French writer Victor Hugo said: "The happiest thing in life is to believe that you are loved."
previously posted a headline about the current situation of college students, which resonated with many parents.
What’s worse is the disgust and complaints about the children. How unwilling we are, how disappointed we are. We feel that the children have no meaning to us.
In fact, it is not. Today I would like to reiterate how important our children are to us. It’s just that there is a problem with our own education and we cannot blame the children.
Therefore, we still need to give our children enough love and attention so that they can correct them but not give up.
Read the story of the famous American psychologist Arthur Cholamicali in his book "The Power of Empathy" co-authored with Katherine Cosey!
tells the story of his younger brother David, who was wanted for drug abuse and fled to another place when he was desperate. He failed to get out of his emotional low in time and chose to commit suicide.
After he nearly collapsed, he reflected poignantly: "David rarely told me that he loved me - was that a clue I should have picked up on? Instead, when my brother needed me the most, when he needed to hear When it came time to say 'I love you too', I froze...I was in a state of anger and distrust, because I had heard too many promises from him before that didn't count, because David's drug addiction had His life and mine were all messed up because I was too tired of this constant grief to say the words he needed most.
I couldn't bring myself to say it to him. :'I love you too.'...Why did David give up? I'm sure David lost hope because he felt disconnected from all the people he loved...
He thought all of his relationships were broken. Cut off and unrecoverable, it was like a person without oxygen and unable to breathe.
David began to slowly die long before he committed suicide. All his attempts came to a dead end, and all his cries for help. He was not heard or responded to.
He was driven into a corner by drug addiction and felt deeply ashamed, afraid, guilty and sad. He felt that there was really no way out. "
I was deeply touched after reading this story. I thought of changing the way I talk to and get along with my children.
Although you feel that there are problems in your relationship with your child and feel disappointed, you must make your child believe that he is loved by you at the same time.
People get along more harmoniously because they tolerate and tolerate each other, and the same is true between mothers and children.
Think more about the happiness you have gained from your children. Growth is accompanied by each other, and growth along the way is bumpy and stumbling. Even though she has many flaws, you still love her.
Because if he cannot feel our love, he will not be able to feel more love. With love, it will become the light that illuminates his life and guide him on his way forward. Don't wait until you lose it before you regret it.
Children will always be children around us. When they are outside, they will pretend to be adults and then slowly grow into adults.
So suddenly you will feel that other problems have become insignificant. They are all hardships on the road to growth and are the only way to go!
Let us grow up with our children Empathy , I believe that children will shine, all we have to do is believe and love!
