text | Wen'er
"If you want to have a daughter, dress her up beautifully, take her out to be envied by others, and trick others into having a daughter."
This is the voice of many mothers who want to have a daughter. A daughter can make her mother My love for beauty is overflowing again. The beautiful clothes I didn’t wear when I was a child can be realized on my daughter. After I have a daughter, I can dress her up well.
However, when some mothers dress their daughters, they seem to only care about their own selfishness and completely ignore whether their daughters' actual age is suitable for that kind of dress.
I saw a post from a mother a few days ago. Her five or six-year-old daughter was dressed fashionably and went to the supermarket with her father. She wrote that her daughter was indeed born to her father. It was originally a very heartwarming picture. But I think most mothers will feel strong discomfort after watching it.
Because this little girl’s clothes are too adult, very mature and sexy, as if these adult clothes are put on children, and there is no trace of innocence in this girl. Sure enough, there was not much praise and support under this mother's post, but they were all worried about the impact of her mother's dressing like this on girls. The little girl dresses like an adult, and the mother takes photos to show off, causing controversy. Netizens: It hurts the daughter without knowing it.
Dressing up girls too maturely too early is not conducive to the children's future aesthetic cultivation.
If you take pictures, it doesn't matter if you wear them once in a while. But in daily life, parents think that wearing this way is fashionable, but in fact they are imposing their own aesthetics on their children. Letting children dress maturely early, and making various activities and games inconvenient, greatly restricts the child's nature, causing the child to lose the innocence and childishness it deserves, and become an adult prematurely. Childhood is very precious. It passes in just a few years. After childhood, most of us are adults. Innocence and innocence are so precious.
At the same time, children's aesthetics may gradually go astray in a subtle way, and they will become more and more open-minded about dressing. Not only will their dressing aesthetics go astray, but their minds will also mature prematurely. In the future growth process, especially during the schooling stage, putting energy and attention on things other than studying will not only lose competitiveness in study, but also make it easy for girls to fall in love prematurely, mix in society, etc., which will easily lead to a girl's life going down the wrong path. Detours, thus delaying a lifetime.
may cause more harm to girls.
If you have a daughter, you should educate her to protect yourself from an early age. Don’t use your own child to challenge human nature, and don’t think that it is your own child. How you want to dress is yours. Freedom, you have to know that there are still many worms living in the darkness in this world, and they are always ready to wait for the opportunity to become a perpetrator.
A gentleman does not stand under a dangerous wall. We hope that the entire society can provide a safe and secure environment for children to grow up. But there is always darkness in society. Neither society nor parents can protect her anytime and anywhere. Bad people will not bully her just because she is a child. What parents can do is to help their daughters avoid bad remarks and harm.
At any age, you should dress appropriately for your age. Dressing up too maturely is not good for girls.
[Topic discussion: Would you wear overly mature clothes for your daughter? 】
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