#summergrowthplan#Article: The 43rd original article Word count: 1439 words Someone said: "In this world, there is only one behavior that truly loves a child, and that is to be responsible for his long-term life and give him a healthy and normal soul. , let him have the ability t

Someone said: "In this world, there is only one act that truly loves a child, and that is to be responsible for his long-term life, to give him a healthy and normal soul, and to let him have the ability to be independent in the world, instead of giving money and things. "

Our friend's child is in the fourth grade of elementary school, but his husband gives his child little genius phone watch as pocket money, which is equivalent to a child's pocket money of up to 120 yuan a month. many.

The children did not use the money to buy learning-related materials.

Either the child paid for a small game on his mobile phone for no reason and spent the money, or he bought a lot of cards related to " Douluo Dalu ", or he bought a bunch of colorful notebooks and books. Pen.

Because her husband likes to give pocket money very much and the child has no self-control, he has more than 100 gel pens alone. There are seven or eight pencil cases.

The child's school bag and study table are very messy. Her mother cleans them every day, but the child yells and refuses to clean them, saying that her mother packs things too neatly and cannot find what she needs.

Every time he packs his school bag and cleans his desk, it is a hysterical parent-child war. Every time, it ends with the child crying and making a fuss. When his husband sees that the child refuses to do so, he also stops the mother from doing it. If he thinks it is messy, just make it messy. When children grow up, they will become sensible and know how to be neat.

But this child's bad habits have become more and more serious since the first grade of elementary school. His schoolbag and desk have become even more chaotic. Where has there been any change?

The mother of the child is very worried about this. The words "poor students have too much stationery" and "poor students have messy schoolbags" are absolutely true.

Without good living habits and study habits, children will have a chaotic learning environment, chaotic thinking, and lack of concentration. Will the children learn well? When they grow up, they will not have good habits in order to do things, which will not help personal growth. .

Organizing a child’s desk and school bag is a psychological act projected onto the child.

Desks and school bags must be neat and tidy. Parents should not take it seriously. Don't underestimate this environment, which plays a subtle role in children's behavior.

A messy room emits bad energy and atmosphere, while a clean and tidy desk emits pleasant and beautiful atmosphere and energy, and those who receive these are the children who need to sit at the desk to study every day. These things play a role in children over time.

I have been to her home several times, and her children are very messy with their school supplies.

likes to tear up a piece of paper to write on when doing homework. Every piece of paper is full of writing, and all the notebooks are torn up by the children and become a mess. It is really a bad habit for children to tear up their notebooks.

Without good habits, how can we learn well? The mother communicated with the child's father many times, hoping not to give the child too much pocket money and correct the child's bad habit of tearing up notebooks.

But the child’s father still goes his own way, and said that some of his classmates’ parents have as much as 400 yuan, and giving him 30 yuan a week is nothing. I even despise how little he gives to his child.

The father of the child is still complacent about this stupid behavior. He thinks he is a good father who loves his children. Little does he know that this kind of behavior wrapped in love will harm the child.

Children who have too much pocket money will buy things they like without restraint, but they don’t know how to cherish the things they buy. They can do whatever they want, use them when they want, and throw them into the trash can when they don’t want to use them. , so feelingless.

Every time a mother sees her child crumpling up a notebook and throwing it into the trash can, her heart breaks into pieces and she feels like her heart has been stabbed hard by something.

What makes mothers feel distressed is not that the items are thrown away, nor is it the money spent to buy these items, but that these behaviors have a negative side to the growth of their children.

If this continues, children will form wrong perceptions, lose motivation to work hard, and have no good habits of managing items.

Because she gets an item so easily and doesn't know how to care for it.

Therefore, giving children a correct and reasonable amount of pocket money and guiding children's consumption concepts will not only affect the child's behavior, conversation, pattern, vision, and thinking, but may even affect the child's life.

The layout of children's independent desks must be neat and tidy. Parents should not take it seriously. Don't underestimate this environment, which plays a subtle role in children's behavior.

A messy room emits bad energy and atmosphere, while a clean and tidy desk emits pleasant and beautiful atmosphere and energy.

But those who accept this are children who need to sit at a desk and study every day. These things play a role in children over time.