the joy brought by mother and father together!
Text: Abti said parenting
